Thank you. It doesn’t, you’re right. I asked him a million times if there was someone else – I’m fine with ending things gracefully if that’s the case. He says no.
The place that we think the calls came from is a place of business, not related to work. There’s too many coincidences there, including them asking me several times who he was to me and I should get a “real boyfriend”. I would just feel so gutted if I had to throw a fun thing away because of… prank calls?
If someone is a victim of cheating, they're a victim of cheating.
When someone makes the decision to cheat, they and they alone are responsible for their actions. No one is forcing them to make that choice and other choices are always available.
If you read the post you would know thats exactly what im asking advice for but you just make a snap judgment and want to be a condinsending asshole, i am a dumb motherfucker who can piss my wife off by saying the wrong thing sometimes. This is a delicate issue with her as she has a habit of calling herself a bad mom. And i wanted to get some advice from some other parents anonymously so i dont make her feel bad in any way. But let me ask you are you married with kids?
Cheaters and affair partners always have this “It wasn't just cheap sex, it was everything”. Because in their mind they are different. Like “Yes, he had sex with multiple women but I was different, it was the most intense and passionate thing I have evet felt, he reached all the perfect points and after we talked until sunrise! See, I was different for him.” This is the most common stunt cheaters pull on their affair partners. You weren't special for him, he probably had more fun with other women. Your feelings are not important, this isn't about you, it is about that poor fiance.
His mother thinks he has autism and said it a lot to him when he was younger. I tried to talk with him about it, but he did not want to because it brought back memories from his mother saying that i think. To be honest my housemate also though he had autism when we just met him, i also thought that. We never said it to him, because we did not mind and it i not our place to tell (we are not docters). I never told him we both though that.
Then after 2 years he told me his mother says it sometimes when we were talking about your childhood.
However he himself does not think he has autism, he also does not want to be tested
I agree that communication is will always be important in any kind of relationship. My friend argues that most humans ‘just aren’t wired’ for non-monogamy. I hold the view that it’s more of a social pressure kind of thing.
Thanks for your input, it really helps. We’ve actually talked about what you brought up. He thinks it’s unfair of me to compare them to real family because they’re not (also some cultural differences there over the value of family). And he’s said that they act like Americans so he understands why I bonded with them but then told me to trust him that “those types” of Koreans that act like Americans are “weird guys”. Lol?
I really appreciate your input! Thank you for illuminating for me that ultimately it’s my decision how much I want to change/embrace Korean culture for him.?
I understand why he is mad but driving out of state…yeah yeah nah… definitely not an option, i mean in sorry but I would understand going to the dentist or groceries or the like but driving out of state that's a no no for me
Leaving her is the best option for you. She does nit appreciate your efforts.
If she tries to convince youbit was only alcohol speaking, tell her she was acting indifferent towards even when she was sober (Btw how does you usually act towards you).
While I think staying with her would be a mistake, if she pleads you to stay you can consider it under certain circumstances. Those being her putting more effort in your relationship, making you feel fully appreciated, especially now, but she needs to keep it up later as well. She should treat as good as you treat her.
Now she would need to overcompensate for her recent behaviour.
Of course, simple break up is still better choice.
You have been together for a year… You are barely ready to live together let alone get married. I personally think the best way to go about it is to date a couple of years and then you would also need to live together for a few to see if you can cohabitate.
Marriage is a serious life commitment and it's not something that should be taken lightly imo.
Agreed definitely fake. With anti-trans bills popping up left and right someone thinks they’re funny by trying to spin a this could happen to all the poor cis men if we don’t implement these laws.
Your mom wants to have dinner once a week and your girlfriend thinks that is too much? She sounds controlling and jealous of your mother, which is just odd. ONLY WANTS YOU TO SEE YOUR MOM ON HOLIDAYS AND HER BIRTHDAY? Stop. Just stop. Your GF has issues, and you shouldn't stick around to see the entirety of them. Don't let a crazy girlfriend ruin a healthy relationship with your mother.
Addiction is a possibility, as I already mentioned. Still, I would suggest you endure for a little bit, because if it is pathological and you break it off, she'll likely destroy her life and end up a prostitute at best.
She called him before she called you back. I can guarantee that's what happened. I've seen this a few times. She got off the phone with you FREAKING OUT, called him, they talked, he reassured her you don't know shit, etc. When your gut is yelling, listen.
Oh, wow. Can your condition be that he explain the reasons for his condition, and outline for you (in broad strokes) the choices he plans to make?
Honestly, though, this would be one of those, “Honey, you are having an abnormal reaction to something, and I’m not going to tolerate it, so let’s talk about it or you go figure it out” moments that sometimes happen.
It’s not normal (or even safe, really) for one parent to make this kind of request—he could put your child in a Christian fundamentalist school, send him to boarding school thousands of miles away, insist you quit your job to homeschool him, etc.
Also, now that I think of it, it’s really rare that you’d even be able to agree to give up a right, and it’s probably your right to have a say in your child’s schooling.
Well Ernest nailed it.
I’m already ok with it if she doesn’t want to
She already told you she doesn't want to. Don't be an asshole; leave her alone.
Yep, sound entitled to his money
That’s exactly what he’s doing. He’ll have won and you’ll have lost.
Best advice yet I think.
Thank you. It doesn’t, you’re right. I asked him a million times if there was someone else – I’m fine with ending things gracefully if that’s the case. He says no.
The place that we think the calls came from is a place of business, not related to work. There’s too many coincidences there, including them asking me several times who he was to me and I should get a “real boyfriend”. I would just feel so gutted if I had to throw a fun thing away because of… prank calls?
So stop being a doormat and a victim and dump him
I didn’t look up the website! I said it was in my Facebook suggested posts. I didn’t even know the name of his company
If someone is a victim of cheating, they're a victim of cheating.
When someone makes the decision to cheat, they and they alone are responsible for their actions. No one is forcing them to make that choice and other choices are always available.
What do you think I mean by more invasive? A cheek swab and getting blood drawn are on the same level to you??
Thank you , I really appreciate the kind words .
Your boyfriend views you as a second option. I’m sorry. You need to break up with him, you deserve better.
I would.
But I like your suggestion.
If you read the post you would know thats exactly what im asking advice for but you just make a snap judgment and want to be a condinsending asshole, i am a dumb motherfucker who can piss my wife off by saying the wrong thing sometimes. This is a delicate issue with her as she has a habit of calling herself a bad mom. And i wanted to get some advice from some other parents anonymously so i dont make her feel bad in any way. But let me ask you are you married with kids?
Cheaters and affair partners always have this “It wasn't just cheap sex, it was everything”. Because in their mind they are different. Like “Yes, he had sex with multiple women but I was different, it was the most intense and passionate thing I have evet felt, he reached all the perfect points and after we talked until sunrise! See, I was different for him.” This is the most common stunt cheaters pull on their affair partners. You weren't special for him, he probably had more fun with other women. Your feelings are not important, this isn't about you, it is about that poor fiance.
Thanks!
His mother thinks he has autism and said it a lot to him when he was younger. I tried to talk with him about it, but he did not want to because it brought back memories from his mother saying that i think. To be honest my housemate also though he had autism when we just met him, i also thought that. We never said it to him, because we did not mind and it i not our place to tell (we are not docters). I never told him we both though that.
Then after 2 years he told me his mother says it sometimes when we were talking about your childhood.
However he himself does not think he has autism, he also does not want to be tested
I agree that communication is will always be important in any kind of relationship. My friend argues that most humans ‘just aren’t wired’ for non-monogamy. I hold the view that it’s more of a social pressure kind of thing.
She gained 40 some pounds in a year and is fat and you’re not attracted. That doesn’t make you a bad person. Everyone has preferences.
She has a scale and mirror. She knows she’s gained the weight. She’s sad about it but what is she doing about it?
I’d be grossed out by my own self if I gained that much. Not a shocker that a lover would find it unattractive. That’s not shallow .
Thanks for your input, it really helps. We’ve actually talked about what you brought up. He thinks it’s unfair of me to compare them to real family because they’re not (also some cultural differences there over the value of family). And he’s said that they act like Americans so he understands why I bonded with them but then told me to trust him that “those types” of Koreans that act like Americans are “weird guys”. Lol?
I really appreciate your input! Thank you for illuminating for me that ultimately it’s my decision how much I want to change/embrace Korean culture for him.?
Yes
He sounds like a whiny, needy lil weenie, and you should look elsewhere to get your own needs met, cause there's no way he's meeting your needs.
Ummm are you sure your husband isn't gay??? LOL girl he doesn't wanna fuck you and he wants his male friend to move in after a vacation together?
He's fucking his friend 100%
Lady, he’s talking to another woman. Yes leave him. He’s playing you.
Then break up. He doesn't want you to meet his parents and he doesn't care that you want this.
I understand why he is mad but driving out of state…yeah yeah nah… definitely not an option, i mean in sorry but I would understand going to the dentist or groceries or the like but driving out of state that's a no no for me
Ignore this. It’s none of your husbands business that you’re taking contraception. It’s not 100% and you both know this.
Leaving her is the best option for you. She does nit appreciate your efforts.
If she tries to convince youbit was only alcohol speaking, tell her she was acting indifferent towards even when she was sober (Btw how does you usually act towards you).
While I think staying with her would be a mistake, if she pleads you to stay you can consider it under certain circumstances. Those being her putting more effort in your relationship, making you feel fully appreciated, especially now, but she needs to keep it up later as well. She should treat as good as you treat her.
Now she would need to overcompensate for her recent behaviour.
Of course, simple break up is still better choice.
You have been together for a year… You are barely ready to live together let alone get married. I personally think the best way to go about it is to date a couple of years and then you would also need to live together for a few to see if you can cohabitate.
Marriage is a serious life commitment and it's not something that should be taken lightly imo.
Sure is. First time I saw it I gave a detailed response. Then I saw it again. And again and again. The Ohio gives it away quickly.
Agreed definitely fake. With anti-trans bills popping up left and right someone thinks they’re funny by trying to spin a this could happen to all the poor cis men if we don’t implement these laws.
OP go find some right wing subreddit to gab on
Your mom wants to have dinner once a week and your girlfriend thinks that is too much? She sounds controlling and jealous of your mother, which is just odd. ONLY WANTS YOU TO SEE YOUR MOM ON HOLIDAYS AND HER BIRTHDAY? Stop. Just stop. Your GF has issues, and you shouldn't stick around to see the entirety of them. Don't let a crazy girlfriend ruin a healthy relationship with your mother.
Addiction is a possibility, as I already mentioned. Still, I would suggest you endure for a little bit, because if it is pathological and you break it off, she'll likely destroy her life and end up a prostitute at best.
“You're just insecure” ?
She called him before she called you back. I can guarantee that's what happened. I've seen this a few times. She got off the phone with you FREAKING OUT, called him, they talked, he reassured her you don't know shit, etc. When your gut is yelling, listen.
Oh, wow. Can your condition be that he explain the reasons for his condition, and outline for you (in broad strokes) the choices he plans to make?
Honestly, though, this would be one of those, “Honey, you are having an abnormal reaction to something, and I’m not going to tolerate it, so let’s talk about it or you go figure it out” moments that sometimes happen.
It’s not normal (or even safe, really) for one parent to make this kind of request—he could put your child in a Christian fundamentalist school, send him to boarding school thousands of miles away, insist you quit your job to homeschool him, etc.
Also, now that I think of it, it’s really rare that you’d even be able to agree to give up a right, and it’s probably your right to have a say in your child’s schooling.
Bro watched too much porn
You listen to her. Use your words.
Is he checking the phone because of work?
She is taking advantage of you. You can do better than her