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This will be interesting, I’m willing to bet once you pull away she will change her mind, but if you are like me, it’s hard to go off someone, but once I do there isn’t any going back. Update us with what happens
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Yeah I had to consult two different counselors before I walked away. I think I stayed because I was being gaslit, he had met my family and my children, he knew my twin brother through sports and I actually lost my relationship with my twin brother surprisingly because I was dating the guy even though I was never close with my twin. So I felt that I had invested time, effort and was working towards a future with the guy. I was generous because I felt like he was going to be my husband and that husband and wife should support each other. There were just things I couldn’t overlook like the fact that I told him it was our 6m anniversary and he looked angry and said it was only five. The fact that he said we could have a child then when I took out my IUD he stopped having sex with me basically. But when the person doesn’t leave you think it’s because they love you a d like being with you. Not that they are using you. I think also when you don’t have thoughts or ideas about using people or taking advantage of people it’s hard to wrap your mind around the fact that someone would want to do so. I shouldn’t have stayed so long and I’m glad I did break things off. I guess it’s just scary that people can really come live with you but don’t care an ounce about you.
Is it possible for you to use this as motivation to quit? I mean she’s having your kid, if there’s even a slight possibility you could stop even temporarily it would be great!
I’m sorry for my overthinking- but in your opinion anything before the “do you want to be my girlfriend” is game? Even if we were “talking” or “exclusive” (whatever that might mean) before i asked her?
Yeah..but he pays for sex workerd a lot and pays for them too…who is to say that he will not continue…especially when yoi get pregnant or when he is away on business..since he is used to it and probably just see these sex workers as meat for sex.
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This will be interesting, I’m willing to bet once you pull away she will change her mind, but if you are like me, it’s hard to go off someone, but once I do there isn’t any going back. Update us with what happens
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Yeah I had to consult two different counselors before I walked away. I think I stayed because I was being gaslit, he had met my family and my children, he knew my twin brother through sports and I actually lost my relationship with my twin brother surprisingly because I was dating the guy even though I was never close with my twin. So I felt that I had invested time, effort and was working towards a future with the guy. I was generous because I felt like he was going to be my husband and that husband and wife should support each other. There were just things I couldn’t overlook like the fact that I told him it was our 6m anniversary and he looked angry and said it was only five. The fact that he said we could have a child then when I took out my IUD he stopped having sex with me basically. But when the person doesn’t leave you think it’s because they love you a d like being with you. Not that they are using you. I think also when you don’t have thoughts or ideas about using people or taking advantage of people it’s hard to wrap your mind around the fact that someone would want to do so. I shouldn’t have stayed so long and I’m glad I did break things off. I guess it’s just scary that people can really come live with you but don’t care an ounce about you.
That's why you don't marry when you just turned a legal age lmao.
Is it possible for you to use this as motivation to quit? I mean she’s having your kid, if there’s even a slight possibility you could stop even temporarily it would be great!
You just change everything about yourself. Stop going out. Stop speaking your mind. Stop being you.
Is that actually worth it?
I’m sorry for my overthinking- but in your opinion anything before the “do you want to be my girlfriend” is game? Even if we were “talking” or “exclusive” (whatever that might mean) before i asked her?
Yeah..but he pays for sex workerd a lot and pays for them too…who is to say that he will not continue…especially when yoi get pregnant or when he is away on business..since he is used to it and probably just see these sex workers as meat for sex.
Married 45 years to an independent professional woman.
Our phones are always unlocked and unprotected. Neither see the texts or other activities as a privacy issue. Life provides more important challenges.
However, both agree that someone reading your texts regularly is “snooping” on the level of a peeping Tom.
His behavior is creepy.
He already left you. Your relationship is over.
Ask yourself what answer you expect to hear from him that is going to give you any sort of validation or closure from what he did?
Nothing he has to say is going to take away the pain of betrayal you’re feeling. It’s just going to prolong it. He has absolutely nothing to offer.
Block him, stop feeding his ego, chin up.
I feel like this too believe me! How I’ve wasted all these precious years
You can't convince her. All you can do is to tell her that you do not under any circumstances want children.