Perhaps guys could agree to put an emergency fund together? Maybe like $50 or 100 month from each of your accounts until it’s $1000. But it’s a joint account for things that you set rules on (like medical bills).
This is a common problem for people who come from poverty. First they feel and urge to have nice things they don’t need. The other is they feel compelled to help others even though they don’t really have anything to give.
Did you say she is doing like a freemium game? Gaming isn’t that expensive long run like $70 for a game but the freemium stuff is worse than gambling. It’s an addiction.
Having read your comments I think there's a discussion to be had about the health of the relationship.
I travelled a bit for work on my previous job and sometimes felt things was better in the 80s and 90s when being abroad meant you were off the radar for the duration. Nowdays with phone and video chat you're supposed to not only be present for your partner/kids/family when you're gone but even more so to make up for being gone. It means that you're exhausted from being at work trying to not fuck up your job while in another culture and then you gotta be on call top talk about your partner's office politics.
I can't imagine being gone on the jobs for 9 weeks. It would take a toll on my mental health. So I could see a benign scenario where she just wants to be left alone for a bit.
But there's still things that reads as you guys not doing so well right now.
Quite frankly, I would have found it easier to forgive infidelity than to forgive such a cruel display of self absorbed garbage. What she did was utterly inexcusable and I don't blame you for being unable to get past it, especially since she offered neither apology nor explanation for her atrocious behavior.
Grow up! Why are you cutting them out of your lives? Because they fell in love? Don’t you want your parents to be happy? You both need to move on from your immature views of the world
You had a great second date on Saturday and you know he is stressed. How about you text him and offer to take him out for coffee to take his mind off the work stress?
I'll look into this, thank you!
Perhaps guys could agree to put an emergency fund together? Maybe like $50 or 100 month from each of your accounts until it’s $1000. But it’s a joint account for things that you set rules on (like medical bills).
This is a common problem for people who come from poverty. First they feel and urge to have nice things they don’t need. The other is they feel compelled to help others even though they don’t really have anything to give.
Did you say she is doing like a freemium game? Gaming isn’t that expensive long run like $70 for a game but the freemium stuff is worse than gambling. It’s an addiction.
Immediately my first thought, people prey on that kind of shit.
I dunno. He seems like a flake. I'd use him for sex and date other people.
Doesn't sound like it.
Having read your comments I think there's a discussion to be had about the health of the relationship.
I travelled a bit for work on my previous job and sometimes felt things was better in the 80s and 90s when being abroad meant you were off the radar for the duration. Nowdays with phone and video chat you're supposed to not only be present for your partner/kids/family when you're gone but even more so to make up for being gone. It means that you're exhausted from being at work trying to not fuck up your job while in another culture and then you gotta be on call top talk about your partner's office politics.
I can't imagine being gone on the jobs for 9 weeks. It would take a toll on my mental health. So I could see a benign scenario where she just wants to be left alone for a bit.
But there's still things that reads as you guys not doing so well right now.
Quite frankly, I would have found it easier to forgive infidelity than to forgive such a cruel display of self absorbed garbage. What she did was utterly inexcusable and I don't blame you for being unable to get past it, especially since she offered neither apology nor explanation for her atrocious behavior.
You talk wisely, I will try to get used to it. I hope I can.
What does house keys mean? Is it slang or are we talking literal house keys? That sounds serial killer to me more than anything else.
Then stop going to activities if you are not invited
Grow up! Why are you cutting them out of your lives? Because they fell in love? Don’t you want your parents to be happy? You both need to move on from your immature views of the world
You had a great second date on Saturday and you know he is stressed. How about you text him and offer to take him out for coffee to take his mind off the work stress?
asked if my mom could do a big pile of laundry for her because her washer is acting weird.
That's really rude. Your mother is not a maid. Are there no laundromats in Florida?
Sounds like he’s not the one.