You currently have two separate issues with your girlfriend, i.e. that you dislike her “work personality” and that she is actively disrupting your work by lacking appropriate boundaries, and you need to treat them as such.
Your girlfriend's “work personality” is technically none of your business and it would likely be moot to bring it up, but you should absolutely be able to discuss with her how you can best share your space when you're both working from home.
It's only reasonable for you to ask her to keep it down a bit when she's on the phone and you're trying to concentrate on something, and she shouldn't be interrupting your work just because she wants to complain about her own.
If you're afraid of pointing that out head-on, which I guess is then another issue in itself, you can easily address both of those things by making them about your own short-comings. E.g. some version of “When you come to me during work hours to complain about x y z, I find it really hard to get back to my own work afterwards, so can you maybe safe those things for after work?” that makes it sound like you're the bad guy and not her.
I was in a relationship for 13, and lack of intimacy and emotional connection is why we are divorcing. So there you have it. No one would want to live that way. Except you. You are asking him to do something completely unreasonable for someone that doesn’t even love him. No.
You’re not overreacting at all. Your reactions and feelings are completely valid. It was wrong of his mother to assume that you would do this random woman’s hair for free. You literally do not know her and not once did you say “hey N’s mom, if you or your friends want to swing by my SCHOOL, my place of business, I’ll do it for free!” You never once said that. You always did it at their house and she had to know that. She obviously is a very unaware person. I would absolutely tell your boyfriend about this. He has to have an idea of his mom being like this and I’m sure he will definitely believe you. If he doesn’t, bring the manager in on a conversation.
I wouldn’t have believed it. Your sister is probably telling the truth, and that truth is that someone told her your gf cheated, not that your gf DID cheat. She was not even there to witness it. Good on you for standing by your partner’s side.
The fact that you are posting this query and you have the self-awareness to do so tells me that you are going to be a sensitive caring compassionate listening boyfriend to this lucky lady
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You currently have two separate issues with your girlfriend, i.e. that you dislike her “work personality” and that she is actively disrupting your work by lacking appropriate boundaries, and you need to treat them as such.
Your girlfriend's “work personality” is technically none of your business and it would likely be moot to bring it up, but you should absolutely be able to discuss with her how you can best share your space when you're both working from home.
It's only reasonable for you to ask her to keep it down a bit when she's on the phone and you're trying to concentrate on something, and she shouldn't be interrupting your work just because she wants to complain about her own.
If you're afraid of pointing that out head-on, which I guess is then another issue in itself, you can easily address both of those things by making them about your own short-comings. E.g. some version of “When you come to me during work hours to complain about x y z, I find it really hard to get back to my own work afterwards, so can you maybe safe those things for after work?” that makes it sound like you're the bad guy and not her.
I was in a relationship for 13, and lack of intimacy and emotional connection is why we are divorcing. So there you have it. No one would want to live that way. Except you. You are asking him to do something completely unreasonable for someone that doesn’t even love him. No.
You’re not overreacting at all. Your reactions and feelings are completely valid. It was wrong of his mother to assume that you would do this random woman’s hair for free. You literally do not know her and not once did you say “hey N’s mom, if you or your friends want to swing by my SCHOOL, my place of business, I’ll do it for free!” You never once said that. You always did it at their house and she had to know that. She obviously is a very unaware person. I would absolutely tell your boyfriend about this. He has to have an idea of his mom being like this and I’m sure he will definitely believe you. If he doesn’t, bring the manager in on a conversation.
I wouldn’t have believed it. Your sister is probably telling the truth, and that truth is that someone told her your gf cheated, not that your gf DID cheat. She was not even there to witness it. Good on you for standing by your partner’s side.
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He probably doesn't care tbh. He'll take what he can get as long as you're not there to remind him he's a married man.
The fact that you are posting this query and you have the self-awareness to do so tells me that you are going to be a sensitive caring compassionate listening boyfriend to this lucky lady