Ugh, I would HATE that, I mean there is no way you would be able to fib to them, for example if she calls and wants something you can't say “Oh we're not home right now”..Dang, I hope she doesn't get the house, that would just be too much.
Just use this as an out to break up and leave the poor man alone and you would never have to admit you cheated. You enjoy his guilt? You do because you no longer have to feel bad for what you did, which is far far worse.
I am very familiar with the family court system. To get up to overnights could take months, even years depending. It would be months of supervised meetings as this man is a complete stranger. Then unsupervised day meetings of a few hours. To get to overnights those kids could be 16 at that point? And if they decide they aren’t interested in those, no overnights. So while this is all well and good and they should go through the proper channels, the kids will ultimately hold the power to decide if they are anywhere overnight with their bio dad. They could say hey this guy is pretty cool, I like him, let’s do this. They could say I am not comfortable with this and they will not be forced to go from a legal standpoint, especially well into their teen years by that point.
No one with the kids’ best interests at heart (since that is what every single ruling in family court is made for) will force them to go anywhere with someone they have only known for a few months or a year. They can rule it, sure, but they can’t violate the kids’ bodily autonomy that way. The kids also have rights here and their comfort, happiness and stability are the priority of any ruling, not what dad or mom wants.
Ugh, I would HATE that, I mean there is no way you would be able to fib to them, for example if she calls and wants something you can't say “Oh we're not home right now”..Dang, I hope she doesn't get the house, that would just be too much.
Yeah, saying “I told him I never cheated” is not the same as saying “I never cheated”.
She’s been lying to you and maybe herself, after being in that relationship I would say it would be fair enough to say fuck off its over
This is really good advice.
Oh no, Canada it’s worse. Depending on what country you’re from, you may have to re-enroll in medical school entirely.
All that in only 5 months?
Just use this as an out to break up and leave the poor man alone and you would never have to admit you cheated. You enjoy his guilt? You do because you no longer have to feel bad for what you did, which is far far worse.
I am very familiar with the family court system. To get up to overnights could take months, even years depending. It would be months of supervised meetings as this man is a complete stranger. Then unsupervised day meetings of a few hours. To get to overnights those kids could be 16 at that point? And if they decide they aren’t interested in those, no overnights. So while this is all well and good and they should go through the proper channels, the kids will ultimately hold the power to decide if they are anywhere overnight with their bio dad. They could say hey this guy is pretty cool, I like him, let’s do this. They could say I am not comfortable with this and they will not be forced to go from a legal standpoint, especially well into their teen years by that point.
No one with the kids’ best interests at heart (since that is what every single ruling in family court is made for) will force them to go anywhere with someone they have only known for a few months or a year. They can rule it, sure, but they can’t violate the kids’ bodily autonomy that way. The kids also have rights here and their comfort, happiness and stability are the priority of any ruling, not what dad or mom wants.