Sounds like this is a toxic, breakup to make-up relationship and you're stuck in a cycle. I'd suggest diagnosing it yourself by reading articles on toxic relationships and then act accordingly.
1- sexting is addictive. It triggers the same part of the brain as heroin.
2- it escalates over time to adultery (if the opportunity arises).
3- it's not harmless. The time invested in sexting is stoke from you. That sex and romance is yours.
Plus studies find it becomes addictive. Eventually she'll sext with a man that pushes for sex. Her currency in exchange for his 'attention ' escalates to sex.
She's on a slippery slope to adultery. Plus she is giving away her passion to another man (passion that is yours)
Respect her need for space. She's going through something massively difficult. The last thing you should say to her is: “I know this is your body and your choice. I will support the decision you make. And I will give you space, just know that I am here for you whenever you need me for love and support.
Keep that line of communication open. Let her know she's supported. Then yield that space for her.
It doesn't actually matter what the kink was. You could say, “I'm interested in being tied up tonight.” As soon as you said “nevermind, I drank too much” that earlier discussion no longer counts. Your boyfriend didn't forget that you revoked your consent. He didn't actually care that he hurt you. He cares that he got caught and might have to face some consequences. He raped you. That's why you feel so bad. He violated you when you were at your most vulnerable. If there was room for doubt or a “gray area,” he shouldn't have touched you. His pleasure was worth all of this distress that you're currently going through. Plenty of rapists are very sweet and caring after the fact, which confuses their victims. Being apologetic or kind doesn't override the rape or assault.
Break up and tell people you trust. Call a hotline if you don't feel comfortable talking to people you know. This wasn't your fault.
I'm curious, do you have a path to making more money? If his repair shop grows, why would he need a degree?
I don't think he's going to change, he has to want the degree for himself otherwise he's going to drop out again. If earning more is important to you, and you aren't willing to get a better job, you need to cut your losses, what you see is what you get.
People who are secure and trust you don't do this. If you would like to ruin your mental health keep dating her. idk what else to tell you.
Sounds like this is a toxic, breakup to make-up relationship and you're stuck in a cycle. I'd suggest diagnosing it yourself by reading articles on toxic relationships and then act accordingly.
You look quite attractive to me. Just because you're not YOUR type, doesn't mean you're not someone ELSE's type. Have fun on the date!
You can research this:
1- sexting is addictive. It triggers the same part of the brain as heroin.
2- it escalates over time to adultery (if the opportunity arises).
3- it's not harmless. The time invested in sexting is stoke from you. That sex and romance is yours.
Plus studies find it becomes addictive. Eventually she'll sext with a man that pushes for sex. Her currency in exchange for his 'attention ' escalates to sex.
She's on a slippery slope to adultery. Plus she is giving away her passion to another man (passion that is yours)
Respect her need for space. She's going through something massively difficult. The last thing you should say to her is: “I know this is your body and your choice. I will support the decision you make. And I will give you space, just know that I am here for you whenever you need me for love and support.
Keep that line of communication open. Let her know she's supported. Then yield that space for her.
It doesn't actually matter what the kink was. You could say, “I'm interested in being tied up tonight.” As soon as you said “nevermind, I drank too much” that earlier discussion no longer counts. Your boyfriend didn't forget that you revoked your consent. He didn't actually care that he hurt you. He cares that he got caught and might have to face some consequences. He raped you. That's why you feel so bad. He violated you when you were at your most vulnerable. If there was room for doubt or a “gray area,” he shouldn't have touched you. His pleasure was worth all of this distress that you're currently going through. Plenty of rapists are very sweet and caring after the fact, which confuses their victims. Being apologetic or kind doesn't override the rape or assault.
Break up and tell people you trust. Call a hotline if you don't feel comfortable talking to people you know. This wasn't your fault.
I'm curious, do you have a path to making more money? If his repair shop grows, why would he need a degree?
I don't think he's going to change, he has to want the degree for himself otherwise he's going to drop out again. If earning more is important to you, and you aren't willing to get a better job, you need to cut your losses, what you see is what you get.