The girl in question had boundaries set by him and she walked over them, then she got caught by someone else and decided to call him before he finds out, but surely she didn't know her “friend” had any of those intentions, you fucking know yourself that almost every male you talk with everyday wants a piece of that cake and you keep chatting with them because you like the attention, but yea, sure, lets support cheaters and down vote truth seekers.
firstly, im really sorry this is happening to you.
there’s not a lot I, as a stranger on the internet, can say to try and make this decision easier, because it isn’t an easy decision. It sounds like you may be in shock right now, in which case I would advise against making any life changing decisions.
While moving maybe hard, do you really want to stay around this man, who had so little respect for you and the vows you took, who has seemingly been lying to you for years, assuming the deleted messages were proof of the seemingly obvious. Do you really want your son living in an environment where his parents are clearly not together, but faking it and convincing him that that’s what love and family is?
It’s easy for me to say leave, but personally, I could not be in that situation. That being said there was a post I read on here not too long ago, a husband cheated, they separated. They eventually agreed to get back together, so they could continue living like a family, but on the terms the marriage was opened. It sounded like she got what you may want, the family, the house, but without the dead weight of a partner that didn’t respect her or the mess of a divorce. Outside of keeping appearances, she barely interacted with him and instead focused entirely on herself and he relayed that she seemed genuinely happy (he was miserable but he also cheated so more fool him) if you want to stay, and avoid the potential hardships that come with separating, maybe that’s the option to consider?
I'm guessing you broke up with your ex because he's not the responsible type. And you very likely monkey-branched to your current guy. You probably don't really like the guy all that much, however, he's financially stable, trusting toward you, and likely pretty level headed.
So you find him boring and predictable. So you call up your ex for some excitement. But he pushed it too far for you, and now you are looking for a way to appease your conscience.
You'll most likely delete this post when enough people call you trash. And you'll get frustrated with people telling you that you should own up to what you did.
I think you originally wrote this with the hopes that people would maybe sympathize with you and tell you your ex was a jerk, and he took advantage of you in an emotional situation, in order for you to feel better about the choices you made.
OP you did nothing wrong and your bf needs to accept things happened before you two got in a relationship. It's unhealthy af for him to bring that shit up during arguments when it has nothing to do with your relationship currently.
My brother found their divorce filing. So she is truthful. As for his friends and family, I don’t know if they purposely lied or just didn’t say anything. Kate was called “the ex” not “ex wife”. No one mentioned anything to me
If he's said that you moving is how he sees it going, that's different and I take back what I said. He shouldn't be expecting you to move if you don't want to. That's good you've openly talked about the issue of potentially stringing him along, and it's not that. This is a really tricky situation. I hope you find a good solution for you.
Haha! See. That's the difference. I actually enjoy work. Aside from the pay, it gives me satisfaction that I'm doing something meaningful in the world, helping others, and changing the planet for the better daily. And, it has a global impact. This is why I don't need or desire your approval. I know what I contribute to the world. I know each day I come home the world is a slightly better place.maven for people like you that slack off and wait for AI to replace your cushy slack-off job. Enjoy it now. Low wage and government workers will be the first to go in the next 10 years or so.
Is she a virgin? Are you?
The girl in question had boundaries set by him and she walked over them, then she got caught by someone else and decided to call him before he finds out, but surely she didn't know her “friend” had any of those intentions, you fucking know yourself that almost every male you talk with everyday wants a piece of that cake and you keep chatting with them because you like the attention, but yea, sure, lets support cheaters and down vote truth seekers.
firstly, im really sorry this is happening to you.
there’s not a lot I, as a stranger on the internet, can say to try and make this decision easier, because it isn’t an easy decision. It sounds like you may be in shock right now, in which case I would advise against making any life changing decisions.
While moving maybe hard, do you really want to stay around this man, who had so little respect for you and the vows you took, who has seemingly been lying to you for years, assuming the deleted messages were proof of the seemingly obvious. Do you really want your son living in an environment where his parents are clearly not together, but faking it and convincing him that that’s what love and family is?
It’s easy for me to say leave, but personally, I could not be in that situation. That being said there was a post I read on here not too long ago, a husband cheated, they separated. They eventually agreed to get back together, so they could continue living like a family, but on the terms the marriage was opened. It sounded like she got what you may want, the family, the house, but without the dead weight of a partner that didn’t respect her or the mess of a divorce. Outside of keeping appearances, she barely interacted with him and instead focused entirely on herself and he relayed that she seemed genuinely happy (he was miserable but he also cheated so more fool him) if you want to stay, and avoid the potential hardships that come with separating, maybe that’s the option to consider?
You have to read the other definitions dumbass! You clearly don’t know how a dictionary works.
I'm guessing you broke up with your ex because he's not the responsible type. And you very likely monkey-branched to your current guy. You probably don't really like the guy all that much, however, he's financially stable, trusting toward you, and likely pretty level headed.
So you find him boring and predictable. So you call up your ex for some excitement. But he pushed it too far for you, and now you are looking for a way to appease your conscience.
You'll most likely delete this post when enough people call you trash. And you'll get frustrated with people telling you that you should own up to what you did.
I think you originally wrote this with the hopes that people would maybe sympathize with you and tell you your ex was a jerk, and he took advantage of you in an emotional situation, in order for you to feel better about the choices you made.
OP you did nothing wrong and your bf needs to accept things happened before you two got in a relationship. It's unhealthy af for him to bring that shit up during arguments when it has nothing to do with your relationship currently.
Jesus Christ op I’m sorry. Please talk to an attorney and get out. Jesus Christ I’m glad to be single right now.
Make a deal and say if he shows up in clown suit then the cost of the wedding is on him.
My brother found their divorce filing. So she is truthful. As for his friends and family, I don’t know if they purposely lied or just didn’t say anything. Kate was called “the ex” not “ex wife”. No one mentioned anything to me
Don’t try to reason with people who can’t see beyond their nose .
If he's said that you moving is how he sees it going, that's different and I take back what I said. He shouldn't be expecting you to move if you don't want to. That's good you've openly talked about the issue of potentially stringing him along, and it's not that. This is a really tricky situation. I hope you find a good solution for you.
ask him if your relationship is worth a thousand dollars to him.
Haha! See. That's the difference. I actually enjoy work. Aside from the pay, it gives me satisfaction that I'm doing something meaningful in the world, helping others, and changing the planet for the better daily. And, it has a global impact. This is why I don't need or desire your approval. I know what I contribute to the world. I know each day I come home the world is a slightly better place.maven for people like you that slack off and wait for AI to replace your cushy slack-off job. Enjoy it now. Low wage and government workers will be the first to go in the next 10 years or so.
After you’re done wondering that, maybe ponder why the stereotypes exist in the first place.