The tricky thing about working out with the opposite sex is you are literally training your brain to be attracted to you. This is why cheating is more prevalent in the firehouse,the police force and with personal trainers. When you work out and do extreme things with someone else ,brain chemicals are released that said “this feels good with this person so often that this person is playing a huge part as to why I’m feeling good”
The fact that you don’t care or have empathy for your wife in this situation shows me that you are already okay with risking parts of your relationship to appease another woman.
Stop yourself now, get out of training with this woman. It’s not good for your marriage.
You say your brother is outspoken but really he just says whatever he wants, literally trying to get a reaction out of people. He found your wife’s button and pushed it. Was her reaction out of line..yes. But would have never happened if your bother wasn’t “outspoken” ?? I love people who like to describe themselves as “outspoken” or “blunt” like nahh you’re an a*s. And you love seeing your brother and wife fight..don’t even lie. You laughed after he teased her but you want her to chill out. ??it’s the micro-agressions..
Wait, what do you mean by “resoluting my sexual needs other than her”? Are you not allowed to masturbate to anything other than her? Why are you feeling the need to Jack off to other men's dicks? I'm not connecting the dots.
Regardless, you need to have a conversation with her. I'm not saying she owes you sex or she has an obligation to having sex with you, but she agreed to marry you and keeping you in a sexually lacking marriage, but expecting you to abide to potential boundaries is completely unfair. You are not the problem, but your intimacy inconsistency is.
Tell her that having sex isn't just sex and that it's something you need to feel loved. Either that or tell her that you are not interested in living with a roommate because let's face it: a partner without intimacy is just that.
Yeah i am a software engineer. Working days, i just game for 1-3 hours after.
What if he has paid for the house, and all the other assets. This guy is not at all mature or smart, I don’t see him winning at all.
Do you think people who do drink or smoke are pathetic losers? Why are weed users the worst comparatively?
The tricky thing about working out with the opposite sex is you are literally training your brain to be attracted to you. This is why cheating is more prevalent in the firehouse,the police force and with personal trainers. When you work out and do extreme things with someone else ,brain chemicals are released that said “this feels good with this person so often that this person is playing a huge part as to why I’m feeling good”
The fact that you don’t care or have empathy for your wife in this situation shows me that you are already okay with risking parts of your relationship to appease another woman.
Stop yourself now, get out of training with this woman. It’s not good for your marriage.
You say your brother is outspoken but really he just says whatever he wants, literally trying to get a reaction out of people. He found your wife’s button and pushed it. Was her reaction out of line..yes. But would have never happened if your bother wasn’t “outspoken” ?? I love people who like to describe themselves as “outspoken” or “blunt” like nahh you’re an a*s. And you love seeing your brother and wife fight..don’t even lie. You laughed after he teased her but you want her to chill out. ??it’s the micro-agressions..
Bro, just…. Dont
Leave him. Run. This is sexual assault. You were uncomfortable. You said no. You felt pressured. He made you do it anyway. That is sexual assault.
He sleeps a lot more & I don’t sleep very much at all. We have 2 bedrooms now but I’m not sure how often I really want to be going into the other room
Wait, what do you mean by “resoluting my sexual needs other than her”? Are you not allowed to masturbate to anything other than her? Why are you feeling the need to Jack off to other men's dicks? I'm not connecting the dots.
Regardless, you need to have a conversation with her. I'm not saying she owes you sex or she has an obligation to having sex with you, but she agreed to marry you and keeping you in a sexually lacking marriage, but expecting you to abide to potential boundaries is completely unfair. You are not the problem, but your intimacy inconsistency is.
Tell her that having sex isn't just sex and that it's something you need to feel loved. Either that or tell her that you are not interested in living with a roommate because let's face it: a partner without intimacy is just that.
You don't convince him to leave. You see a lawyer make your plans, and go. Don't give him a chance. Your life will be so much better without him.