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The issue is something that comes as a side effect of continuing education into college/university. When you're still in school, you're kinda putting off entering the “real world” where you're consistently treated as an adult. That's not to say that in a way that should be construed as “college bad”, but it is the reality. Many college students live in dorms, or in a similar situation and still have a pretty strong lifeline through their parents or school.
I like to call this phenomenon 'extended adolescence', and it leads to romantic partners not having enough life experience to properly dislodge from their own limited perspective to be empathetic to their partners. They're concerned more about what benefits them in the moment, and results in their behavior mimicking that of teenagers. After college, it typically takes a few years of those lifelines being severed for them to be responsible people.
Also, many parents (inadvertently for the most part) will send their HS graduates to college as a form of young adult daycare so they can get their own lives resumed. This means that a lot of those students didn't really enter college with any reasons beyond “well it's what my parents/society taught me I should be doing” and they (typically) haven't had enough tough times to forge them into decent people.
TL DR; People in their early 20's are exhibiting the dating behavior of high schoolers because they haven't needed to grow up yet.
Yup, he's allowed to have feelings and opinions and things he doesn't want to do.
Sorry, are you under the impression you get to decide everything for him?
This sounds healthy honestly. He supports your decision despite his own desires. Sounds like a keeper. Maybe talk to him about having kids one day if that's something you're down for but just not ready for at this time. It might help him mentally. (Obviously don't do that if you know you dont want kids. Only if you mean it and are open to the idea)
Truly hoping for an update in which OP and Sami both leave their husbands and move back in together. College roomies reunited. They both deserve better.
Sounds like he didn’t want to be attached and is using you as a backup option.
Yeah I don't want to trash OP who's just looking for help, but this feels more like an empathy disconnect than anything else.
LOL Too true! When I (59/f) was a preteen, I used to go to Church with my Aunt, her cheating husband, my Uncle-by-marriage and my 4 Cousins, youngest was a baby still breastfeeding.
There was a woman who can only be described as a floozy, total man-shark! She was newly divorced and VISIBLY on the prowl, very inappropriate low-cut (sometimes see-through) blouses/short, tight skirts or body-hugging dresses.
She HIT on every man, whether they were married or not, young or old while dragging her 2 young children along with her to witness her embarrassingly sexual displays. I certainly was embarrassed for her children.
I don't know if anything untoward actually happened between this woman and my “Uncle” but I DO know that shortly after she set her sights on my Uncle, they moved a couple of States away. Their marriage only lasted another 5 years or so.
I went to a few more different churches on my own after they moved but was always astonished that there was at least one such woman in attendance at each. To this day I'm still not sure if these women THOUGHT they were subtle or not, but if it was obvious to ME at such a young age, so the “grownups” HAD to be aware!
It's just ONE of the many reasons that I stopped participating in “organized” religion. I think church is a great place to meet a partner, but HOPEFULLY they aren't someone else's at the time!
Joking with his friends at his age? Girl, he’s almost 40, he ain’t joking. Maybe he wants to experiment, maybe he is bisexual, but it doesn’t matter, you’re divorcing.
And you consider it a good thing? Maybe it’s just me but I like people who say what they mean and mean what they say. Breaking up shouldn’t be a go to conflict resolution that’s only temporary. It doesn’t sound healthy.
You violated her boundary. Whether you think it’s break up worthy or not is irrelevant. The deed is done. With her history of breaking up with you, the best you can do is lay low, be patient and see if she comes back to you again.