Would be a bit weird considering you don’t know him very well. If you two had stayed talking/became friends in any capacity sure understandable. Please stay safe, your disregard for your own safety is alarming as hell.
Tell her that she was days away from being a single parent, because her attitude and behaviour during her pregnancy was so toxic and damaging. Then ask her if she really wants to risk it, because this time you won’t be waiting 9 months for her to come back to normal, you will leave straight away.
Two people below him while I'm on the top. He said it was unusual hearing those noises from my apartment and that the neighbors in the building over were usually louder.
I responded: “I’m sorry if you’re going through things, please make me aware if you’re going through stuff, you don’t have to give me details but understand that it is hard for me to understand your behavior without context especially when I have a specific emotional need. I told you a bit earlier how we could have avoided this and even explained to you how I wish to be welcomed in these type of situations so that it gives you tricks. I doesn’t really motivate me to open up again in the future. I’m shocked with the outcome of this conversation.”
He continued being agressive and spiteful and told me again and again that he doesn’t need this in his live that he feels disrespected.
Me: me too I feel disrespected, so how are we handling this now ?
Him: i would tend to say that we’re done but I’m tired and i don’t know what to say.
Me: wow, you’re ready to be done for just that ?
Him: well last time you broke it off and I need to protect myself now
(I broke up with him two months ago as he was going through weed severance. He was smoking during the day and would wake up at night to smoke weed. He was agressive, short tempered and his weed consumption made him incredibly unstable mentally)
Me: wow ok so how are we even going to build a relationship if you are already defensive and want to break up?
Him: I don’t want to break up but I need to defend myself, I have abandonment issues and this is triggering them
Me: I’m sorry then, let’s take a few days to cool off and distance from one another.
Him: wow, ok now this is how you want to manage it… ok tell me what should I have said to appease you?
Me: are you really interested or are you just asking for the stake of asking …
Him: whatever just say it already
Me: ok based on the tips I gave you earlier can we please start over. I would really like to hear you express in a way that is appeasing to me. This would make me feel safer and it would close the conversation on a positive note. “Babe I think there was a misunderstanding. I really want to see you and I love you, but I’m having a hard day and would prefer to plan tomorrow”
Him: I won’t start this over, I’m tired and you can’t make me behave in a certain way, it’s insulting!!!!
Me, breathing heavily: im just giving you the answer as you asked.
Him: yeah but I told you that already
Me: partially and right after you go to the complete opposite direction saying that you’re fed up and are threatening me that this can’t happen every week even though it happens extremely rarely and you finish with an intention of breaking up.
Him finally saying things in the way I wanted since the beginning
Me: ok, thank you, I appreciate the way you expressed yourself now..
Him: BYE
10 mins after I receive a text message from him apologizing and wishing me a great night and a good beginning of week.
I’m 28 he is 34. We are both adults and have stressful careers …. But I feel so sad when he behaves like that. We made so much progress and 80% of our times togheter are pure bliss.
At least try to be a better troll.
Would be a bit weird considering you don’t know him very well. If you two had stayed talking/became friends in any capacity sure understandable. Please stay safe, your disregard for your own safety is alarming as hell.
Then don’t confront him at all. Just leave. Have all communication through the lawyer.
Tell her straight.
Tell her exactly what you put in your post.
Tell her that she was days away from being a single parent, because her attitude and behaviour during her pregnancy was so toxic and damaging. Then ask her if she really wants to risk it, because this time you won’t be waiting 9 months for her to come back to normal, you will leave straight away.
Oh, I don’t think so. It’s like keeping love letters in my opinion.
Two people below him while I'm on the top. He said it was unusual hearing those noises from my apartment and that the neighbors in the building over were usually louder.
I responded: “I’m sorry if you’re going through things, please make me aware if you’re going through stuff, you don’t have to give me details but understand that it is hard for me to understand your behavior without context especially when I have a specific emotional need. I told you a bit earlier how we could have avoided this and even explained to you how I wish to be welcomed in these type of situations so that it gives you tricks. I doesn’t really motivate me to open up again in the future. I’m shocked with the outcome of this conversation.”
He continued being agressive and spiteful and told me again and again that he doesn’t need this in his live that he feels disrespected.
Me: me too I feel disrespected, so how are we handling this now ?
Him: i would tend to say that we’re done but I’m tired and i don’t know what to say.
Me: wow, you’re ready to be done for just that ?
Him: well last time you broke it off and I need to protect myself now
(I broke up with him two months ago as he was going through weed severance. He was smoking during the day and would wake up at night to smoke weed. He was agressive, short tempered and his weed consumption made him incredibly unstable mentally)
Me: wow ok so how are we even going to build a relationship if you are already defensive and want to break up?
Him: I don’t want to break up but I need to defend myself, I have abandonment issues and this is triggering them
Me: I’m sorry then, let’s take a few days to cool off and distance from one another.
Him: wow, ok now this is how you want to manage it… ok tell me what should I have said to appease you?
Me: are you really interested or are you just asking for the stake of asking …
Him: whatever just say it already
Me: ok based on the tips I gave you earlier can we please start over. I would really like to hear you express in a way that is appeasing to me. This would make me feel safer and it would close the conversation on a positive note. “Babe I think there was a misunderstanding. I really want to see you and I love you, but I’m having a hard day and would prefer to plan tomorrow”
Him: I won’t start this over, I’m tired and you can’t make me behave in a certain way, it’s insulting!!!!
Me, breathing heavily: im just giving you the answer as you asked.
Him: yeah but I told you that already
Me: partially and right after you go to the complete opposite direction saying that you’re fed up and are threatening me that this can’t happen every week even though it happens extremely rarely and you finish with an intention of breaking up.
Him finally saying things in the way I wanted since the beginning
Me: ok, thank you, I appreciate the way you expressed yourself now..
Him: BYE
10 mins after I receive a text message from him apologizing and wishing me a great night and a good beginning of week.
I’m 28 he is 34. We are both adults and have stressful careers …. But I feel so sad when he behaves like that. We made so much progress and 80% of our times togheter are pure bliss.
I am SOOOO CONFUSED! Please help!!!!!
He’s depressed. Don’t break up with him, get him help.