I won't lie part of me really wants to call my parents and ask them if I can cone home. My sister has moved out once before but came back when she list her job to the covid pandemic.
When we decided to be roommates and move out together I thought things were going to be so much better than they are. But less than a few months into our lease if was life change after life change.
Her boyfriend lived with us for several months so he could get on his feet. Then she told me they wanted to have a baby and I told her it was a bad idea given our current situation. But did she listen? No. She just pressed on ahead without a second thought.
Now I all too often feel like she's just using me as a means to an end. Someone who keeps the lights on and blabbering ceaselessly about how we need to make more money to truly be stable.
They were never married and I’m not sure the reason for their break up. He has never clarified it, and it never really came up because I didn’t start dating him, he had another relationship between her and I.
Another follow up question, were you and your husband quite formal on your dates? I have been on two dates and there weren’t even a handshake. I'm not sure if I'm being the weirdo here thinking about all these. I'm just not sure how slow “taking things slow” is. ?
Just the fact that you compare this story to a guy who repeatedly cheats on his wife and then forces her into an open marriage through coercion why I have such a low opinion of the lifestyle. You basically are validating that it's the same thing.
How come poly people seem to always figure it out after trapping an innocent monogamous person into a relationship. I suspect it's because if they were upfront about their intended lifestyle it would substantial lower there dating pool.
Just the fact that you compare this story to a guy who repeatedly cheats on his wife and then forces her into an open marriage through coercion why I have such a low opinion of the lifestyle. You basically are validating that it's the same thing.
How come poly people seem to always figure it out after trapping an innocent monogamous person into a relationship. I suspect it's because if they were upfront about their intended lifestyle it would substantial lower there dating pool.
You are NOT OBLIGATED TO RAISE ANOTHER PERSONS KID…. you tried, you couldn't, and thats all you can do.
You were at a breaking point.
My gf had done intensive therapy and healing, but the boys are a mess. To no fault of their own.
Just because they are kids, does not mean they cannot be at fault. The 14 year old will be the first to realize they helped make their mom a continued victim of their dads behavior by acting out like this because she wants a relationship. The sooner it happens the better.
“tell your douchebag bf to leave. You know we hate him. He is scary.”
This ain't your pig, and ain't your farm. You did not marry this woman(yet), you are not obligated to do anything for her kids, and technically, you CAN'T.
…first off stop calling him your boyfriend. That’s a dangerous psycho ex boyfriend you have there.
Second I would alert every family member you have, every friend and neighbor, and the police of what he said. Make sure everyone and anyone knows that he threatened your life. Honestly there are places that he could be arrested for saying shit like that – could be considered a terroristic threat, class 6 felony where I am, for example.
Third- get the fuck out! Leave, never come back. Restraining order, get a gun, get a big ol’ dick-biting dog, etc. (maybe this is too dramatic, but idk, better safe than sorry with religious nut jobs)
I don't think he's your boyfriend.
Lol as if the kind of clothing they are is the point.
No offense taken. I know what I have to do. It just socks so bad and breaks my heart to accept this shit show as my reality
I won't lie part of me really wants to call my parents and ask them if I can cone home. My sister has moved out once before but came back when she list her job to the covid pandemic.
When we decided to be roommates and move out together I thought things were going to be so much better than they are. But less than a few months into our lease if was life change after life change.
Her boyfriend lived with us for several months so he could get on his feet. Then she told me they wanted to have a baby and I told her it was a bad idea given our current situation. But did she listen? No. She just pressed on ahead without a second thought.
Now I all too often feel like she's just using me as a means to an end. Someone who keeps the lights on and blabbering ceaselessly about how we need to make more money to truly be stable.
They were never married and I’m not sure the reason for their break up. He has never clarified it, and it never really came up because I didn’t start dating him, he had another relationship between her and I.
Another follow up question, were you and your husband quite formal on your dates? I have been on two dates and there weren’t even a handshake. I'm not sure if I'm being the weirdo here thinking about all these. I'm just not sure how slow “taking things slow” is. ?
Just the fact that you compare this story to a guy who repeatedly cheats on his wife and then forces her into an open marriage through coercion why I have such a low opinion of the lifestyle. You basically are validating that it's the same thing.
How come poly people seem to always figure it out after trapping an innocent monogamous person into a relationship. I suspect it's because if they were upfront about their intended lifestyle it would substantial lower there dating pool.
Just the fact that you compare this story to a guy who repeatedly cheats on his wife and then forces her into an open marriage through coercion why I have such a low opinion of the lifestyle. You basically are validating that it's the same thing.
How come poly people seem to always figure it out after trapping an innocent monogamous person into a relationship. I suspect it's because if they were upfront about their intended lifestyle it would substantial lower there dating pool.
You are NOT OBLIGATED TO RAISE ANOTHER PERSONS KID…. you tried, you couldn't, and thats all you can do.
You were at a breaking point.
My gf had done intensive therapy and healing, but the boys are a mess. To no fault of their own.
Just because they are kids, does not mean they cannot be at fault. The 14 year old will be the first to realize they helped make their mom a continued victim of their dads behavior by acting out like this because she wants a relationship. The sooner it happens the better.
“tell your douchebag bf to leave. You know we hate him. He is scary.”
This ain't your pig, and ain't your farm. You did not marry this woman(yet), you are not obligated to do anything for her kids, and technically, you CAN'T.
…first off stop calling him your boyfriend. That’s a dangerous psycho ex boyfriend you have there.
Second I would alert every family member you have, every friend and neighbor, and the police of what he said. Make sure everyone and anyone knows that he threatened your life. Honestly there are places that he could be arrested for saying shit like that – could be considered a terroristic threat, class 6 felony where I am, for example.
Third- get the fuck out! Leave, never come back. Restraining order, get a gun, get a big ol’ dick-biting dog, etc. (maybe this is too dramatic, but idk, better safe than sorry with religious nut jobs)
Yes