Nope. He doesn’t view you or your work as equal and doesn’t respect you, and he wants a housewife who also brings home wages. Expecting the WFH partner to do more chores is sometimes a natural and annoying result of WFH, but here he’s just demonstrated so much toxicity already. Run.
Ok… What in the actual hell is wrong with the people around you…. Who tells a mother their child is ugly/deformed. Who tells anyone that in general. And jobs denying you based on looks??? Unless your applying to be the face of the company or a model… WTAF???
Now to what you actually asked… Looks do in fact play a factor for people especially for men who are physically driven people… That being said you don't want to be with someone who cares that much about looks… Because regardless of our starting point in looks, we all age, our bodies change, and we never look the way we did a year ago let alone 20-40 years ago. So someone who only wants the “pretty” girl usually is the one who cheats and leaves for the next “pretty” girl when the first ages out… SO YOU ALWAYS HAVE A CHANCE.
What I think is happening is that a life time of comments and bullying on your appearance has effected your personality. I would be willing to say that you are the shy quiet type… Meaning you don't light up a room with your personality. And while your personality is most likely amazing, it is not outshining your looks. I don't know what you actually look like so you may not be as “ugly” as you have been made to feel/believe. I'm not saying you need to walk into a room and act like your the hottest thing to grace gods earth. But you may need to let your personality blind the visual if in fact you are not classically attractive. You would be shocked at how many “unequal” physical relationships you are (Think Jelly Roll (most people think he is not attractive) and Bunny (absolutely stunning woman to most people) who met and were married before money was a factor). Like people who truly have facial deformities (and I'm not invalidating you if you do) with men/women who are drop dead gorgeous. And typically they both have personalities that make everyone attracted to them.
Lastly YOU ARE SO YOUNG. It sounds like everyone you have been around has been a bunch of AH… You need to meet some QUALITY MEN and WOMEN… If this man you are interest in has shown any signs of interest go for it. But if he also shoots you down try to get in some different circles. While no one can be faulted for not getting in a relationship with you because that is there choice and valid; the ones who have made comments that it is purely about your looks are gross humans and you dodged a bullet.
Jesus what happened to him to warrant this? This is deep trauma. Try and find out what him controlling the childs education means to him and you may find out at what point he was traumatised. (I'm not saying agree to anything but just what he plans). See if you can get to the bottom of this by getting him to open up.
I don't really know how to proceed, I like my girlfriend a lot, but I've had a queasy feeling since she told me.
Nope. He doesn’t view you or your work as equal and doesn’t respect you, and he wants a housewife who also brings home wages. Expecting the WFH partner to do more chores is sometimes a natural and annoying result of WFH, but here he’s just demonstrated so much toxicity already. Run.
Get sober. Get therapy and move on.
Wow. Tell him his dick is obviously too small.
You don't want anal. That's a hard no. Pun intended.
If he doesn't respect that and still goes for your back door, stand up, pull up your trousers, and walk the fuck away.
Ok… What in the actual hell is wrong with the people around you…. Who tells a mother their child is ugly/deformed. Who tells anyone that in general. And jobs denying you based on looks??? Unless your applying to be the face of the company or a model… WTAF???
Now to what you actually asked… Looks do in fact play a factor for people especially for men who are physically driven people… That being said you don't want to be with someone who cares that much about looks… Because regardless of our starting point in looks, we all age, our bodies change, and we never look the way we did a year ago let alone 20-40 years ago. So someone who only wants the “pretty” girl usually is the one who cheats and leaves for the next “pretty” girl when the first ages out… SO YOU ALWAYS HAVE A CHANCE.
What I think is happening is that a life time of comments and bullying on your appearance has effected your personality. I would be willing to say that you are the shy quiet type… Meaning you don't light up a room with your personality. And while your personality is most likely amazing, it is not outshining your looks. I don't know what you actually look like so you may not be as “ugly” as you have been made to feel/believe. I'm not saying you need to walk into a room and act like your the hottest thing to grace gods earth. But you may need to let your personality blind the visual if in fact you are not classically attractive. You would be shocked at how many “unequal” physical relationships you are (Think Jelly Roll (most people think he is not attractive) and Bunny (absolutely stunning woman to most people) who met and were married before money was a factor). Like people who truly have facial deformities (and I'm not invalidating you if you do) with men/women who are drop dead gorgeous. And typically they both have personalities that make everyone attracted to them.
Lastly YOU ARE SO YOUNG. It sounds like everyone you have been around has been a bunch of AH… You need to meet some QUALITY MEN and WOMEN… If this man you are interest in has shown any signs of interest go for it. But if he also shoots you down try to get in some different circles. While no one can be faulted for not getting in a relationship with you because that is there choice and valid; the ones who have made comments that it is purely about your looks are gross humans and you dodged a bullet.
Jesus what happened to him to warrant this? This is deep trauma. Try and find out what him controlling the childs education means to him and you may find out at what point he was traumatised. (I'm not saying agree to anything but just what he plans). See if you can get to the bottom of this by getting him to open up.
Yea getting shoved and punched in the face is a red flag.