It kinda seems like miscommunication with good intentions to me. In serious relationships that are long term, you are not always 100% attracted to your SO. We all go through changes and that’s okay. My husband and I have said similar things to each other but never in a mean way. He sees that you have this insecurity about size, he’s acknowledging it (likely so you can’t claim he’s lying) and saying that it doesn’t matter, the WHOLE of you trumps just the physical aspect. I get that it sucks to hear because you feel you’ve been lied to, to me I think he’s said you’re perfect in the past because as a whole you are to him. He said to not loose weight because he didn’t want you to go crazy over it and affect mental health that way. Again, these are just my opinions and I could be wrong. I think you need to take a step back. Is it just the white lie that bothered you? Does it bother you in any situation? If so, address that. But if it isn’t just him saying to not loose weight and that you’re perfect and you perceiving that as a lie, then I think you need to address your own self esteem issues.
Are you unhappy and if so, are you willing to remain unhappy for the sake of someone who isn’t willing to compromise for your needs? It seems very unreasonable to expect you to not laugh and have a good times with your friends. I have dumped people for less tbh.
No we went on 4 dates texted all day everyday, just weren’t exclusive or a couple yet.
It kinda seems like miscommunication with good intentions to me. In serious relationships that are long term, you are not always 100% attracted to your SO. We all go through changes and that’s okay. My husband and I have said similar things to each other but never in a mean way. He sees that you have this insecurity about size, he’s acknowledging it (likely so you can’t claim he’s lying) and saying that it doesn’t matter, the WHOLE of you trumps just the physical aspect. I get that it sucks to hear because you feel you’ve been lied to, to me I think he’s said you’re perfect in the past because as a whole you are to him. He said to not loose weight because he didn’t want you to go crazy over it and affect mental health that way. Again, these are just my opinions and I could be wrong. I think you need to take a step back. Is it just the white lie that bothered you? Does it bother you in any situation? If so, address that. But if it isn’t just him saying to not loose weight and that you’re perfect and you perceiving that as a lie, then I think you need to address your own self esteem issues.
$18k ???? ??♂️
Are you unhappy and if so, are you willing to remain unhappy for the sake of someone who isn’t willing to compromise for your needs? It seems very unreasonable to expect you to not laugh and have a good times with your friends. I have dumped people for less tbh.