have you actually heard him ask the other team this, or is this what he’s telling you?
by your own definition, your BF worships Kobe, a notorious ballhog. he only cares about winning. he will do whatever it takes to be the center of a team because he thinks that’s the best idea. he was extremely vocal about benching the only trans player, and when he lost, he immediately became extremely vocal that Jacob’s transness was the only reason he won.
that’s not someone who gets chosen as “male athlete of the year”! he might get best male athlete of the year, or MVP, but from everything you’ve said, this is more of a sportsmanship/effort award. your boyfriend is a dick, plain and simple. being competitive explains him being a dick, but it does not excuse it.
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I only mentioned some of what I do. She is happy with our situation while I am not. I thought I was clear about that in my question. I can’t possibly list everything that happens in my house just to paint the right picture. She is happy and does not need to hug me. I am not happy cause I need hugs. That is the conflict.
Look your needs are too niche for general advice in a forum like this. Very few people understand CPTSD including professionals at that.
And people generally don't really understand neurodivergence. This is a combination that is pretty disastrous for advice in a general advice forum.
Don't stress out about being misunderstood. But many people are right you really need to include qualifiers. You need to include that these are factors. But even when you include them people understand them so poorly that they're not going to help much. The thoughts of people are governed by the limits of nature on process going hand in hand with conformity.
Block him first. Then tell her. “I didn't know that he was married and using me to cheat on you and his family. I am sorry for my unknown participation in this. I have blocked him on everything and want nothing more to do with him. Here are the ss of our conversations and everything. Do with them what you like. I am happy to testify in your divorce proceedings if needed. Otherwise, i will leave you alone.”
The results are 50/50 Asian/European not parental DNA specific so I wouldn’t actually read too much into this – European as a gestalt entity is vague as Asian as a result, not to mention that a vast number of Europeans have “Asian” dna through migration, the mongol hordes, genetic migration etc. It may simply be that your parents have a higher than average quantity of “Asian” ancestors, culminating in this result. Not to mention these dna tests are notoriously vague and poor for identifying where genes actually come from.
I had a friend who’s LT relationship had basically turned into a roommates situation. One day they were folding laundry and she asked ,” hey, are you truly happy?” and they had a long talk after that and ended it that day. They spilt up in the house and then moved out when their lease was up.
have you actually heard him ask the other team this, or is this what he’s telling you?
by your own definition, your BF worships Kobe, a notorious ballhog. he only cares about winning. he will do whatever it takes to be the center of a team because he thinks that’s the best idea. he was extremely vocal about benching the only trans player, and when he lost, he immediately became extremely vocal that Jacob’s transness was the only reason he won.
that’s not someone who gets chosen as “male athlete of the year”! he might get best male athlete of the year, or MVP, but from everything you’ve said, this is more of a sportsmanship/effort award. your boyfriend is a dick, plain and simple. being competitive explains him being a dick, but it does not excuse it.
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I only mentioned some of what I do. She is happy with our situation while I am not. I thought I was clear about that in my question. I can’t possibly list everything that happens in my house just to paint the right picture. She is happy and does not need to hug me. I am not happy cause I need hugs. That is the conflict.
Look your needs are too niche for general advice in a forum like this. Very few people understand CPTSD including professionals at that.
And people generally don't really understand neurodivergence. This is a combination that is pretty disastrous for advice in a general advice forum.
Don't stress out about being misunderstood. But many people are right you really need to include qualifiers. You need to include that these are factors. But even when you include them people understand them so poorly that they're not going to help much. The thoughts of people are governed by the limits of nature on process going hand in hand with conformity.
He should make an appointment to see a doctor. If that gets no results then I would suggest a sex therapist.
He should make an appointment to see a doctor. If that gets no results then I would suggest a sex therapist.
I wouldn't bother to continue dating someone who compared me to an ex like that. Dude is a 35 year old teenager.
Never be someone's backup plan!
She's abusing you for asking this .
Block him first. Then tell her. “I didn't know that he was married and using me to cheat on you and his family. I am sorry for my unknown participation in this. I have blocked him on everything and want nothing more to do with him. Here are the ss of our conversations and everything. Do with them what you like. I am happy to testify in your divorce proceedings if needed. Otherwise, i will leave you alone.”
Hang fire a mo…
The results are 50/50 Asian/European not parental DNA specific so I wouldn’t actually read too much into this – European as a gestalt entity is vague as Asian as a result, not to mention that a vast number of Europeans have “Asian” dna through migration, the mongol hordes, genetic migration etc. It may simply be that your parents have a higher than average quantity of “Asian” ancestors, culminating in this result. Not to mention these dna tests are notoriously vague and poor for identifying where genes actually come from.
I had a friend who’s LT relationship had basically turned into a roommates situation. One day they were folding laundry and she asked ,” hey, are you truly happy?” and they had a long talk after that and ended it that day. They spilt up in the house and then moved out when their lease was up.
Yeah, I might try something like that. I kinda deserve her being mad anyways so it's water, I'm mostly trying to think of ways to make it up to her.