Take a Christmas card over to where he lives and hand deliver it. If she answers the door tell her it's for him and leave and walk away, if he answers and gets all nervous and scared, dump him right there and walk away. IMO he's playing you and you are his side piece.
You need to leave. You owe it to yourself. What he does and what happens to him is nothing you'd have any control over and it's not your responsibility either. It wouldn't be fair to either of you to be in this relationship.
Whether or not someone misses having heterosexual or homosexual sex is irrelevant.
My bf and I are both bisexual and while we both “miss” having sex with men and women, we love each other and would never ask each other for this “birthday present.”
Your fiance “missing” heterosexual sex doesn't make her requesting this from you justified. She has self control right? Being bisexual doesn't mean you get to ask to have sex with other people and expect your partner to be ok with it.
Not to mention, it’s weird to request someone else go to therapy for something that might be there. This sounds like projection. She is worried about what her friend is telling her, and not appropriately processing her own feelings. Instead they are pushed onto OP. She is who should be seeking some therapy.
I’d take some time to process this whole situation prior to making a decision. But this is not a healthy situation, or way to respond. It’s understandable, but not healthy.
Okay so first of all do not make it a surprise, talk about it. Personally I made this for someone who wanted more extreme abuse and it was a lesbian thing, but perhaps you can get some ideas from it.
Special requests form
Choose your level of depravity. Each level contains an increasing amount of mistreatment. Each level lists the highest amounts of abuse that can occur, and each level contains items of the previous level. Not all items are included in every session.
Level 1) Light choking, slapping from neck below, light hair pulling, clawing, vibrators, forced clothing/stripping, general light roughness, taunting and complementing.
I was hoping that she would at least keep her distance from her coworkers instead of becoming close with them. Even during the relationship she talked about stories with them and say how they’re like her brothers.
She did listen to me when I asked her about it when we first got together, she didn’t explain much other than it’s like the military with “family” bonds.
Take a Christmas card over to where he lives and hand deliver it. If she answers the door tell her it's for him and leave and walk away, if he answers and gets all nervous and scared, dump him right there and walk away. IMO he's playing you and you are his side piece.
You need to leave. You owe it to yourself. What he does and what happens to him is nothing you'd have any control over and it's not your responsibility either. It wouldn't be fair to either of you to be in this relationship.
Whether or not someone misses having heterosexual or homosexual sex is irrelevant.
My bf and I are both bisexual and while we both “miss” having sex with men and women, we love each other and would never ask each other for this “birthday present.”
Your fiance “missing” heterosexual sex doesn't make her requesting this from you justified. She has self control right? Being bisexual doesn't mean you get to ask to have sex with other people and expect your partner to be ok with it.
Not to mention, it’s weird to request someone else go to therapy for something that might be there. This sounds like projection. She is worried about what her friend is telling her, and not appropriately processing her own feelings. Instead they are pushed onto OP. She is who should be seeking some therapy.
I’d take some time to process this whole situation prior to making a decision. But this is not a healthy situation, or way to respond. It’s understandable, but not healthy.
Okay so first of all do not make it a surprise, talk about it. Personally I made this for someone who wanted more extreme abuse and it was a lesbian thing, but perhaps you can get some ideas from it.
Special requests form
Choose your level of depravity. Each level contains an increasing amount of mistreatment. Each level lists the highest amounts of abuse that can occur, and each level contains items of the previous level. Not all items are included in every session.
Level 1) Light choking, slapping from neck below, light hair pulling, clawing, vibrators, forced clothing/stripping, general light roughness, taunting and complementing.
Level 2) Binding, collar and leash, blinders, gagging, tickling, candle wax, ice, increased verbal abuse.
Level 3) Medium whipping, deep throating, anal, nipple clamps, medium face slapping, increased verbal abuse.
Level 4) Giving penetrative, forced masturbation, depriving attention.
Level 5) Prepare your safeword, for there will be pain.
It's two kids, ones just tall.
I was hoping that she would at least keep her distance from her coworkers instead of becoming close with them. Even during the relationship she talked about stories with them and say how they’re like her brothers.
She did listen to me when I asked her about it when we first got together, she didn’t explain much other than it’s like the military with “family” bonds.
You do you,
But I've just realised how delightfully relaxing this sounds.