Yes, and especially for people who were born into a family with racist beliefs. They would always have to break away from them and realize it's wrong and that will take different amounts of time based on how exposed they were to other views, how naturally curious they are etc.
He called you a disgusted manly bitch and made the divorce comment. I really hope you chose not to go through with the wedding (at least delay it) as he should learn actions have consequences & has a lot to make up for.
That disgusted manly bitch comment doesn’t sit right with me, that’s the response of an immature child, not a boyfriend, partner or husband (to be or actually)
continuing on the above, he has very strict standards for cleanliness. He won’t let me wear my own clothes in his apartment, and makes me change into his clothes. He acts like it’s ridiculous and dirty of me to want to wear my own clothes in his place. He also requests I shower every time before I sleep in his bed…. Even if I showed just a couple hours before
He doesn’t want you to wear your own clothes in his place?!? That goes beyond weird and into therapy levels of wtf. Unless he’s actively addressing this, just no.
No I was just making a post and said even though I already know my decision I’m just curious what others would do in this situation and some commentary on it.
When I told him a big part of my job is socializing he got upset because he wants me to just go to work and then go home. I want him to be part of it too! I’m not shy about him at work, I talk about him all the time and I even have a picture of us on my desk like I really want him to be a part of the work events and meet everyone.
In my mind, if I’m jealous about a girl at his work and he’s inviting me to all the events I’d go?? To ease my mind or see if anything I think has any truth to it
My bf is like this now so I know how you feel. It’s definitely depression. Something that always helps now is taking each other outside. On a drive to Walmart, to a playground with the kids, for some reason being in the warm natural sun just uplifts everything and having a conversation with quality time is so much more appealing! When you are feeling unappreciated it’s important to come together in a neutral setting and lay everything on the table.
Yes, and especially for people who were born into a family with racist beliefs. They would always have to break away from them and realize it's wrong and that will take different amounts of time based on how exposed they were to other views, how naturally curious they are etc.
He called you a disgusted manly bitch and made the divorce comment. I really hope you chose not to go through with the wedding (at least delay it) as he should learn actions have consequences & has a lot to make up for.
That disgusted manly bitch comment doesn’t sit right with me, that’s the response of an immature child, not a boyfriend, partner or husband (to be or actually)
Go to AITA and read all of the mixed religions posts. It tends to be a cause of a ton of issues, especially when kids come into play.
Yes I felt I was protecting him at first from reality but I'm just enabling him at this point.
So yes you are 100% of the problem here. Glad to get to the bottom of it.
continuing on the above, he has very strict standards for cleanliness. He won’t let me wear my own clothes in his apartment, and makes me change into his clothes. He acts like it’s ridiculous and dirty of me to want to wear my own clothes in his place. He also requests I shower every time before I sleep in his bed…. Even if I showed just a couple hours before
He doesn’t want you to wear your own clothes in his place?!? That goes beyond weird and into therapy levels of wtf. Unless he’s actively addressing this, just no.
I'd go further than that. I'd take the check, see the therapist a few times, and then say “the therapist told me to dump you.”
No I was just making a post and said even though I already know my decision I’m just curious what others would do in this situation and some commentary on it.
When I told him a big part of my job is socializing he got upset because he wants me to just go to work and then go home. I want him to be part of it too! I’m not shy about him at work, I talk about him all the time and I even have a picture of us on my desk like I really want him to be a part of the work events and meet everyone.
In my mind, if I’m jealous about a girl at his work and he’s inviting me to all the events I’d go?? To ease my mind or see if anything I think has any truth to it
My bf is like this now so I know how you feel. It’s definitely depression. Something that always helps now is taking each other outside. On a drive to Walmart, to a playground with the kids, for some reason being in the warm natural sun just uplifts everything and having a conversation with quality time is so much more appealing! When you are feeling unappreciated it’s important to come together in a neutral setting and lay everything on the table.
She was with her aunt. I’d ask but I don’t have any sort of contact with her family like that.
I was literally going to respond with “How exhausting”
Don't come here for advice from weird strangers
No he hasn’t but he yells really loudly and sometimes has done things like once I spent too much money and he didn’t let me have meat for a week
INFO: are either of you darker skinned or lighter skinned?
You’re pissed over a disappointing sex life that is “amazing.”
I am super confident here.