You don't feel love for her, you feel obsession and infatuation for the version of her in your head and not who she is as an actual person or what it'll actually be to be with her, she's keeping you on back burner either because you're her last resort if she doesn't find anything by like 40 or she wants to tell you no outright but she's not emotionally mature to accept she might lose you as a friend as a result and instead is just being wishy-washy causing you more hurt and headache, either way it doesn't matter because she only cares about how it affects her and not at all about the turmoil going on with you, you need to cut her out of your life and move on
For both of your sakes, you need to (1) tell her how you honestly feel, then, (2) cut her off completely. Unless you want to be with her long term, this is the only way. It will be painful now, but better than any alternative (which is a future with her).
OP This should be the honeymoon phase of the relationship, and he blows up with you in this way?, what is going to happen next time he is sad?, if he behaves like this when is sad, I don't want to think what he would do when he is angry.
Also looks like he started a fight to prevent you from going to the hospital to visit his friend, considering your comments about him not introducing you to.any of his friend, there is a possibility that his “sick friend” is more than just a friend?a Why he turned your act of kindness into a fight?
Even if he is not hiding something, he has impulse control, and you see the red flags, do not ignore them. Maybe he is a great guy, but he is not in the mental space to have a relationship right now. Move on and find someone who treats you well, six months are not worthy of this amount of drama.
You being tired of being alone is not a reason to “settle” and unfairly occupy their time in some of the best dating years of their life. You’re acting out of insecurity.
I’m sure she’d be out instantly if she knew how you’re looking at this, big picture.
If you asked to see his phone out of the blue to try and find something when he gave you no reason to not trust him it would be different. He had already lied to you which of course would break your trust. On top of that he got a Snapchat notification from a woman with a heart next to the name. Based on that I think asking is not unreasonable. He has given you reasons to doubt him.
My husband would have no problems showing me if I asked. Him saying he would rather break up then show you is also telling
Either he was cheating using that phone or he had child porn on it, nothing else should get such a strong reaction unless something we don't know is going on between you 2 like physical abuse, but assuming everything is normal between you 2, you should definitely be thinking about leaving after that cause it's not going to be even slightly ok, think about it like this, he was so scared of you finding whatever it was out that he would rather destroy it in front of you than get caught red handed so he can at least argue that you have no proof and make you feel like the bad guy for pressing too hard
Yeah it seems like the bfs behaviour is escalating. Porn isn't enough, sexting isn't enough, he now needs to harass women and send unsolicited dick pics. I'm sure it won't be long until he starts doing things in person – peeping, flashing, stalking etc.
OP needs to leave asap before she's pulled too far into his shit.
Gonna need context on the division of labor and bread winning in this house. There are as many shitty wives out there as there are husbands.
You don't feel love for her, you feel obsession and infatuation for the version of her in your head and not who she is as an actual person or what it'll actually be to be with her, she's keeping you on back burner either because you're her last resort if she doesn't find anything by like 40 or she wants to tell you no outright but she's not emotionally mature to accept she might lose you as a friend as a result and instead is just being wishy-washy causing you more hurt and headache, either way it doesn't matter because she only cares about how it affects her and not at all about the turmoil going on with you, you need to cut her out of your life and move on
For both of your sakes, you need to (1) tell her how you honestly feel, then, (2) cut her off completely. Unless you want to be with her long term, this is the only way. It will be painful now, but better than any alternative (which is a future with her).
Ok, just a question, did you buy the phone outright, or was it on a payment plan through a phone service?
OP This should be the honeymoon phase of the relationship, and he blows up with you in this way?, what is going to happen next time he is sad?, if he behaves like this when is sad, I don't want to think what he would do when he is angry.
Also looks like he started a fight to prevent you from going to the hospital to visit his friend, considering your comments about him not introducing you to.any of his friend, there is a possibility that his “sick friend” is more than just a friend?a Why he turned your act of kindness into a fight?
Even if he is not hiding something, he has impulse control, and you see the red flags, do not ignore them. Maybe he is a great guy, but he is not in the mental space to have a relationship right now. Move on and find someone who treats you well, six months are not worthy of this amount of drama.
You being tired of being alone is not a reason to “settle” and unfairly occupy their time in some of the best dating years of their life. You’re acting out of insecurity.
I’m sure she’d be out instantly if she knew how you’re looking at this, big picture.
Oh, okay that is good. But that makes it sound like he didn't get tested at the time himself which to me seems a bit odd.
If you asked to see his phone out of the blue to try and find something when he gave you no reason to not trust him it would be different. He had already lied to you which of course would break your trust. On top of that he got a Snapchat notification from a woman with a heart next to the name. Based on that I think asking is not unreasonable. He has given you reasons to doubt him.
My husband would have no problems showing me if I asked. Him saying he would rather break up then show you is also telling
Either he was cheating using that phone or he had child porn on it, nothing else should get such a strong reaction unless something we don't know is going on between you 2 like physical abuse, but assuming everything is normal between you 2, you should definitely be thinking about leaving after that cause it's not going to be even slightly ok, think about it like this, he was so scared of you finding whatever it was out that he would rather destroy it in front of you than get caught red handed so he can at least argue that you have no proof and make you feel like the bad guy for pressing too hard
Yeah it seems like the bfs behaviour is escalating. Porn isn't enough, sexting isn't enough, he now needs to harass women and send unsolicited dick pics. I'm sure it won't be long until he starts doing things in person – peeping, flashing, stalking etc.
OP needs to leave asap before she's pulled too far into his shit.