Your too old for her. And you need to heal before you start something else.
How can she be your best friend at 19? What do you actually have in common? She is barely out of school and your what? Doing your masters? Phd? In another country? Your worlds apart.
Even if you were not as dysfunctional as your ex, you were in a very unhealthy relationship and need to heal before starting something else. Hopping from one relationship to another isn’t healthy.
You don’t need paternity to prove rape if a rape kit was conducted. Semen is what proves it. If the child belongs to OP that doesn’t suddenly make the rapist innocent.
One of the first boundaries (I don't know if that's the right term) we established in our marriage is that our opinions on parenting are equal and parenting decisions are 2-yes, 1-no.
OP has made it extremely clear, he is LEGALLY THE PARENT, and they have agreed that each has the power to veto anything they want.
Do you know what this means? This means that if the kid wants to do 1 thing but a parent, ANY parent, doesn't, then its no, and they both agreed to that.
You asked a question – I answered.
Your too old for her. And you need to heal before you start something else.
How can she be your best friend at 19? What do you actually have in common? She is barely out of school and your what? Doing your masters? Phd? In another country? Your worlds apart.
Even if you were not as dysfunctional as your ex, you were in a very unhealthy relationship and need to heal before starting something else. Hopping from one relationship to another isn’t healthy.
Separate the two activities. You do your birthday and then you go to NYC.
You don’t need paternity to prove rape if a rape kit was conducted. Semen is what proves it. If the child belongs to OP that doesn’t suddenly make the rapist innocent.
The only blind person here is you.
I'll quote it for you :
One of the first boundaries (I don't know if that's the right term) we established in our marriage is that our opinions on parenting are equal and parenting decisions are 2-yes, 1-no.
OP has made it extremely clear, he is LEGALLY THE PARENT, and they have agreed that each has the power to veto anything they want.
Do you know what this means? This means that if the kid wants to do 1 thing but a parent, ANY parent, doesn't, then its no, and they both agreed to that.
No, she knew what you meant en EXPLICITLY said your relationship is strictly professional. Let it go.
So you’re saying the only way your relationship will work is if one of you is miserable?