If everybody is saying something you don’t want to hear it means you have self reflection to do. And subconsciously you know that because you made a post.
You don’t see it, but clearly your guts not right with it. Because it is not. A 5 years gap is nothing for 30/35 or even 25/30 but 13/18 and 19/24 is a big leap. It’s the same timespan but the way you grow in this period is insane and you are not the same from 13 to 19 wouldn’t you agree? If I tell you it’s the same from 19 to 24, you understand where concerns come from?
Be careful and don’t be scared to say no, not now. If she truly loves you she would understand where you are coming from. If not then she will double down on doing this right now.
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Is she making you choose between her and your dad or her and the AP? Because you can still go out with your dad and brothers without her until mom gets over it. I’m assuming this is somewhat fresh.
Just send her the messages and say that if she keeps bothering you or tries to make you the bad guy you will forward them to all mutual friends and family. That’ll do the trick
First get photos of the messages so you can prove it to yourself/others when you expose her.
You didn't throw this away she did, how can you trust her ever again.
seperate anything you have together, bank accounts, finances etc and make a plan to get out, important things, important documents and a friend you can stay with, how to break the lease etc.
Then tell her you know and you are breaking up with her and you want her out of the house. Have a friend there as a witness, one of her friends for support/to get her out of the house.
Sorry mate, please end the relationship for yourself.
Your friend is jealous of you. Unfortunately we might end up being besties with people as horrible as your so called friend. However, the moment you have something they dont they will show their true colours. Dont buy her bs. Tell her you wont tolerate such disrespectful behaviour.
I also dont understand why your bf cant outright tell her she is making him uncomfortable and he doesnt want to hang out anymore. You all are old enough to communicate your boundaries. I think you need to have a chat with him.
Well if you are both into each other you can buy him anything you want.
If everybody is saying something you don’t want to hear it means you have self reflection to do. And subconsciously you know that because you made a post.
You don’t see it, but clearly your guts not right with it. Because it is not. A 5 years gap is nothing for 30/35 or even 25/30 but 13/18 and 19/24 is a big leap. It’s the same timespan but the way you grow in this period is insane and you are not the same from 13 to 19 wouldn’t you agree? If I tell you it’s the same from 19 to 24, you understand where concerns come from?
Be careful and don’t be scared to say no, not now. If she truly loves you she would understand where you are coming from. If not then she will double down on doing this right now.
Be aware.
You can leave someone for any reason.
Leaving for your own mental health- putting yourself first- that is always a valid reason.
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Is she making you choose between her and your dad or her and the AP? Because you can still go out with your dad and brothers without her until mom gets over it. I’m assuming this is somewhat fresh.
Just send her the messages and say that if she keeps bothering you or tries to make you the bad guy you will forward them to all mutual friends and family. That’ll do the trick
Exclusive means just that. You should have made it clear that Exclusive for you didn't mean you gave up on open relationships. This is one you.
This is not about a smell. Its probably (most likely) about control.
Get away from her. If she really cared about you, she never would have done that. And you don't know what else she might do.
Someone DMd me and I accidentally ignored it. But jesus christ i just want someone to talk to about this that doesn't know me personally
First get photos of the messages so you can prove it to yourself/others when you expose her.
You didn't throw this away she did, how can you trust her ever again.
seperate anything you have together, bank accounts, finances etc and make a plan to get out, important things, important documents and a friend you can stay with, how to break the lease etc.
Then tell her you know and you are breaking up with her and you want her out of the house. Have a friend there as a witness, one of her friends for support/to get her out of the house.
Sorry mate, please end the relationship for yourself.
your fiancé is a sociopath and I hope this is fake cause I can't imagine someone as evil as both her father and her exist
Your friend is jealous of you. Unfortunately we might end up being besties with people as horrible as your so called friend. However, the moment you have something they dont they will show their true colours. Dont buy her bs. Tell her you wont tolerate such disrespectful behaviour.
I also dont understand why your bf cant outright tell her she is making him uncomfortable and he doesnt want to hang out anymore. You all are old enough to communicate your boundaries. I think you need to have a chat with him.