This is where the friendship should have ended, honestly. You should have distanced yourself so that he could get over you. If you've continued to have a flirtatious relationship with him, that sounds like torture to me. This is hopefully a lesson not to let people dangle like this in future if you know they have unreciprocated feelings for you.
Sit down for coffee with him and tell him that while you care about him, your feelings aren't romantic and the song was not about him. Let him know that it's difficult but you think it's best for both of you to end the friendship. If he protests, stand firm. You can also invoke having respect for your relationship, as most monogamous people would not be comfortable with someone having a “best friend” who is openly in love with them.
Cheaters seldom change, and his behavior is so sus. I wouldn’t be surprised if they’d been hooking up longer than you know. Dump him, you can find better than this.
Except it sounds like she’s getting the same procedures she’s always had, plus maybe Botox which at her age will be preventative. You just don’t like it now that you’ve peaked behind the curtain so to speak.
He’s counting on you not to make a scene. If you talk calmly and non threatening he won’t know what to say. It will make you look good, not cause an atmosphere
You need to firmly tell him that anal sex is no longer something you're willing to try and you do not want to be harassed into changing your mind.
If anal sex is more important to him than your relationship you might as well find out now. It's clear anal sex is more important than your comfort and well being. Oh, and trust me, it will not be one time and he's done.
This seems beyond fiction, but I will play along. OP you made your choice 4 years ago, this is just your son's reasonable reaction to it. There was no way it wouldn't end this way.
Statistics don't matter. It has happened before, it happens now and it will happen in the future. It may be a 1 in a 1000 thing, but you could be the one. It will damage the relationship to ask for one, sure, just like it would damage it not to ask for one if you have any doubts. If I ask you for a test and I am the only possible dad, why would you deny it if you have nothing to hide?
Honestly, I can't see why mandatory paternity tests are not a thing. It carries 0 risk to mother, father or child (literal 0% risk, it's not like a “routine” surgery where there is always a tiny chance of something going wrong, even if it has been made a million times before without a problem. This is effectively 0 risk, even the pre natal tests) and it would help detecting these paternity frauds, even if they are rare. I don't know why you think it is misogynist to ask for this lol.
GF should have told you after they tried to get you guys to hang out the first time.
You don’t mention what relationship your GF has with the bridesmaid or husband – are they friends or friends of friends ? If so then GF needs to cut them off completely. They knowingly tried to sabotage your relationship.
He told me he was completely in love with me
This is where the friendship should have ended, honestly. You should have distanced yourself so that he could get over you. If you've continued to have a flirtatious relationship with him, that sounds like torture to me. This is hopefully a lesson not to let people dangle like this in future if you know they have unreciprocated feelings for you.
Sit down for coffee with him and tell him that while you care about him, your feelings aren't romantic and the song was not about him. Let him know that it's difficult but you think it's best for both of you to end the friendship. If he protests, stand firm. You can also invoke having respect for your relationship, as most monogamous people would not be comfortable with someone having a “best friend” who is openly in love with them.
Kind, but direct and firm.
Cheaters seldom change, and his behavior is so sus. I wouldn’t be surprised if they’d been hooking up longer than you know. Dump him, you can find better than this.
Except it sounds like she’s getting the same procedures she’s always had, plus maybe Botox which at her age will be preventative. You just don’t like it now that you’ve peaked behind the curtain so to speak.
18k?!!!!!!
Wow. I would get a lawyer if I were you, to see if you can be untangled financially from him with the credit card bills for p0rn during the divorce.
If you're staying put (not divorcing him), at least contact a lawyer to create a postnup agreement that he will be fully responsible for that bill.
Make sure you find out he's not hiding other CCs…
He’s counting on you not to make a scene. If you talk calmly and non threatening he won’t know what to say. It will make you look good, not cause an atmosphere
You need to firmly tell him that anal sex is no longer something you're willing to try and you do not want to be harassed into changing your mind.
If anal sex is more important to him than your relationship you might as well find out now. It's clear anal sex is more important than your comfort and well being. Oh, and trust me, it will not be one time and he's done.
This seems beyond fiction, but I will play along. OP you made your choice 4 years ago, this is just your son's reasonable reaction to it. There was no way it wouldn't end this way.
Statistics don't matter. It has happened before, it happens now and it will happen in the future. It may be a 1 in a 1000 thing, but you could be the one. It will damage the relationship to ask for one, sure, just like it would damage it not to ask for one if you have any doubts. If I ask you for a test and I am the only possible dad, why would you deny it if you have nothing to hide?
Honestly, I can't see why mandatory paternity tests are not a thing. It carries 0 risk to mother, father or child (literal 0% risk, it's not like a “routine” surgery where there is always a tiny chance of something going wrong, even if it has been made a million times before without a problem. This is effectively 0 risk, even the pre natal tests) and it would help detecting these paternity frauds, even if they are rare. I don't know why you think it is misogynist to ask for this lol.
No you handled it right.
GF should have told you after they tried to get you guys to hang out the first time.
You don’t mention what relationship your GF has with the bridesmaid or husband – are they friends or friends of friends ? If so then GF needs to cut them off completely. They knowingly tried to sabotage your relationship.