Think about it, why would the ex feel uncomfortable with you going? If he and your gf has truly resolve their issue and now only see each other as friends they wouldn't have a problem with you coming to this party
If your gf was respectful of her relationship with you she would've either declined going or insisted you come, but instead she agreed with her EX that it would be uncomfortable if you went, ask yourself why would both your gf and her ex be uncomfortable with you there? What were they planning to do that if you go they can no longer do it? If they truly don't intend on doing anything, whether you go or don't go to the party wouldn't have anyone feeling uncomfortable.
The simple fact she puts aside your feelings of you being uncomfortable with her going to a party with her ex and instead puts her ex's feelings of him being uncomfortable if you came as her top priority says alot, she literally care more about her ex's feelings than yours.
You may hate me for saying this but when she does infact cheat on you at this party, will you continue to look on as “I'm not gonna leave her cause it'll just be a massive waste of 10 – 11 months”?
Where are you guys at in life? Both working and started your careers? Live on your own? Self sufficient? I really think age doesn’t matter much, everyone doesn’t feel the same, but if you guys are leading similar lives I can’t imagine it’s a dealbreaker for him.
If he wont say he's sorry that means he has no remorse and will do it again, there's no sense in even trying to move forward with him, he's right and you're wrong in his eyes end of story.
He isn’t allowed to dictate what sexual acts you are or aren’t comfortable with, and demanding you do something you don’t enjoy is definitely not cool.
However, he wouldn’t be in the wrong for deciding that this is a deal breaker for him and that your sexual incompatibility means you can’t be together. Giving/receiving oral sex is a huge part of most people’s sex lives and if that’s a firm boundary for you, I can understand why he’d be frustrated with your sex life.
As for being “swayed by his friend,” I think maybe his friend talking about him made him realize how much he’s giving up sexually and perhaps released some buried frustration with your sex life. While the way your sex life is right now may be working great for you, it seems as though he’s been sacrificing his needs and maybe those feelings just came out after this talk with his friend.
Honest answer, as unstable as she is its better that she not be around him with yalls relationship entirely up in the air. He's young enough rn to forget her, he doesn't need her lingering around if yalls relationship is in the process of disintegrating. She isn't his mother.
I had this issue with a step mom. She left and thought she had like rights to my kid. It got ugly and took a restraining order to convince her otherwise. Fuckin psycho. Don't let people get close to your kid unless you know you can trust them. You don't know that about her. Probably best to move on entirely.
I don’t like my birthday. I don’t want people hassling me to celebrate it. I don’t want a present because even if it’s something I want it’ll be the wrong one or it’s just tainted.
On my birthday I get to do what I want to do! People who want to force me to have my birthday the way they want to piss me off!
I’m reasonably polite most of the time. I participate in Christmas and other people’s birthdays as required. Im angry just thinking about all the times I was forced to politely sit because other people wanted to impose their birthday preferences on me.
It’s his birthday. You’re not the main character. He’s given you the list. Do as he asks.
Shit I just recently bought my wife two new ones
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Think about it, why would the ex feel uncomfortable with you going? If he and your gf has truly resolve their issue and now only see each other as friends they wouldn't have a problem with you coming to this party
If your gf was respectful of her relationship with you she would've either declined going or insisted you come, but instead she agreed with her EX that it would be uncomfortable if you went, ask yourself why would both your gf and her ex be uncomfortable with you there? What were they planning to do that if you go they can no longer do it? If they truly don't intend on doing anything, whether you go or don't go to the party wouldn't have anyone feeling uncomfortable.
The simple fact she puts aside your feelings of you being uncomfortable with her going to a party with her ex and instead puts her ex's feelings of him being uncomfortable if you came as her top priority says alot, she literally care more about her ex's feelings than yours.
You may hate me for saying this but when she does infact cheat on you at this party, will you continue to look on as “I'm not gonna leave her cause it'll just be a massive waste of 10 – 11 months”?
I don't have much advice, but I commend you for trying to take care of your sister
Where are you guys at in life? Both working and started your careers? Live on your own? Self sufficient? I really think age doesn’t matter much, everyone doesn’t feel the same, but if you guys are leading similar lives I can’t imagine it’s a dealbreaker for him.
If he wont say he's sorry that means he has no remorse and will do it again, there's no sense in even trying to move forward with him, he's right and you're wrong in his eyes end of story.
He isn’t allowed to dictate what sexual acts you are or aren’t comfortable with, and demanding you do something you don’t enjoy is definitely not cool.
However, he wouldn’t be in the wrong for deciding that this is a deal breaker for him and that your sexual incompatibility means you can’t be together. Giving/receiving oral sex is a huge part of most people’s sex lives and if that’s a firm boundary for you, I can understand why he’d be frustrated with your sex life.
As for being “swayed by his friend,” I think maybe his friend talking about him made him realize how much he’s giving up sexually and perhaps released some buried frustration with your sex life. While the way your sex life is right now may be working great for you, it seems as though he’s been sacrificing his needs and maybe those feelings just came out after this talk with his friend.
This is a unrealistic view to have.
Honest answer, as unstable as she is its better that she not be around him with yalls relationship entirely up in the air. He's young enough rn to forget her, he doesn't need her lingering around if yalls relationship is in the process of disintegrating. She isn't his mother.
I had this issue with a step mom. She left and thought she had like rights to my kid. It got ugly and took a restraining order to convince her otherwise. Fuckin psycho. Don't let people get close to your kid unless you know you can trust them. You don't know that about her. Probably best to move on entirely.
Very odd post indeed, but I’m just going to go with the flow and assume it’s real.
I don’t like my birthday. I don’t want people hassling me to celebrate it. I don’t want a present because even if it’s something I want it’ll be the wrong one or it’s just tainted.
On my birthday I get to do what I want to do! People who want to force me to have my birthday the way they want to piss me off!
I’m reasonably polite most of the time. I participate in Christmas and other people’s birthdays as required. Im angry just thinking about all the times I was forced to politely sit because other people wanted to impose their birthday preferences on me.
It’s his birthday. You’re not the main character. He’s given you the list. Do as he asks.