Hey, you're still very young. If that's a deal breaker for you then you'll never be happy with her and will ultimately lead to the end of the relationship.
Just move on and try to meet some other amazing woman.
He doesn’t listen when you talk about it and you don’t wanna leave him so what else are you supposed to do? You should’ve have moved in with someone who isn’t house trained.
Get tested on your way out of this relationship. She isn't a good person. I also thinks she may go nuts when you break up with her so always have your phone on record and or a person with you. If it's your apartment, pack her stuff and tell her to come get her stuff but if it's hers then you pack and leave. Never discuss anything in private always have a witness. I'm sorry OP.
Please don't follow this advise if you want the actual truth. Talking only works is she is a terrible lier or she is innocent. If she actually is cheating this will just start the lies and gaslighting.
Check her phone when she is asleep or when possible, I know this is intrusive but anything on the phone will be gone after the first accusation.
Listen, if he did something like this he’s probably done things behind your back before. The comment about not telling you if he wasn’t caught pretty much solidifies that. If you stay he will definitely repeat this behaviour in the future.
It doesn’t matter how he’s behaving after he got caught (trying to make it up to you), the fact he went behind your back and betrayed your trust in the first place shows his true feelings towards you and your relationship.
Your son will be ok if you get a divorce. Teaching him to know when to walk away from someone who is disrespectful of your boundaries is a much better lesson to teach him than staying as a dysfunctional couple who bicker and don’t trust each other.
It definitely feels like the task of fixing her issues rests on my shoulders. Is there a way to figure out if she’s manipulating on purpose or if she actually believes she’s doing the right thing?
But it's okay to be mean to them behind their back right? You can be mean to someone behind their back and still think you're a decent and kind person?
I can't help but to feel like he settled for me because I'm the safe option.
No hun, he CHOSE you. There is a massive difference.
He could have continued to try to pursue something with her based solely on her looks. But he didn't. He recognised that looks aren't everything & that an ugly personality can be a deal breaker. He then chose to be with you. And he does, every single day.
If he didn't find you attractive, he wouldn't be with you.
Comparing yourself to others is only going to cause you pain, because there is ALWAYS going to be someone who is prettier, smarter, funnier, more artistic, thinner, curvier, taller, shorter…
If he wanted to be with someone else, then he wouldn't be with you.
Lol what a loser. What you do is divorce this apparently dickless man. Find someone who appreciates you for who you are, for your skills, for what you do for your family. Your life partner should be proud of you, not call you a lesbian because he's insecure due to his own incompetence and laziness.
It’s totally ok to be upset, things change and it’s made you feel lonely. Your friends in relationships now have different priorities, they want to put their partner first before their friends which is ok. It happens all through your 20s. I think the more mature a couple gets the better they get at time management, it might be a bit easier to meet up with them further down the line. Personally I don’t really see an issue if it’s a repeated, on going thing, to tell said friend you haven’t seen them in ages and that you’d quite like to see them sometime. Sometimes I do think people forget to maintain friendships when they’re younger and it really does bite them back when they get older.
The only advice I can give is that you either make more friends, become better friends with anyone that’s single in your group (ie anyone that has the time) or see your friends and their partners as a package deal and invite them to stuff together. You can do all of this tbh.
Then every time he watches porn he's cheating. Dump the immature loser
You are feeling like you have to marry her, you are 2 months in and she is pregnant.
Was that planned? No Does it link you to her for your whole life? Yes, even if you don't want to.
So yes, trapped
Hey, you're still very young. If that's a deal breaker for you then you'll never be happy with her and will ultimately lead to the end of the relationship.
Just move on and try to meet some other amazing woman.
He doesn’t listen when you talk about it and you don’t wanna leave him so what else are you supposed to do? You should’ve have moved in with someone who isn’t house trained.
Get tested on your way out of this relationship. She isn't a good person. I also thinks she may go nuts when you break up with her so always have your phone on record and or a person with you. If it's your apartment, pack her stuff and tell her to come get her stuff but if it's hers then you pack and leave. Never discuss anything in private always have a witness. I'm sorry OP.
Oh the humanity! I am deeply ashamed. Thank you for setting me straight.
Can you Imagine what her life is going to look like after this?
Please don't follow this advise if you want the actual truth. Talking only works is she is a terrible lier or she is innocent. If she actually is cheating this will just start the lies and gaslighting.
Check her phone when she is asleep or when possible, I know this is intrusive but anything on the phone will be gone after the first accusation.
Listen, if he did something like this he’s probably done things behind your back before. The comment about not telling you if he wasn’t caught pretty much solidifies that. If you stay he will definitely repeat this behaviour in the future.
It doesn’t matter how he’s behaving after he got caught (trying to make it up to you), the fact he went behind your back and betrayed your trust in the first place shows his true feelings towards you and your relationship.
Your son will be ok if you get a divorce. Teaching him to know when to walk away from someone who is disrespectful of your boundaries is a much better lesson to teach him than staying as a dysfunctional couple who bicker and don’t trust each other.
It definitely feels like the task of fixing her issues rests on my shoulders. Is there a way to figure out if she’s manipulating on purpose or if she actually believes she’s doing the right thing?
But it's okay to be mean to them behind their back right? You can be mean to someone behind their back and still think you're a decent and kind person?
I can't help but to feel like he settled for me because I'm the safe option.
No hun, he CHOSE you. There is a massive difference.
He could have continued to try to pursue something with her based solely on her looks. But he didn't. He recognised that looks aren't everything & that an ugly personality can be a deal breaker. He then chose to be with you. And he does, every single day.
If he didn't find you attractive, he wouldn't be with you.
Comparing yourself to others is only going to cause you pain, because there is ALWAYS going to be someone who is prettier, smarter, funnier, more artistic, thinner, curvier, taller, shorter…
If he wanted to be with someone else, then he wouldn't be with you.
Don't let your insecurity destroy something good.
Do you think Op and her husband can visit her family in her country since it was necessary? Did that fix it?
Lol what a loser. What you do is divorce this apparently dickless man. Find someone who appreciates you for who you are, for your skills, for what you do for your family. Your life partner should be proud of you, not call you a lesbian because he's insecure due to his own incompetence and laziness.
It’s totally ok to be upset, things change and it’s made you feel lonely. Your friends in relationships now have different priorities, they want to put their partner first before their friends which is ok. It happens all through your 20s. I think the more mature a couple gets the better they get at time management, it might be a bit easier to meet up with them further down the line. Personally I don’t really see an issue if it’s a repeated, on going thing, to tell said friend you haven’t seen them in ages and that you’d quite like to see them sometime. Sometimes I do think people forget to maintain friendships when they’re younger and it really does bite them back when they get older.
The only advice I can give is that you either make more friends, become better friends with anyone that’s single in your group (ie anyone that has the time) or see your friends and their partners as a package deal and invite them to stuff together. You can do all of this tbh.
This is what I usually go with. But I wanted to get others opinions.