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Sounds pretty reasonable to me. Perhaps your gf is asking a bit much here and she's just unreasonably jealous.
Damn you’re right and I know that, none of our families want us to be together. I kept ignoring other red flags as long as I thought he was loyal and committed than I thought we’d push through and work on issues but when someone is a liar and so easily dishonest there’s nothing left and I need to accept that. I won’t stay because it shows the wrong message but I’m so sad because I love him .
He dodged a bullet.
It’s literally meaningless
Exactly. One day at a time and ppl usually recommend going to the gym as a distraction, which has positive sideffects too. Or any activity thats beneficial
Do all males…
No
She was emotionally abusive. You separated. She became physically abusive. You got back together. She was nice then she got worst. She's tearing the family apart. She's also teaching your kids what love looks like. I don't assume that's what you want for your kids. You haven't mentioned one bit about your happiness. Just what she wants and how she manipulates you. Nothing here sounds salvageable.
I think that’s insightful of you to recognize. She wants the security of you as a partner without any of the sacrifice required in recognizing you as her partner and teammate.
You’ve pointed this out yourself, so now the question you have to ask yourself is: what do you want? The other comments suggest that you’ve posted this several times, so it seems like you’re perhaps looking for a specific answer. What is it that you need in a relationship? Not this relationship, but any relationship. And if you’re not getting what you need, what can you do to change that for yourself.
You keep asking for advice, but ultimately you know better than anyone which decision will be best for you. Good luck pal
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OP, you were groomed at 16 by an adult. That is disgusting, and now his even older brother is trying to fuck you. Please come to your sense and escape these people.
28 year old man starts dating an 18 year old, never enables her to gain independence, and becomes jealous when she tries to find it. He’s a grown man who will be perfectly fine if you break things off. He knew the risks involved with dating someone who had just left their teen years and never had a chance to get on their feet independently. You’re only responding positively to comments that don’t mention the age gap because you’re in denial about the fact he’s not the person you think he is.
I’ve dealt with a million age gaps and they only have a chance of working when both partners begin the relationship as independent, self-sustaining people. Gaps where a partner swoops in to cage up a younger partner naturally end with the younger partner becoming restless for freedom. My perspective is that you should let the guy on his way to his 40s deal with the “heartbreak” and actually use your 20s to find self sustenance. Once you have independence, you will find a more suitable partner who won’t view you as someone who can easily be tied down.
You are so lucky that there are more than 2 men in the world. You are not in an either/or situation.
What you do is cut off the old bf who has never and will never treat you well. Stop seeing him. Stop talking to him. He doesn’t have to agree to break up – you can just stop seeing him.
Then, date the other guy if you want, or date a lot of other guys.
I am mostly on this subreddit to provide a more nuanced voice to those who yell 'red flag', 'gaslighting' and 'divorce” at every post they see, but this is one of the few times where I'd say that there is no way to fix this relationship at all. I'm very sorry so much of your time and energy has been wasted. Best of luck to you and your kids.
I'm not clingy. I'm just in a lot of pain. I'm going to therapy and he's a loner to the extreme. He doesn't really talk or have a lot of genuine conversation. I am a loner myself, I just want to be around the guy I date at least once a week or once every two weeks.
It never ends well
This is such a good response! I really don't see many men being aware of how their perception of women and their behavior in relationships is so impacted by the constant flood of sexualized images of women. You're right, the only way to resolve this is communication. A lot of men genuinely do not understand how giving attention to other women like that can be hurtful. Because they have indeed been conditioned to see that as normal and fair. Go talk to him girl! If he really respects you and cares how you feel, you'll be able to reach an agreement together.
She cheated on you, has no remorse for her actions, and goes as far to say if you weren’t there she would have done more.
I guess I left this out of the OP (maybe subconsciously) but she was definitely remorseful.
Not that it matters too much I guess.
Thanks for your reply.
A lot of guys just wouldn't date a sex worker no matter how much they liked them as a person, so even if you had a true connection with the guy he might still chose to ignore it because he doesn't want to date a sex worker.
You should not have become a fwb with i guy you already had feelings for. Next time , give the guy a heads up you are looking for more in the long term before you jump in.
I can't see the point of FWB 99% of the time tbh , if you know you don't ever want more than sex why bother. Just masturbate and be actual friends , that way you never have to break up.
This is really, really trying to find faults to OP in my opinion.
The line was fine, flirting asks for a bit of impertinence sometimes; the difference between aggressiveness and playfulness is in the details: the context -e.g. did OP perceive a bit of chemistry and banter in their convo before, was it the cold opening of the conversation-, his tone, attitude, non-verbal communication… all of which we don't know. But really, we're splitting hairs when the simplest explanation is that she was never interested from the start and whatever proposal OP made would have resulted in a similar outcome.
I don't think he should bring it up again for now, nor he has any reason to apologize unless he botched the delivery way more than just his choices of words. At worst, if he wants to stay friends with her and he sees there's some awkwardness between them, he can clear the air by letting her know that he got the message, he doesn't mind and will respect her boundaries.
Damn, I’m getting just trampled in these replies 🙂 fitting since many are saying that I’m getting walked all over.
they travel overseas to usually impoverished areas (from my understanding but it doesn’t have to be) and have sex with foreign women
yea this is a better definition than the one i offered. very gross/strange imo
This.
First of all, you are not 15, whit that been said, wether that’s his intention or not at the end of the day is your call, you decide not him. If feel for it then let it happen if not then you say no, and that’s ok too.
Lmao ur hilarious. I cannot imagine my husband saying some shit like this. ?
He pays for 90% of our things because he earns alot more than i do. And i still work and pick up expenses where we get stuck or lack aswell during the month.
And we do kind of have a traditional view on our marriage in a sense that i do most of the household chores but again it's because he works later hours than i do and i actually enjoy cooking for him and doing things for him.
But this you are under him bullshit. ? or he can have me do everything by myself and he sits and sips a beer on the couch while im barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen making him and the boys snacks.
How is this a marriage? Or a relationship. Finances arent the be all and end all to a relationship. There is respect, love, care, communication and trust.
Who gives a shit if a dude pays for everything bt can't give an ounce of support to his partner. I know alot of woman that wldnt ever deal with tht bullshit. Traditional or not.
Id throw a damn pillow at him if he ever comes tells me this nonsense. Imagine raising children with a man who thinks like OPs bf.
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I do not think you even spent enough time with him to know if he is right for you or not.
See if he will date you , A guy is usually not gonna use his whole weekend on a girl he does not care about.
Maybe he needs a friend more than you do and he's just being awkward about it.
I think you just need to be blunt – your situation has changed and you're not open to adding friendships now. You are focusing on yourself. All the best.
Or maybe… You could benefit from a new friend. As annoying as he is. I don't know lol
I know you said that he is often enabled by your future in-laws, but what I would suggest is having a very serious sit down with him. No coffee, no beer, no pizza, no chips, just 2 men on a porch or balcony or whatever. Look him dead in the eyes and tell him you being so on the level with him about this is a show of good faith that you are going to take him at his word and that no matter what he does, you will be marrying his sister and he gets to decide the tone of the relationship for the rest of your lives. Tell him in no uncertain terms that if he can't look you in the eyes and tell you he can put away the family jester bit so for one day so the most important day of you and his sister's life can be beautiful and everything you have both dreamed of, then he is welcome to not be a part of it, but he is not welcome to show and make y'all's day about him.
You are both grown men. If he can't accept putting himself second for your fiancee for one day that plate is better eaten by someone who respects you. If he can't respect a serious boundary as a grown ass man, then he shouldn't be allowed to approach the fence.
I think you should just start taking him, I think that's what your sister is doing with her boyfriend.
If your boyfriend is frequently out of town for work, please don't be blaming your parents for that. It may be building an unfounded resentment that you don't need.
Everything in me is screaming to get a BFA or cohabitation agreement in place before two years together. What should I do?
Yup. That sounds about right.
Just get it much sooner, like ASAP. Don't drag your feet on crap like this.
Good for him. He did the right thing.
I understand how you feel personally and you’re allowed to want that in your relationship
What you’re pointing out what YOU want and SHE wants in a relationship, and that simply doesn’t seem to be the case as to who HE is.. and how he preferred to respond.
See we all have different tastes if I ask my partner a question I want and expect an honest answer – if I don’t then I won’t ask. If I’m needing a boost of confidence I don’t look to my partner to lie to me to provide it – I look withen myself and see WHY this matters..
I too have saggy breasts but I don’t feel shame because I was able to let go of the social shame and stigma around my natural breasts.. if I was sitting on my partner and the same situation arose where I felt insecure I would ask myself why I felt this feeling – is it 1… I’m feeling insecure about somthing because society told me to OR am I feeling needy for my partners love.. do I not feel his attraction to me.
If it was 1.. I would work on myself.. if it was 2 I would sit down for a talk with him and tell him how I was feeling..
We are all different and need to find partners we are compatible with.. if she’s wanting him to react a certain way because she asked a loaded question then maybe they simply arnt compatible.
Relative to the one who raised you..yesterday
Bring home takeout purely for OP. Let him watch OP eat while he has nothing. Then water plants, bath, lock him out of the bedroom until he wakes up and starts being a partner instead of a leech.
Bring home takeout purely for OP. Let him watch OP eat while he has nothing. Then water plants, bath, lock him out of the bedroom until he wakes up and starts being a partner instead of a leech.
I apologise in advance if I’m unable to respond, but I’m trying to read comments as soon as they pop up, but I’m not seeing any, or seeing “deleted.”
He’s willing to not circumcise them if she converts. Also most Jewish people consider the heritage matrilineal. If the mother isn’t Jewish the kids aren’t either. The whole thing is kind of off
You can ask whatever you want. You're allowed.
She doesn't have to answer.
Even if she does that doesn't mean anything about you or your relationship. (example: I have been married over a decade and still have some books etc. that an ex gave me.)
Prepare yourself for many possible answers, including yes, no, some, that's not your business, etc.
Imagine being mad at someone for not paying your food and drink bill? If that sounds ridiculous to you, that's because it is.
How dare you react to your own feelings and act as if you are a person.
Take a bow and pat yourself on the back
You ditch the GF who is insecure and jealous. Don’t dump friends for a partner. It’s just immature and silly for her to be asking this of you. Lots of people are like your GF and are insecure and possessive but that doesn’t mean it’s right.
If my partner told me I had to ditch long time friends just because they’re opposite sex, I’d be out. Most of them have been around long before I met him. Love my partner and he wouldn’t ask that of me nor me of him but just sayin’….if he did, I’d be out. I want to be partnered with someone who has a secure attachment style.
That’s fair – but clearly not the way they see it, which is just a matter of perspective really (they have zero understanding of your reasoning/decision process, so they only see it as a “game” that they need to be in to win)
I’m glad that you are so miserable with your own life, you have to come to Reddit to talk shit about other peoples lives. I hope you have a better day today than you clearly have been ?
No an other person can set boundaries from the other partner simple if you cheat I leave if you don't respect me I leave…. those are boundaries. Boundaries are also ” if you put yourself in a situation that makes me nit trust you, by going out and lie about it then you loose my respect. If you don't want to have that behaviour from me you should stop behaving like that.” That is a boundary. Control is when you are like ” I control you with your female friends because I don't trust you”. That is control. When you make clear what is toxic and what is not toxic in your mind then you will have a calm life . Until then you will simply act like “if it is meant to be then it is meant to be, or if we are truly compatible then it is goito work without actually having to put work in the relationship to work”.
You are not asking too much BUT he is unwilling to change. You want a more engaged BF. That’s very reasonable. This guy is just not the right fit for you. He’s content with how things are. You’re the one unsatisfied. (I think him liking other posts but never yours is questionable.)
One of the BIGGEST mistakes women make when dating is to try and change their partner. If you’re dating the right person it shouldn’t be this hard. You have to break up yourself. Don’t play this game I gave him a chance to break up. It makes you look weak. A good partner will make you feel confident in your relationship.
True, but what other way do you put it
I have a question… were you born headless or did this condition arise since? SERIOUSLY?! I mean I know you're 21 and all but under no scenario nor any circumstances is it OK for a newlywed with a baby to interact with people of the opposite sex by text (except for the occasional necessity) and ESPECIALLY not by Snap. I dont care if all this was/is platonic… Never.
You claim you never hid these communications yet your wife only found out about it by going thru ur phone unbeknownst to you. Dude… what you did was a lie by omission. By not telling her, that's the same as a lie.
PLUS the fact that 1. you haven't apologized and even if you have, it means nothing bc you dont see a probem.
Son the problem here is far more than just this act. The problem is that from what you've said here, have no self-awareness, have little or no appreciation or care for your wife's feelings, and the fact that you are blind to this tells me you immature and that at this time in your life you have no business being a husband or father.
One day (hopefully) you'll see all this and you'll want to repair things. So my only suggestion to you is dont burn bridges with her. Do not try to defend yourself. There is no defense. Bbn but keep the lines of communication open for that child and you.