Allow about a week before sitting her down and telling her how she is making you feel. Tell her that you feel like the 2nd choice, that you don't feel wanted. Ask her if you passed right now, would she even notice? She needs to understand, even in her grief, that she is risking her marriage over this. She needs to come clean 'cause she has been hiding the truth and it is undermining the foundation of your relationship.
If she still refuses, I would suggest giving her some time to accept her loss and then press for marriage counseling. She may not be in the right place emotionally for any discussion for a while.
Something in your favor is that she obviously called you home to sooth her. You were her go to. Remember that before digging too hard. You have time on your side. Be patient.
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Your GF letting someone else influence your relationship and completely changing her opinion of you reminds me of that Reddit story about the girl that killed her kids
Yes, it would be better because they would be closer in age. Have none of y’all fucking watched To Catch A Predator? Do you have any idea how many 19 year olds were going after 14 and 15 year olds? A LOT.
Allow about a week before sitting her down and telling her how she is making you feel. Tell her that you feel like the 2nd choice, that you don't feel wanted. Ask her if you passed right now, would she even notice? She needs to understand, even in her grief, that she is risking her marriage over this. She needs to come clean 'cause she has been hiding the truth and it is undermining the foundation of your relationship.
If she still refuses, I would suggest giving her some time to accept her loss and then press for marriage counseling. She may not be in the right place emotionally for any discussion for a while.
Something in your favor is that she obviously called you home to sooth her. You were her go to. Remember that before digging too hard. You have time on your side. Be patient.
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“I'm going to therapy now and really trying to better myself as a person”
Just focus on this and forget the rest!
You think they are going to make out when you're not around?
Your GF letting someone else influence your relationship and completely changing her opinion of you reminds me of that Reddit story about the girl that killed her kids
Yes, it would be better because they would be closer in age. Have none of y’all fucking watched To Catch A Predator? Do you have any idea how many 19 year olds were going after 14 and 15 year olds? A LOT.
This is what you should be saying:
I love her and I want things to work out but I can never forgive her.
The relationship is as good as over. Things like this are really hard to comeback from.
You don't need advice. You need to use your brain. Always sneaky? Liar? Cheated? Come on man…
Advice: Don’t join a cult
We must have read very different posts.
Does the OP sound happy to you?
Do you think that if only the Wednesday night bowling fiasco hadn't happen, everything would be sunny here???