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Yeah I am making it a big deal… it’s the anxious attachment i think. The ‘I only feel as safe as our last interaction’ always hits me
Thank you. We actually talked about premarital counseling after this all happened but we never took it further. I have been thinking about it for myself though. I know that if this were the other way around I would have absolutely no problem standing up for him to my best friend. Doesn’t matter how close someone is to me, I wouldn’t put up with them disrespecting my fiancé
I don't see any downside to anyone but me in this instance.
I think this is a case where it makes sense to write a letter to your friend and then burn it.
And here I am going to say something very controversial which is going to get a lot of hate thrown at me even though it's true. And I think it's at the root of your dilemma.
Your friend is no more responsible for his pedophiliac instincts than someone born autistic is responsible for their condition. This is true and people are going to freak for it being said out loud. Because they're going to say I'm excusing it. I'm not.
But your friend doesn't want to be a pedophiliac. That's the way he was made. He's defective. He still needs to be locked up because he is dangerous, and he can't control himself. I'm not excusing his behavior. If he was my next-door neighbor, I'd treat him the same way I'd treat a rabid wolf. I'd take the threat out. But he didn't ask to be this way. He was born with a curse on him. And it's kind of sad.
You said “his” a lot considering yhis is a person with 2 other people living in the house. Lol
You say you've never felt scared of him, but that he has a habit of persistently pushing boundaries to the point that you have to be really forceful with it. He also describes you as getting easily upset, something you seem to feel a pressure to disprove.
My thought here is that he hasn't escalated to this degree before now because he's never needed to; when it came to casually getting what he wants, that pushiness and the pressure to “not be upset easily” acted as enough of a deterrent, and you being forceful meant he couldn't do it anyway. Now he's unsatisfied, so he's escalating and seeing if he can get away with more.
It’s cheating in my opinion OP. Would you feel any different whether your girlfriend sucked another guy’s dick vs just gave him a peck on the dick? Both are unacceptable.
Get yourself check for STD constantly
“I don't want you talking to other people”
Ah, no. Waving a giant red flag there regardless of the rest of the story.
Just to let you know when that happened and when I committed her, she did get the help she needed when she needed it at that time for all I know she’s good now
I know I can't have him. He belongs to her. I just don't feel like I can lose him completely
You literally said it…. And you’ve only known her for a month and she’s about to move. It’s common sense.
Being a bigger woman doesn't give you bigger labia or vice versa.
couples counseling is for older married people with something to lose. you have none. you're waaayyy to young to be stuck up with this bullshit. break up.
Tell her, she deserves to know what a pos man she has.
Big mistake.
worst of all i didn't get to eat the delicious cake that they brought.
My friend, you've got your priorities straight here!
What would the best way to handle this be. I was thinking probably just give them space and wait for contact from them and go from there. Good idea or no?
The patrician choice here is to rock up with the mountain of a man and ask if you can have the cake – unlike them you called, text and got no replies and just like them you've turned up expecting something.
Chuckles aside here I guess the straightforward thing to do is continue as normal – it very much “is how it is” at this point and the only question is how they're processing your “coming out” (or was it, at the time, going in?) and if this is going to affect your relationship.
If positively and they can get over the embarrassment? Good! Also, get cake. If negatively and they can't get over embarrassment or your preferences? Well, you'll need to go get the cake.
Things like this happen far too often unfortunately and I guess the only thing to add is “next time lock, bar and barricade the door”, or at least charge admission.
Stop being a doormat OP and leave him.
What a massive creep he and all his friends are. By the sounds of it he probably talks the most shit about you behind your back to his friends.
1). Any guy can have a change of heart at any time, there's always risk 2) 12 years isn't the gap you think it is, or you guys wouldn't be together to begin with 3) he's too young to have thought about kids, but that doesn't mean he doesn't want them, just that he hasn't thought about them 4) it doesn't matter how handsome he is, it matters how important you are to him, and it seems you are very important to him.
This is a decision only you can make. But you are thinking in black and white. The odds of being together for 10 years and then breaking up are very low. Most likely things will get really obvious in less than 3 years. So it is not REALLY likely to be a lot of wasted time if you don't work out. But you don't want to risk throwing away something that could work out, either. So I lean towards sticking with him.
She broke up with you. She’s young and likely not mature enough to say something like, “I think this relationship has run its course and I’m ready to move on to a new chapter in my life.” Don’t analyze her reasons (because as I said, you don’t know if they’re even the real ones) and hear her message: the relationship is over. You already felt that you were drifting apart. Now you know you weren’t the only one feeling it.
I’m sorry it didn’t work out, but keep in mind that most young love does not. People change as they grow and their needs/wants evolve as well. It’s nobody’s fault. Enjoy the memories of your good years, think on them fondly, but follow your ex’s lead and start looking to the future. Best of luck!
This, I'll never get married again without one. Shit gets way too messy and emotional. It is much easier to agree to things beforehand. And it honestly protects both parties.
What he’s done is called love bombing. He bought you fancy and shiny things. Then pulled the rug out from under you. This is someone you run from! I dated someone like this and it ended badly. Like think $5,000 in therapy bills badly.
THANK YOU EVERYONE. Going to say fuck this immature bitch.
Omg. If it’s that big a deal y’all need to rent a bigger place with another bedroom to serve as an office/hobby space.
You talk to her, tell her that you know what her plan is with this other guy, you tell her you don't want to be plan B, some guy that she can fall back on if her crushes don't feel the same and you break up.
Regarding work, during the break up talk, specifically mention work, that it might be awkward for a while and uncomfortable but ask to please keep it professional at work. If issues arise between you during work time, agree to wait with resolving it until after work.
Other then that cut all contact anywhere but at work and keep that professional talk only.
I'm sorry you have to go through this, wish you the best of luck.
That is some psycho ass yandere shit. Run while you can mate
Break up with him, block him, and tell your parents. You could give them a watered down version. Just say this older man has been harassing you and pressuring you to date him and your afraid he will turn up at the house.
If he judges you for struggling financially in the middle of a “cost of living crisis” then he's a dick and you shouldn't be with him anyway.
It's tough out here at the moment.
Tell him when he chose to not be with you, he lost any ability to influence who you date/ don't date. He sounds like a horrible bf and a crappy friend. I'd distance myself from him.
Sounds like fiancee really messed up and truly shouldn't be married until she grows up. EW…. kissing and oral on a stranger?
Sounds like the best friend is jealous and has always been interested in you.
Sounds like you have been done dirty. Sorry my dude. I hope things get better for you.
Sometimes I think that maybe I put too much expectations on her.
Sorry, OP. Was it really that easy for her to take this break and move away? I think she had a plan, but it didn't work out. You're plan B, and you shouldn't be. Find someone else who is willing to work things out before just slipping out.
You have a lot of healing to do, and 48 hours is not enough time for her to find herself.
My opinion is that you should not take her back for at least a couple of months. Let yourself heal and her to explore herself. Keep communication to a minimum, maybe once a week. She has to learn to be her own person, and you need to not be her personal therapist for your own sake. Maybe a Sunday night call to keep in touch.
Set ground rules. Both of you date, and whatever happens while you are officially broken up doesn't count, and is never to be weaponized by either of you. Both of you should get some counseling. When her training is nearing its end, then make decisions.
Do you know for sure that’s how it happened? She went with her family and it’s the family dog. It’s possible they had been discussing, as a family, to get a dog then she came across the Facebook dog and they all went and decided it was a good fit. You weren’t part of this (nor should you be) so you don’t know how it happened.
Yeah like I can’t believe she would do this
Oh, hell no. Not after that comment. If he doesn't see what's wrong, then I don't see what you could say to him. I'm not for control or jealousy, but nope. You were having sex and Ellen is the name he came up with to talk dirty about? He has to see how wrong that is? Would he feel the same if you had done the same? He can do what he wants, but he can also deal with your feelings.
Sounds like it’s a her problem. If she needed you to have a “clean slate” either communicate it (I saw some pics of your exes on here and it makes me uncomfortable – would you consider deleting them?) or she should find someone with any exes (haha, good luck).
Your husband sounds toxic acting like it was okay to do this only to get upset once things were in motion. He’s a hypocrite and probably just wanted a chance to cheat. Don’t cave into doing something you’re uncomfortable with
His reaction makes something very important, very clear: these people aren't going away.
I never expected my SO to be my emotional life boat nor were they. The comment I replied to was asking how long I’d stick it out. It took me 3 years to realize I needed help. I will give someone the same grace, especially my SO.
At least for me, my expectation is that I will be that support for years if need be. I understand people here disagree strongly with that.
Yep, that's the tough part alright. Convincing her that what's for your benefit is ultimately for hers as well. I suggest that you suggest that you try it out and be prepared to reassure and reassure and reassure her.
If you're already randomly doing little things to show that you love her, double them. If you're not, start. It'll be a rough transition, but your job is to show her beyond a shadow of a doubt that it isn't taking anything away from your relationship.
And as always, consider couple's counseling.
She absolutely knows that it is inappropriate to wear white to a wedding when you are not the bride. There are entire subs on Reddit filled with women who have mothers-in-law like this and many of them pull this shit at the wedding, it’s a common theme. It’s his job to deal with his family and her job to deal with hers. If him having a conversation with his mother asking her not to be purposely offensive to his wife at their wedding is “betraying his family” then the bar is truly in hell.
Young and dumb I guess.
Don't ask him to stop taking hormones for the sake of your husband and his family. It's like asking him to stop being who he is. It is not his job to educate them. If they cared, they would educate themselves. Continue to be a good mother, be there for him, call him by his name and use the right pronouns.
“Everyone knows if you have sex with someone that you're agreeing to some violence/assault on top of it!”
There is something legitimately wrong with you. You're literally more upset about a woman panicking and punishing the person assaulting her than you are about the actual assault.
And it's not like she punched him out of revenge, this is like when people pull dumb pranks and get hit by the person being pranked because they think it's an intruder in their house.
We’ve been dating for almost a year now so it’s a newer relationship. I didn’t specify if I wanted anything for my birthday, hell, I didn’t even know I would’ve wanted anything till I didn’t get anything. We haven’t discussed expectations but I wasn’t even looking for anything super nice. Just something. Budget-wise, I know we don’t have a lot but dude buys himself food all the time when we have food at home and even just a couple of dollars for gas station snacks would’ve been nice.
Being 20 and you being her first ever boyfriend means she has absolutely no experience with breaking up. It seems to me that she really doesn’t want to hurt your feelings (hence the anxiety), but that she is easing into a breakup. Needing space and wanting to see less of each other is usually where that heads.
Please don’t get hung up on closure. That doesn’t exist. You’re never going to get the explanation that’s going to make sense to you. It essentially just sounds like she likes you well enough, but she’s not falling in love with you.
Follow your own advice and just go through with the break up. Lingering around would only make you feel like shit by hanging around with someone who is emotionally unavailable. Very few people are lucky enough to find their significant other right away. Please don’t give up! I’m sure she’s out there.