I sleep naked. Two Rottweilers and a Boerboel in bed with me and the wife.It's mot like it's another person. Clearly, it bothers you. But I can't give you any advice that hasn't already been offered.
If you push it, it's a hill he's going to die on. Either leave or learn to accept it.
The ex hasn't lain on your couch, whining about his man cold for a week. He hasn't picked on your TV shows, bitched about your mom, your sister, or the car.
You haven't had to ask him 10 times to do the same thing, and he hasn't had to ask you 20 times to not leave your cups all over the house.
It's so easy to romanticize the ex as this perfect man who got away when you aren't washing his underwear and arguing over money.
If this is what being happily married is like, I'd rather be single!
I recommend just befriending women instead of always looking at it from the lense of a potential partner. If it turns into something more, great. If it doesn't turn romantic, you have a new friend
Thanks. I think it's less about her patience. If anyone's impatient here, it's probably me. She's generally been great- sweet, kind, thoughtful. The conflict avoidance and lack of time is the sticking point for me.
I think she knows this is an issue, but doesn't necessarily know it's reached the level of “I am thinking about ending this for now” or “I want to date other people” yet.
Why is she doing this? It has to be uncomfortable
Curious to hear why you think my standards are on the ground?
I sleep naked. Two Rottweilers and a Boerboel in bed with me and the wife.It's mot like it's another person. Clearly, it bothers you. But I can't give you any advice that hasn't already been offered.
If you push it, it's a hill he's going to die on. Either leave or learn to accept it.
The ex hasn't lain on your couch, whining about his man cold for a week. He hasn't picked on your TV shows, bitched about your mom, your sister, or the car.
You haven't had to ask him 10 times to do the same thing, and he hasn't had to ask you 20 times to not leave your cups all over the house.
It's so easy to romanticize the ex as this perfect man who got away when you aren't washing his underwear and arguing over money.
If this is what being happily married is like, I'd rather be single!
I recommend just befriending women instead of always looking at it from the lense of a potential partner. If it turns into something more, great. If it doesn't turn romantic, you have a new friend
Dude. Take his dog and break up with him. He is sexually abusing his dog!
That sounds about right.
If you need concrete plans from him, tell him that. Otherwise I wouldn’t say anything
Could he have possibly went to a therapy session? Read some books on having better/more productive communication?
Just ask him!
Thanks. I think it's less about her patience. If anyone's impatient here, it's probably me. She's generally been great- sweet, kind, thoughtful. The conflict avoidance and lack of time is the sticking point for me.
I think she knows this is an issue, but doesn't necessarily know it's reached the level of “I am thinking about ending this for now” or “I want to date other people” yet.