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Date: October 25, 2022
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You should leave. A decent guy who values not only you but has respect for other ppl as well wouldn't just do that and the alc is no excuse. The longer you stay the harder it will be to leave.
You are a 20 yo girl in your primes. You can find better.
I felt sorry for him I can see now it was a mistake
You said: I know there is no doubt that he loves me with his entire heart and that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me
Based on what you've written, OP, I think there's a LOT of doubt about that. A man who loves you with his entire heart wants to commit to you and live with you. This man wants neither of those things. That's NOT love. I'm sorry, but it isn't.
It's time for you to move on with your life.
Now THIS is a committed troll.
As a person who has been married for over 25 years, I assure you that the #1 way to have a lasting, close relationship is to be emotionally vulnerable with your partner. You need to tell her. To just hold your secrets, keep them to yourself, will never permit you to have the emotionally close and vulnerable relationship that is required for a long term degree of trust. But when you tell your person all the things: the thoughts, fears, concerns, past experiences— and they know, and they accept you, and they don’t judge and get all bent, that’s when you know you have your person and they will be there for you. She will have to have some degree of faith in you that you will not cheat on her with your roommate and his gf, and you need to de everything you can to assure her of that. That probably won’t be easy. When you tell her, come from a place of vulnerability, be 100% open, and tell her that your #1 goal right now is to prove to her that you are trustworthy and you will remain monogamous with only her. Then the ball is in her court, but at least your side is clean. All you can ever really do in life is make sure your side is clean.
you’re a loser. you mentioned in your post his job is “physical”. i’m willing to bet he works harder than you ever have.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with you having moved on and that's something your son should be able to understand. From the sounds of it, it seems likely that your ex wasted no time in finding new partners so I'm sure he has had plenty of time to adjust to the fact that he moved on so why would that be any different for you, dear? You're allowed to move on and be happy, and as an adult your son should understand and respect that.
Also, he is the one who chose to not have contact. If he has any issue with the new life you've built, it quite honestly is on him. He had every chance to be a part of your life and for a while he chose not to, now any consequences of that are something that he will have to face and come to terms with.
It is very obvious that you have always loved and cared for your son, and I'm sure that your in-laws have let him know that you've always kept a close eye on how he is doing and that you love him. I wouldn't be worried, and if he does have any kind of negative reaction it will be very temporary.
I’m gonna disagree with the majority here. Lots of people go on dating apps just to stroke their ego and never intend to meet up with anyone. However, even if that’s the case here, most people would probably still consider that cheating.
It’s up to you how to feel about it and how to respond. I’ve been with people with whom this would lead to a healthy conversation about redefining the relationship boundaries, and I’ve also been with people who I would break up with on the spot if this happened. It all depends on the nature of your relationship imo. Would he give you the grace to figure yourself out if you did something like this?
Lasting 2-3 minutes to lasting 15-20 minutes.
I am looking for another job for the last 3 months, but such things don't happen right away. We're living in a small town and there's not much jobs laying around.
I called her bluff from two months ago and she wasnt even like that person. She become happy that i was gonna take my driving license she said that she supports me, and will stay with me forever. I still have my suspicions from experiences before, i do geniuenly think your “iyi şanslar” was a good karma for me i guess! Thanks for it friend, i deeply thank you for taking your time to solve and help my problem, cheers friend. Her şey için teşekkür ederim 😀
Gaming for about 4-6 hours doesn’t seem long to a gamer. It actually goes by wicked quick. And that’s why we say it doesn’t take long. He tried to limit himself and just went back to his regular hours. The more you argue and complain, the more a gamer will sync their focus into a game because now it’s not just a hobby, it’s escaping arguing with you.
Im a gamer and my boyfriend is a gamer, also, and I never understood why girls date guys that game then complain about it. You knew what it could be when going into this relationship. Gaming is fun, if you can’t learn how to play a game with him or y’all can’t compromise or you can’t just get a hobby that contains the same focus and time, then this kinda relationship isn’t for you.
Harmless socially inept?
It would not. Seriously. She had them before you, she STILL has them now, and she will have them after you. You're not a psychologist. You're not any kind of mental health professional, and even if you were, they don't treat their lives ones for good reasons. There is absolutely nothing you can do to change her mental state yourself, and it's outrageously unfair for her to put that burden on your shoulders. It's not your fault, and it's not your responsibility.
She actually never stopped harming. She's just not harming herself now. She's harming you.
Ooh boy. This isn't a plea for help, it's a humble brag. Let me translate: I'm in my 40s and I “accidentally” banged my 22 year old ” gym buddy ( dude, what were you thinking? Carl from work is a gym buddy. That 22 co-ed was always an affair waiting to happen.) I won't tell my wife, and I probably shouldn't tell my bros, because they might talk about it and it might get back to wifey, but deep down, I'm stoked I'm sexy to a young lady and I really want strangers to know how virile I am. Please give me advice except actually being accountable for my actions. I'm going to respond with lip service about how much I love my wife and I'm totally over the gym bunny I mean buddy, except I'm actually already replaying the action in my mind…
Ugh.
I mean you have to tell her bro.
You broke the primacy, you can't hide from that.
It can only be rebuilt thru honesty.
You can't run from this one fool.
You can still go the distance if you wish so, red flags are warnings to tell you to pay attention to this or that aspect, not to just run away at the first red flag… Simply don't put yourself in a situation where it's harder to break up or stop if you start dating, take your time to get to know him first.
That said… For him to say something like that to you about an ex is a red flag… So proceed carefully.
If you are talking moving forward than its time for therapy.
Youth isn't an excuse and it doesn't just happen.
The cycle will repeat until you address it.
Deliver a card to their mailbox.
Because Instagram is a slippery slope into cheating. Literally know someone who was with a dude for 3 years who used his IG to like these type of models. Ended with him getting several of these women to go to his office and his apartment to do sexual shit with him. Even while his girlfriend was on her way to his apartment. Some guys just don’t give a fuck. And plus, it’s disrespectful to be all up on half naked chicks social medias commenting heart eyes and cringy ass “you’re so beautiful” comments when they’re in a whole ass relationship with another woman who obviously is hurt by this and feeling disrespected.
I don’t consider it “cheating” but I do consider it highly inappropriate and disrespectful.
Sorry, I forgot when I give someone a gift, I must take into account how every party not including the actual recipient feels, their inner thoughts and personal dynamics. The onus is definitely on OP to account for his long time friend’s possible martial issues.
??seriously !!! I am never having kids. I can’t imagine having to deal with shit like this when I’m old and graying. Poor women, all of them
You can either pretend like it’s all okay or be straight up and say you don’t want to talk to him. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. Do what’s comfortable for you. Also this is why I don’t get close to anyone at work then my avoiding someone isn’t even noticed lmao
He definitely want to break up with you, but he's a coward and tries to make you break up with him instead by acting like a complete ass
This is very sad, he should be ashamed of himself
Unless you are intentionally sticking your hair to things, it isn’t your fault. If your hair is falling out more than usual, please see a doctor.
It literally is when I don’t have enough money or friends to go move someplace else. I don’t have the luxury of being able to afford moving out.
What do you think of her friends?. Can they be trusted?. Do you know how many married women out there who cheats on their husbands during girls trips?. Hope your wife and her friends does not fall into this category.
Was he getting the 'happy ending' massage?
What do you love about him? He's trying to break your will so you don't leave him. But muster up the courage and bounce. Even if you are, why is he with you and why does he deliberately hurt you? Because it's abuse and manipulation. Advocate for your self. Rebuild your self-esteem but leave this man!!!!
So you tell every new partner you have the amount of dudes you’ve been with from the get go or after the first few dates? If not then it sounds like you’re being a tad bit hypocritical for advocating this dude disclose his number of sexual partners (zero).
Ok, my apologies. This place has made me a horrible cynic.
Lots of the specifics in this post will be impossible to prove. No-one can tell you anything, and all you will get ia opposition or confirmation bias
But for me, the only telling thing in your post is this one comment: “he'll gaslight me like he tends to”
You're telling us that you're with a liar, and you know it. How do you know? And if you do know then why stay?
Throwing your family with young kids upside down to chase an online affair is objectively a pretty shitty move however you want to gussy it up with self-justifying psychobabble excuses and qualifications. However, what's done is done. Now you're fighting him for a chunk of his retirement because you belatedly realize you will have the short end of the stick financially due to your decisions.
Do not expect your kids to appreciate or admire your decision-making as they get older and understand the magnitude of what you did based on an infatuation. They may be polite now because of proximity but as they age and mature and put your decisions and actions in context, your actions will seem less and less acceptable to them, and they will eventually have a low-level resentment as their baseline attitude towards you. It's not here now but I guarantee you it's coming when they grow up and fully grasp what you did.
If he won't change, this relationship isn't sustainable.
The only way he is going to change is if he can understand that lack of hygiene is a problem.
If you can't help him understand this, then you may need to seek the help of a professional, if he's open to it.
Get your kid to a hospital. Ask if he can have his hair/blood/ whatever examined. This may not have been the only time.
Just want to say I’m proud of you and you should be proud of yourself for setting this boundary and sticking to it. Mom is a rockstar too. Take care of yourself.
He loves you and has sex with you but thinks you’re fat?
It kind of just started out of nowhere.
Also true. I guess I’m more so worried about him reacting positively to it and then in return I won’t want to move. I’m not moving for any particular reason.
If you do move in together, this won’t change. You’ve seen what her look Fe looks like and she’s made it clear she has no intention of changing anything. You’re not going to change her do you need to decide if this is something you can live with or not. If not, it may be time to move on. This doesn’t seem like something she’s going to compromise on. Good luck OP.
A fools chase
I haven't smoked since last year, everyone in my family smoked so I kind of got hooked on it too back then, I'm sober now, and I just wanted to be a dancer to travel more and save up for a van to do so, and a few other things, and I know my bf had every right, that's why I was asking for advice, and i think I know some now right from wrong.. I'm just seeing if I could see him again or not was the thing..
You are a fool. What motive does Joe have to randomly drop this specific information on you, out of no where? You said it yourself, you weren't exactly friends. So why would he do this to you 5 years later?
Could it be that he has a reason to not like you or your wife and want to upset you? I guess maybe if you left some info out of your post?
Could it be that he recognizes your wife with another man at his job on a lunch date? Another maybe, but IMO, a more probable maybe?
Irregardless, you putting your head in the sand on this instead of thinking it through is foolish. You wouldn't be so upset over it if you weren't concerned that it could be true. My suggestion would be to talk to this Joe and get relevant details (what time do they normally go for lunch every week? Does that align with your wife's schedule? Could you go to that restaurant around that time for lunch and check things out?), then make an INFORMED decision on what to do on the matter.
Cuz right now you sound foolish. “My wife would NEVER cheat, so it makes sense that this random guy who I vaguely know, haven't talked to in over 5 years, and hunted me down on LinkedIn of all platforms is CLEARLY just lying and making it up for…. Some reason? Right?” OP, Please.
You chose this awful woman over your daughter. She hates your daughter's very existence because she's an insecure and jealous person. Her own daughter hates you. This marriage was doomed before you ever proposed.
End it now for you and most importantly your daughter. Do you want her to grow up without her Dad for a good part of her life, because you're in prison due to this nasty witch you married? That will affect her for life. You are way too old for this shit.
As I said in the post, he just randomly drops these details on me without my bringing anything up. I placed boundaries down to take time to go to therapy and process things in a healthy way. Like you said, it was more of a traumatic experience for me than it was for him, so I know I need more to work through and I've been doing that. I just don't know how to get to a point of forgiveness if he keeps dropping things out of nowhere, catching me off guard and making what was already a bad situation worse.
Revoke his invitation. Your fiancée needs to confront her family on enabling this man child.
This person's answer is the best answer. Eff that guy.
Imo the solution is simple: if bil makes any attempt at causing a scene during the wedding, the wedding's off. Make that perfectly clear to fiance and all future-ils well in advance, and remind them a few days before if you feel they need it. And then make good on that promise if he does try anything. Walk out of the wedding and refuse to get married because if he's allowed to disrespect you here you will be forced to endure it for the remainder of your marriage.
Honestly, I think the parents are being really selfish. They know their kids are married, and they know it's going to make life more complicated. But they made the decision anyway.
OP and his wife didn't get to make those decisions before marriage because they didn't exist. But his father and his MIL did know the consequence that it would make their lives more complicated and if there was a break up of either couple would be messy and they took it, so they are the ones to live with that consequence. So no I don't think they get to make any demands.
They want to be together fine, but OP has a right to his feelings.
I can't believe people can't see how disgusting and inappropriate this is. I'd absolutely cut my parent off if they pulled this shit.
I'm 35, and go out drinking with my partner who's 26, who the hell said you're too old when you get past 21?
imo you're in the anxious/avoidant trap. there are hundreds of hours of help on youtube (but therapy is obv better if you can get it)
I’m just so mad right now.
I think you need to talk to your gf and be delicate but honest. Maybe she's fine with you finding a sexual partner, maybe it means you would have to break up, maybe she'd be willing to explore more if she's comfortable with it now. There are potential solutions here, but it depends how she feels
What were they?
So to your edit…
Say that you feel that their friendship is bordering on emotional cheating. You’d like to look at the messages, but she doesn’t have to tell you the passcode, just enter it in and then let you look.
Say if she refuses then you’re just going to assume she is cheating. That you are uncomfortable with her “friendship” with this guy, and that she is choosing him over your marriage.
If you want to work on staying together, she needs to be 100% honest with you. Therapy, individual for both and couples.
I'd like to second this point. I'd sooner forgive lying than my partner cheating on me.
I can't fathom how OP has come to the conclusion that it's okay to cheat on his girlfriend because she hooked up with someone BEFORE they were an item.
I've had experiences where a guy was pushing too much knowing I was in a relationship and I also always go out with a ring on my finger even though I'm not married. I'm trying to make it very clear, I just really love meeting people ! And it's very rare that girls come and talk to me in the club or at the bar so it's more often guys.
You’re right she doesn’t and when she tells me about it i remove or resolve the issue but this rando is apparently important to her
Even for that to happen you would have to ignore all of your faults. Not everyone can do that
You shouldn't have lasting after-effects from a role play; if you do, never repeat that kind of experience.
Yes you should be able to express how you feel about the other person‘s financial decisions- but not because you found out through snooping through their tablet. and not if you’re not contributing to their finances.
I'm so happy you've found a partner who is good for your kid and for you at all. That's all I could hope for one day.
And? Let him cry. Do you think forgiving him and staying with him is going have him look at himself and make changes?
hmmmm
I think requesting someone to support you (being a man or woman) for studies requires more than just “You pay, I study”.
There must be serious conversationS, with commitment on grades, dedication, involving analize past grades and, if I were the one studying, I'd work extra before starting so I could give extra to the one paying.. There must also include a career plan (where the studying is going to lead this person to).
It also involves commitment to cleaning – the one studying needs to do a bit more – and prove of development.
And, if they waste time gaming or lacking of, deal is over.
I was wondering why. Then maybe I can attempt to give you some advice.
He is the victim. She lied to him.
“Long before we engaged, we had an agreement saying I won't watch porn if we can be intimate”
She wasn’t having sex so he went and watched porn like the agreement states. She chose to reneg on her deal and waste his time.
There’s not point in expressing your disgust for him. he knows hes disgusting but doesn’t care! Go grab your bike & say your last goodbye.
Then it seems like you’re looking for a text that’ll magically convince him otherwise? If you’ve told him how you feel and he hasn’t made a move, it’s time to move on
You find someone else to date. Someone who understands the difference between running errands and going on a date.
I would be instantly disgusted with my husband if he reacted that way. We have been together for 6 years from south Texas. He hasn't always been so open-minded. Not out of malice, but out of ignorance. I explained a lot of LGBTQ+ issues and discussed some sensitive topics with him. The conversations were always very productive. Even if he didn't understand, his goal always seemed to be to do so. However if he came at the discussion like this….hell no. So ignorant and shows a complete lack of empathy. Black and white thinking. You would be wasting your time and talking to a wall.
Well now you know why he is 41 and on his 4th marriage. He has buyer’s remorse and this is how he handles it. Please stop being his doormat. I know you don’t want to be divorced but it sounds like it will not get better and in fact will only get worse. Protect yourself and end this before it gets really bad. Trust me there is the right person out there for you and this guy doesn’t sound like he is it.
Just don't literally slap him cause then he'll have grounds for an assault charge and that's a mess you don't want to deal with.