Just because he didn't physically go through with it doesn't mean it wasn't cheating before it got to that point. As you said he spent a week sneaking around and planning this all out. She sent him a topless pic, did he respond in kind? What was the context of the messages? There must've been some kind of sexual content or flirtation because it doesn't take a week of messages to say: “wanna fuck?” “sure, book a hotel for X day” “ok done, see you then” So there must've been some kind of build up to lead to the proposition plus the fantasy of what would happen on the day. For one of them to propose it (was it him or her?) there had to have been some indication that the other would be receptive and for that there must've been something sexual within the messages. That straightaway was cheating never mind breaking your trust, lying and deceiving you all that time. He can't make himself feel better because he didn't actually go through with it. The intention was there in the first place and there must've been a build up to the event. He needs to accept he cheated because if he can't see that that's exactly what he did what's to stop him from doing it again?
Holy shit. Why is everyone just giving his wife a pass for refusing to actually get a job? Lmfao. She is PERFECTLY CAPABLE of working. This is the problem. She is capable and opts not to. Where is her consideration for OP in this?
Just because he didn't physically go through with it doesn't mean it wasn't cheating before it got to that point. As you said he spent a week sneaking around and planning this all out. She sent him a topless pic, did he respond in kind? What was the context of the messages? There must've been some kind of sexual content or flirtation because it doesn't take a week of messages to say: “wanna fuck?” “sure, book a hotel for X day” “ok done, see you then” So there must've been some kind of build up to lead to the proposition plus the fantasy of what would happen on the day. For one of them to propose it (was it him or her?) there had to have been some indication that the other would be receptive and for that there must've been something sexual within the messages. That straightaway was cheating never mind breaking your trust, lying and deceiving you all that time. He can't make himself feel better because he didn't actually go through with it. The intention was there in the first place and there must've been a build up to the event. He needs to accept he cheated because if he can't see that that's exactly what he did what's to stop him from doing it again?
Holy shit. Why is everyone just giving his wife a pass for refusing to actually get a job? Lmfao. She is PERFECTLY CAPABLE of working. This is the problem. She is capable and opts not to. Where is her consideration for OP in this?