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Date: October 31, 2022
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It’s ok – I broke up w her
It depends on how you’re going to handle seeing the messages.
If you see that she literally didn’t do anything to provoke or egg this guy on and it’s just him being pushy are you going to be okay? Are you going to still be upset that she didn’t immediately block him the way you would have done?
If it’s the latter then it doesn’t matter, the relationship is shot because you’re applying your own standard to someone else who wasn’t aware that it was expected of them.
If you can see the fact that she didn’t immediately block them but also see that she’s not the one leading the conversation in the flirty way and be cool about that’s without holding it against her then I’d go talk to her.
Something along the lines of “I had more time to think about it and I would like to see the messages because it will help me keep my insecurity in check. I originally refused because it felt like I’d be invading your privacy, which I don’t want to do, but because you offered I think it may help.”
If you see the messages and everything is above board then you need to have a conversation about the expectations in the relationship going forward. “Thank you for helping me sort of my insecurity. I was originally upset because I had previously blocked people when this happened to me and I expected you’d do the same. I realize it is unfair to have expectations that I didn’t voice and I apologize for that. I want to say that going forward I would like if this happened to either of us that the other person just block them and move on. Is that something you’re okay with doing?”
This way you apologize for the real issue here which is having expectations that she isn’t aware of, and then if she is okay with it, set expectations going forward so that everyone is on the same page.
Is he 12?
Is he a cheater everytime he goes to the pool or lake to swim???
Spoiler alert: OP is a cheater too.
Did he throw the whole bag or like a piece or two
This is really very simple. It’s effecting your ability to go to school, it’s effecting your personal relationships (grandma) it’s effecting your health, not just your ability to sleep but your ability to see your doctor when needed. GAME OVER. You’ve talked to him about it several times and it has only changed temporarily? What are you waiting for? School to kick you out? Or for you to become seriously I’ll? Both of those will happen next.
Seriously, I sincerely do not know why you are doing this. I do not see a rational reason.
A few months ago, I quit Zoloft after my partner told me I hadn't been the same. I wasn't being as loving or caring towards him, I hardly even noticed what he was doing nor did I really care. I felt like all that mattered was that the medication was getting me through the day & holding my head above water. It was only after I stopped and replaced Zoloft with medication that has actually worked for me that I noticed how much of an empty, emotionless husk of a person I had been for the past 6 months. I really urge you to sit her down and (gently) let her know that she's making you feel like you don't matter. That you aren't feeling loved or cared about by her anymore. It doesn't really matter what her doctor “recommends is best for her” because obviously it's not working very well & there are a shit-ton of other antidepressants that she could try out that may not numb her out.
Your husband doesn't trust you. Talk to him to find out why.
That ship has sailed no saving it.
I dont cause i will instant puke, bristles on tongue is a sensation i just something i cant do.
Oh he’s for sure lying
This is one reason people should just be upfront instead of waiting for ‘grand gestures’. When you felt that you were in love with her, did you tell her? If not, why not?
Two things can be true at the same time. Those aren't mutually exclusive. Yes, what the dad did was shitty. And I'm the first person to bash a cheater. But in the end, making your adult child choose who he is allowed to be in contact with years after the fact is not reasonable. He's still his dad, even if he did wrong by his mom.
Seems like her biggest issue is that he jokes and fools around too much.
A potential approach is to not entirely corner him but rather tell him, “listen I know you say these types of “jokes” to lighten the mood or express yourself and I know you don’t come from a malicious place. But I just want you to know that I feel embarrassed when these types of things are said around the family, Juliet doesn’t know you like how I do so when you say these types of jokes they’re not received well, I want them to see you as the good man you are that I love, not these misconceptions they’re starting to get from these jokes, just promise me you’ll cool it down from here with these jokes and keep this cordial with them, I’d really appreciate it.”
Obviously not say this word for word but you get the jist.
My point is there are ALOT of things that can be said and done to get past this issue. Not just jump straight into divorce over a literal stupid joke.
These people give us one tiny bit of a glimpse into their marriage and people assume the worst about the other and say divorce. That’s not helpful.
The only time a straight “divorce” response is 100% appropriate is when people come on here talking about how much physical or emotional abuse/manipulation their partner gives them. Or is stealing from them or has a constant track record of lying/being manipulative.
Not a dumb tone deaf joke
OP I am a recovering alcoholic and would drink more in an evening than most people would in a month. You know what I never did? Got drunk and drunk texted and cheated on my wife. All your fiancé is doing is shifting the blame from himself to the alcohol. That is not the way it works. Alcohol and coke do not make you do anything you don’t want to do. I hope for your sake you ditch your POS cheating fiancé as you deserve so much better.
She has heard your boundaries and decided to laugh at them instead of respecting you.
She does not respect your needs
Let that sink in. Nothing else matters more in your relationship than that. Life is gonna get hard. It always does. You will need a partner who listens to you, respects you and has your back.
She’s laughing at your needs and boundaries. If you aren’t sure you were clear enough with her before- Go ahead and try telling her one more time slowly and clearly that she needs to respect your boundaries. If she laughs again just walk.
You deserve someone who sees you and respects your boundaries.
Well I can understand why you feel the way you do. You felt the two of you were starting a relationship (though it was not said). She obviously didn't feel that way. Then she goes on a trip and does at least two guys. For me, I wouldn't have started the relationship after this. For the exact reason you're having. This is obviously really bothering you. Gotta end it or just suck it up.
OP did not mention a poop knife in the vicinity so we can safely rule out poop jar.
Not just kids.
I remember I used to play an online game with my ex. I had barely started playing and he was an expert of 10+ years. I was also playing with some other friends and liked to start random games online. With others I would sometimes win. It would often be very close. He would obliterate me every game. I told him I didn’t mind losing bc I was still learning but I liked the feeling of having at least a chance. I asked him to maybe consider that. His answer was to make a nearly 100 point move. I broke off the game and never played with him ever again.
Yeah definitely would try to do things alone when I'm feeling like that.
I went to therapy for years about trust and jealousy. Usually stems from a past traumatic experience or insecurity. I think the problem is you on this one. You’re making a mountain over a mole hill.
Trust her and put it out of your mind unless something actually real happens. But it won’t. You’re just hurting yourself, and will push her away.
You leave and find a partner who respects you instead of treating you like a caretaker drone.
I do! I’ll definitely look into it. That’s very interesting. My mom would’ve been going to elementary school in Tustin around that time- I’ll have to ask her if she remembers anything about it.
I’m not disagreeing with you that there is a cartel issue in Mexico at all. Or that the us congress is practically married to the NRA at this point- But just that statistically – that baby is more likely to die by gun violence in America than they are to encounter the cartel on jet skis.
Nerd.
I mean, you’re not even married and you want to cause problems with his relationship with his mother? He probably watched his mother work hard to help everyone around her, probably including him, he probably does not mind paying her bills as he is not the one complaining. Also your argument seems to be since your fine to let your parents still struggle, he should be too. If you met him taking care of his mom, it’s likely this will continue, you two may have different views on finances, you are already claiming his money as yours (when you get married) are you sure he sees things the same.
“I like you a lot as a friend but I'm not attracted to you” is honest and it avoids being pointlessly, hurtfully, specific.
Hopefully she won't press the issue, but if she does then it's okay to politely end the conversation firmly to avoid hurting her feelings any more than necessary.
Just my two cents; you respect your community yet did not during this evening. So clearly you don’t totally respect the values, opinions, and judgment. Which is fine BTW.
You sound like your marriage is about living up to the community standards vs a relationship. Relationships need communication and trust to thrive.
Your guilt and your marriage sound like community driven. However isn’t your co-worker part of the same community? He asked a married woman on a date, got her drunk, then proceeded to be less than “conservative”.
I realize you are probably not American but in America if you get someone intoxicated to the point they don’t remember things it’s like they couldn’t “consent”. In very conservative environments here we see the woman getting the judgment even when they were not. Look up the Baylor University case. The women who reported were told they violated the “code of conduct” and would be punished if they went forward with the complaint, sometimes the complaint was rape.
Conservative communities aren’t always the best place for women. Maybe find a path out of that community and be careful who you tell until you know what will happen if you tell your husband?
I don’t know anyone more intimidating looking than him but a few of my close friends know what’s going on so they’ll check up on me. We have code words set up too
Thank you, it's not often i disagree with the general consensus, but this is fucking off the wall.
You’re for the streets. Just sleeping with any and everything without connections. ? It’s funny how you assume someone else’s is fake or boring when you continue to comment. Jesus you need a therapist not Reddit.
If your wife was as great as you say she was, she would be so grateful that you found someone that would treat your kids the way she did! As parents, we should all hope for that in the event that the worst happens. Encourage your gf to carry on your wife's traditions with the kids. That can help keep her memory alive.
You really think it’s all about a car seat? ??♀️
What are you supposed to be doing if you stay home to take care of a 50 year old man and a son who might be inches teenaged years? What is it that he thinks is missing? Is he jealous of your exciting new career that you're enthused about? Why is it you sole duty to be a good wife and not his to be a good and supportive husband?
I'm wondering if this is a control issue with him. You need to sit down and have an adult conversation with him, perhaps some marital counseling to try and work through this. If he's not willing to try, you have your answer.
I agree with ur comment and sorry to nitpick, but the man is not 10, but 40, so she is half his age and not the other way around.
I would move out as quickly as possible and cease all contact.
If that is your experience, you are the common denominator. I don't want to be mean, but it's not a male thing. It's something that the men you pick have in common. If you're honest with yourself, you probably saw some red flags and chose to ignore them because they have other qualities you value more. Might be good to evaluate how you go about selecting a partner. Wish you the best.
He’s psycho.
OP has so many responsibilities it just seems brutal for her and she needs her husband to stop being such an ass.