If your partner is willing the two of you should start couples counseling. On top of that, you should find a therapist who specializes in addiction. It might not be enough to keep your partner around, but if you get the help and support you need from a professional, you've probably got a better chance of salvaging your relationship.
I know AA isn't the kind of support everyone wants, but there are other support groups out there. I think the best thing you can do is get a good support system in place and focus on healing yourself so the rest of your life can heal. There will always be hard days and temptation, but with support it's easier to push forward.
6 years and she says you guys have lost the spark. Oh come on. Marriages are hard and require a lot of work from both but that work doesn't include sexting other people.
She's showing you her true self and it isn't pretty. She cheated, she lied, a lot and probably still is. Cut your losses, she is working up to asking for an open relationship, the wanting to go out for drinks with some dude and come home to you. No sir. I'm older than you both and married and if I suggested that my husband would nope the fuck out, you need to do that too.
OP has already deleted it, so yep, definitely seems that way.
Uh yeah?
A no jerk off rule is doomed to failure. This is dumb.
Lying, talking to other girls – big red flags.
If your partner is willing the two of you should start couples counseling. On top of that, you should find a therapist who specializes in addiction. It might not be enough to keep your partner around, but if you get the help and support you need from a professional, you've probably got a better chance of salvaging your relationship.
I know AA isn't the kind of support everyone wants, but there are other support groups out there. I think the best thing you can do is get a good support system in place and focus on healing yourself so the rest of your life can heal. There will always be hard days and temptation, but with support it's easier to push forward.
We’ll try our best
6 years and she says you guys have lost the spark. Oh come on. Marriages are hard and require a lot of work from both but that work doesn't include sexting other people.
She's showing you her true self and it isn't pretty. She cheated, she lied, a lot and probably still is. Cut your losses, she is working up to asking for an open relationship, the wanting to go out for drinks with some dude and come home to you. No sir. I'm older than you both and married and if I suggested that my husband would nope the fuck out, you need to do that too.
Cancel the trip and block both. Especially her, friends don't do such things to BFF.