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Date: October 23, 2022
He took weeks? I’m sorry but being anxious aside I would take this as he wasn’t as interested as you were if it took him weeks to reach out. Put effort into people who put effort into you. If someone is going out of their way to talk and get to know you I would put effort in those people. As he tried to initiate anything physical on these dates? Idk why but I’m getting the vibe he isn’t here for something serious
Dude don't worry, you are not being unreasonable.
If you feel uncomfortable with the post, and she feels comfortable with the post and nothing towards your feelings towards it, do not let it change your perspective of how you feel.
You said it yourself, usually you don't mind it when she post stuff, but this crossed the line and she should understand that your opinion matters (not only when it supports her opinions).
Stand your ground. If things work out, they do. If the don't, then they don't. Do no force yourself to be uncomfortable or unhappy just because you want someone else to be happy.
You, your thoughts, opinions and feelings matter just as much as she/hers does.
How do you know you will stop fantasizing about other men after marriage? this doesn't just go away after you sign a paper.
Good lord. Cut your losses and stay broken up. This relationship is so toxic and unhealthy. This woman is a manipulative exhausting nightmare.
If she threatens you by saying she’ll cheat on you then that instantly means you need to break up with this person. You’ll be less stressed when it’s over. I hope it works out for you!
“I dIDnT WaNt to hUrT hiM”
Y’know it’s not hard to break up first then hook up with some other dude. It really isn’t hard
Just sent them the video
She made the decision to leave you and your daughter for another man. All ties ended that day, it's an absolute kick in the teeth for her to ask you for a ticket to America, the sheer audacity of her request is mind boggling.
You have absolutely no obligation to her anymore. You're only obligation is to your daughter, you ex needs to find her own way. Fuck that shit.
How long has your self worth been in the gutter? A man literally just told you that you weren't good enough for him and your reaction is “how can I make him want me?”. That's not healthy or normal. Throw his ass away and find somebody who is excited to be with you.
i (as someone who is a drug and alcohol user) do not thing it is control, but more of a boundary. i have an alcoholic parent and it's pretty ingrained in my family culture. it took me a while to be ok with people drinking around me, and drinking myself. i think it's completely valid for it to be a deal breaker for people. consider if that's something you're willing to compromise cause it's clearly something important to him.
That’s definitely weird. I’m sorry you’re going through this. He should 100% tell you before lending money. Have you thoroughly gone through his phone? Has he divulged all the details concerning his relationships with these coworkers?
She is his younger sister, she was sleeping. It makes no sense to wake her up. Unless he wanted to make sure she would get his versions of events first.
The cousin's reaction makes much more sense to me
Thank you for taking the time to write this. It helps a lot reading these comments!!
Wow. What kind of men have you been with? I've heard of smelly balls but never smelled anything on the men I've been with.
People who don't drive + don't figure it out other than beg rides are a burden.
When you say that you fight, does he ever grab you or scream in your face?
Red flags are everywhere in this, but be honest, he is obviously dangerously unstable.
And a date rape drug test for the sister because who knows how much he planned this.
Dump him, he is never going to leave that basement. He will ask you to move in first.
I'd assume it's more than kissing if they went in another room and shut the door.
You don't have a BIL or an in-laws problem, you have a fiancee problem. It's the job of each partner to wrangle their family, and your fiancee is doing a pretty crap job of it right now. She needs to tell her brother it's about fifteen years since he should have grown the hell up, and if he shows up to her wedding in a clown suit she will have security escort them out. If the parents kick up a fuss, they will be afforded the same treatment. Either you begin your married lives together having one another's backs or you don't. Good luck.
What is he distracted by? Is he literally distracted by some random thing he is seeing, hearing, or smelling?
I have had some of these issues with my partner. (I am on his account now). He has some trouble conversing and bringing up stuff with me. I actually bought multiple couples games where we just ask questions. One of them is called the “Ungame”. It helped that I allowed him to do something he enjoyed while I asked him questions. It also allows for open commentary. I played the game a little differently, though, I ask him the question and we both answer and make comments. He doesn't really like it, but it has actually helped us open up to each other a lot more. I have also been helping him with some things he struggles with because I bought him a book.
I am rather aggressive, and maybe you are not like that. I do not always listen to my boyfriend and he does not always listen to me, but for the most part we listen to each other. This is a life skill for one. For two, it is downright rude and disrespectful.
One thing I would suggest that helped me is telling him how you would like him to respond to something, so he can get an idea of how to keep the conversation going. It will be an uphill battle, but this might help. I definitely have moments when my boyfriend will just say he doesn't know what to say.
When you talk to him about it, are you telling him how it makes me feel? For me, I would explicitly state that this is hurtful behavior, and it makes me feel like I am not a priority to you.
If your friends feel better than your relationship, there is a problem. Afterall, the best relationships are friendships in and of themselves.
I would like to ride the coattails of your post to evangelize a word I coined years ago but which has, to my shame, never been caught in the zeitgeist: hilarrible.
Please exit the situation quietly – I.e – don’t tip him off, don’t let him know you’re leaving.
Before you think this is an extreme response, your husband sexually assaulted you and is now love bombing you to make you okay with it all.
Leave. There’s nothing to hear out. Nothing he can say. He did enough.
You cannot control what other people choose to do. You cannot control if your friends ever decided to hook up, get together, or get involved with each other deeper than “just friends”. You also cannot dictate whether they should be sober or not because it makes you feel better. Yes, alcohol makes you more pliable in some situations, but it doesn't automatically mean anything you do while drunk was against your consent or without your awareness. Varying levels of tolerances is a thing.
I get that you have your own issues with consent and SA but at the same time you cannot project your own traumas and expectations on other people. You're assuming things about your friends such as their perceived potential discomfort or the fact they're putting up with it “because they're not the type to say no”. If whether they're bothered by it or not really bothers you, pull aside friend A or B and actually ask.
It's not a normal or every friendship thing but overly affectionate friends do exist and in your early 20s where young adults are in a fluid state of curiosity and such, it's not surprising to me for one or a few friends to be touchy in a playful way. Keeping in mind that this only happens in your enclosed friend group and not to random strangers you bump into, I'm not gonna accuse or assume friend C is a predator. From the sounds of things, she's sexually attracted to women/your friend and when a bit tipst it's an easier time to approach with her affection. You ever heard of Dutch courage? Not talking about being wasted, but people getting to a comfortable (for them) level of tipsy where they're not out of their mind but feeling warm and fuzzy enough that they don't feel super awkward.
You seem to want to see a step by step consent scene when all this happens so that you're assured that it's all above board but have you actually talked to anyone and know what they think about all this when they're sober? You all might be friends, but in friend groups larger than 2 people, your perception of things isn't the only one there is and there's a chance the others have talked to each other to establish what's okay and what's not and when already.
This guy sounds like the definition of unstable
This is all valid. I should add at this point my therapist isn’t 100% against the relationship, but she does think I should move out still. That way I can get a clearer idea of how I feel and what I want without being clouded by the comfort/familiarity..
I should have moved out immediately and idk why I didn’t, because I could stay with my grandma. Partly it’s because of my cat, I don’t want to uproot her temporarily and cause her unnecessary stress.
I also don’t make a lot, so finding a place to live is difficult right now with rent going higher and higher. I’ve been kind of in a state of paralysis not knowing what is best.
Why?! Why would you do something you love less because someone is throwing a fit about it? Why are you letting this man manipulate you?
Lmao. He sounds deeply insecure. I couldn't stand dating someone like this.
Honestly, you don't want to deal with this your whole life.
Signed an engineer who beats her husband at pool and loves comedy shows…
You'll open up to the right person. When I met my wife she had a laundry list of traumas. We've been together for about 5 years now. She trusted me with her traumas very early on and I was gentle and took care with them. She is now in therapy and working on her issues but new things pop up all the time. She had never told anyone about these traumas before me. When you meet that person, you'll know.
As far as using stuff against each other. That's horrible. Trust your instincts and only open up to someone that is worth it. If you're not sure if they are, they aren't. You'll just know.