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Date: October 25, 2022
Facts.
So glad you didn’t succeed. You needed to be here to give this advise. Hope you are doing better.
Depression sucks.
Holy shit dude. That’s not your girlfriend, that’s a bad friend. There are women out there that like sex. Like, a lot of them. Find one. 5 years of this? How could you possibly keep sticking around while missing such a huge part of what makes an actual relationship? It’s time, this has run its course.
They've been dating 3 years, he and the other woman were “together” for 1.5
R/justnomil and quick.
Do not expect her to change, always expect her to be difficult. Never think “if I’m just nice enough/respectful enough/pay enough attention to her, for long enough/consistently, then one day she’ll understand that I’m worthy of different treatment.”
She won’t. She’s proven she won’t.
I hope your SO always defends you like that, it’s the only chance you have of having a great future with him. You drop the rope with her, let him talk to her 100% of the time. Decide with SO now how life would look if she offered him money for a down payment but she wanted to be on the house. What it would look like if you get engaged but she wants to be a part of it. If you got pregnant.
You have to be on the same page.
She likes you. She told you she likes you. Go for it!
As a woman who was the “friend”…
I honestly wished I had known the real truth. He kept telling me he was separated and moving towards a divorce. He was definitely not. He still was living with the wife like it was no big deal. Each time I confronted him saying that I thought he was lying, he'd say he wasn't lying. It wasn't until the wife spoke to me that I realized I really was the other woman.
I never got into another relationship like that again.
There won’t be an easy time to tell him. Tell him, get it over with.
Facts lol
You should just leave him.
I’d still be very interested in hearing this. If you still has it of course. It’s been a long time and surprise surprise we still have the same issues but are now seeing a couples therapist. I feel he says whatever he can to get our therapist to say “you’re doing well” or “that must be really hard on you” things of that extent. Like praise for how “hard” he’s working. When I’m all reality he’s done nothing but admit to what he does.
Yup, you're a cheater. You also gaslighted the poor ex and it sounds like you continue to play with his feelings. There's no fixing things or making it better.
No not at all because I respect him lol
Hon, nothing he did to you was your fault. You are responsible for your own sobriety, however he manipulated you into situations which put it at risk. Especially when you were secure in being able to manage such exposure. He is a predator. I hope you are doing well with your sobriety now.
Please pay attention to the pattern here with these men. You deserve better. It might be best to focus on yourself and keeping your sobriety for a while before entering a relationship. It can take a while to get to a place in which you can add people to your emotional load. You have yourself and your child to worry about, to not add the stress these men cause.
Why?
Omg! I am so thankful he admitted that to you. Please listen to your feelings and break it off with him! That is absolutely not normal. The thin line of you carrying pepper spray was the ONLY thing keeping him from raping you – and who’s to say that won’t stop him eventually from doing that as your partner with full access to you? Please update us on things if you feel comfortable to and if you can.
That is a lot of money, I can see she asking for an emergency here and there, but monthly is not acceptable, I hope she keeps paying her half of the bills, because that might be her next option, to make you pay for everything, so b she can send that money.
That’s what happens when you date someone at a vastly different stage in life than yourself.
Okay so I do have some thoughts about this.
So yes I think you should just do the DNA test if it will ease his mind. The test itself won't hurt you, and he has already asked so fine. Tell him that the reasons for him asking means it has to come out of his own pocket, but you have no problem at all with the test itself. Do the test.
Then sit him down and tell him to his face that you no longer feel trusted or valued by him because he took the words of people he is not close to over yours. That the problem isn't the test, it is the way he went about it and his reasons for it. That if it had been advice from a close personal friend of his or his siblings or something that would be different, but just pulling it off of FB and acting like this is completely sane life advice, then treating you like a cheater over it, is just too much. And if he really truly wants to stay with you and not blow up this relationship with you over this whole situation, you guys are going to have to work on fixing this. And that means couples therapy, and deep meaningful conversations about feelings, motivations, actions, and what you guys want your future to look like. MANY of these discussions. And he can't say a single thing against it because he brought this on himself.
I didn't get laser treatment specifically for scar reduction, so i don't know how well it works when it's targeted at this. I have laser hair removal because i tend to get ingrown hair that can lead to huge abscess, i had to do surgery twice to remove them so i'd rather get rid of the hair in the problematic spots!
However, even if not targeted directly for it, it did help with reducing my scar, and especially getting it back to a normal colour. Now it blends with the rest of my skin.
I also recommend using a lot of lotion on it. People tend to not use enough lotion but skin needs a lot of hydration, and scarred skin even more. Also, never let the sun shine onto the scars without at least sunscreen. I realized all of that when i was 25 so 10 years later, and it has helped reducing the scar and making it less noticeable. It will never go away completely, but it helps.
Finally, what really helped me was accepting my scars. I have others and i used to hate them with passion, especially this one on my knee and another on my calf. So i just couldn't think of anything else if i had to show my legs, i could only see it when i was looking at my knees. It's like for stretchmark scars. It's there. It doesn't mean anything about you as a person. I got those from literally only growing up. I realized these scars are part of me as they are reminders of what i've lived. Good or bad, i can't change my past. A scar means a past wound, but i've healed and grown from it. And it makes me unique. Nobody has my scar. You just have to see it as a feature rather than a default on your appearance. Now that it's not swollen or anything, it's just another texture of my skin on this spot. It's part of my mystery in a way ! You can't go through life unacfected. Scars means you've lived through some shit, and you are still alive.
Btw, laser treatment can be expensive and quite painful in the moment. But yeah i'd recommend at least an appointment to see what the professional there thinks of the scars and if they can be improved
Trick me once, something something. I think it was a perfect storm of sorts. I also don’t think what he did was abuse. I’m going to kind of underplay the situation here and say that you’re both ‘wrong’. Seems he didn’t appreciate you hurting him, and it seems his push to you was kind of reactionary. Was it violent? Not really. Did he drag you across the room by your hair and beat you with a box of macaroni because dinner was cold? Also most certainly not. Some people just don’t enjoy the ‘games’ that end up with them in pain, and I think things would have maybe de-escalated if you had apologized (for some reason) the first time.
Absolutely this!! I was in a similar type of relationship a long time ago. Decades ago. I literally didn't realize until LAST WEEK that I had been sexually and emotionally abused for the entire 4 years of the relationship, INCLUDING being made to do things that I hated and were very painful, deliberately humiliating, etc., for the reason that I had agreed in the early days of the relationship. I spent years afraid to object because I had “agreed” – apparently I didn't realize it was a human right to decide something isn't for you. And the person got off on my discomfort and humiliation, which continued to progress.
Fortunately, I'm long out of there, and in a completely different situation now. As soon as I have access to health insurance again (hopefully soon), I plan to find a therapist and try to work on unpacking and healing some of that.
I hope you're able to do that soon, as well. Good luck.
Ah! Try finding a woman who doesn't want kids it's even more challenging
Yeah I think it might be more of the fact that you seem far closer and emotionally involved with your sister than your wife. I doubt it’s a gender thing but more of a “damn I’m not the closest person to my husband” thing. But I dunno I don’t know your wife so maybe try to get to the root of the issue. I just think maybe you guys could benefit from some openness and just lay it all out there (within reason ofc)
I just realized that no matter what their explanation was their actions still hurt me. The why wouldn't change that. So i out the facts out in front of me, concluded that they were an asshole who didn't love or deserve me and moved on to better things.
I'd tell his wife the truth.
Whether she wants to believe it or not is her problem. But she is in the position to dig into it, especially if he is up to shadiness with your ex.
Maybe tell her to check their finances at the time that your GF moved out because there might be a paper trail that he would have to explain.
That’s crazy, I wish all states had limitations of the age of the other partner in those cases
Don’t let him gaslight you. He is wrong.
There’s so much good advice here but it’s too scary to face it all right now so you’re deflecting.
If he gets upset, remind him that there are mutual friends there who could say the sake information to he fiancé. Better does he want his new wife to get mad at him on his wedding day?
If the sing was always his song first and not their (his and his ex), he should let her know ahead of time because she thinks it is their (his and her current fiancé's song).
Just as Taylor Swift will always be my jam, regardless of who I am with.
Get this fact through your head today: your boyfriend preyed on you when you needed a trusted adult to help you. He's manipulating you right now into taking care of his dad and unfortunately you aren't acknowledging the truth and the real problem here. There's a very good reason why you have heard people raise their concerns in the past and here on Reddit, now. I'm 32 years old and the idea of dating someone your age is asinine. You aren't “still growing up” together. You have lived the last part of your TEENS and the start of your 20s dating a fuckboy. There's a lot of questions I would have about how you two were even introduced, because short of one or both of you lying about your age, there aren't a lot of situations I can think of immediately where you aren't in an extreme power imbalance. Read everything here. There's a lot of reasons why people are repeating each other.
But you were supposed to fight for me!
I know I won't be able to get her perspective, but I feel that you blamed her as that's why she got defensive. Also, charging a phone does not kill the battery. I recommend that you speak to her and say it's not her fault for the car battery dying. Have an apologetic not accusatory tone.
What do you do? You leave him in the dust.
He cheated just in case – wtf is that?!?!?
Next it will be – I beat you just in case.
It's not like having savings just in case you need them ffs
I understand this, But your focus should turn away from this. Its about the two of you reconnecting. It will remove the possibility that she may offer to pay some of it.
The main focus needs to be just the two of you does it not?
Is it hard work to flirt with an attractive woman?
Yea i think today was the last straw im gonna cut ties with him if there's no other option. However its gonna be awkward seeing both of them in class and talking to only one of them also he was my benchmate.
So he raped you – that’s what having sex without consent is- and you’re still with him- why? How many enormous red flags do you need ?
It sounds like you guys need to reconsider that relationship. Doesn't sound healthy
On whatsapp. I was feeling crazy and insecure because i want to know what was on there.
You’ll waste the next several years of your life if you don’t leave. Throwing stuff around when he’s upset is a giant red flag and he’s only 20.
Why are you a 21 yr old female in your other post???
Careful careful. You can’t be giving any legal advice.
Do not get married!!
Break up with this psycho – you don’t need this. Losing a jacket doesn’t send a normal adult over the edge. And the “love me/give me attention or I’ll kill myself” is a pathetic trope played out by immature people who need serious psychological help. MISS ME with this. You don’t need this so young.
Yeah cuz she doesnt have to tiptoe around you and be uncomfortable in her own home, she can relax and just co-parent with you
Because many times when partners try to communicate something that is bothering them especially men the other person mostly women would just pretend that everything is okay and that it is his problem! 2 simple questions 1)!who is the one that says sorry the most and 2) who is the one that tries to make up with the other partner the most? If the answer is both him then he is not happy, he just have given up talking with you!
You’re welcome trash
This hair-splitting and excuse-making “important distinction” shows you still haven't fully accepted responsibility for your choices.
I thought the same until I saw the comment that OP's baby mama is an addict with mental health issues, and the biochild was growing with Grandma. If I was the wife in this scenario, I too would prioritize protecting my children from all the drama and trauma coming with that. I had an alcoholic for a father, no way in hell I'd let that world so close to home ever again. My husband would understand that just fine, whereas OP seems very oblivious to the effects of this on his chosen family.
As soon as possible.
And dude, you know you'll have to pitch in when its your own kid, right? and that it's very different when the kid doesn't go home of an evening.
like, i'm great with my nephew. but i would still never ever ever for anything in the whole fucking world have one myself.
Girly why tf would you want to stop? You loose feelings because that's a shitty boyfriend, get a new one they are not worth it. Don't buy into the fantasy of bettering a man, you start dating better man, problem solved
Man sounds to me like you dodged a bullet buddy.