If you ever find yourself with someone wanting your money again, get a proper loan set up with a lawyer if you really want to share your wealth. You’ll never be this lucky twice.
I’m sorry your heart got broken in such a horrible way. I hope you find someone who doesn’t even think to ask for these kinds of things.
Even spending time all by yourself will be good. Maybe even just studying alone at the library since you're in school. As well, if you don't have other friends at school besides him maybe join some clubs. Or try & study with others from your classes outside of class!
Yup. My now wife was very clear. We got together in our early 20s and she would do “vibe checks” to make sure we were still on the same track. She got off the implant and told me “Doctors say I should be off for a year before having kids to reduce any congenital issues. I'm getting off 2 years early to be safe.” we were married 2 years later and our first kid was born 9 months after that.
Women have timelines OP. They have to. They can only have children for a finite amount of time. I get that this freaks you out. She has already decided on you after 2 months. That would freak me out too. But it could also be a cultural thing (you said she was on a visa). Also, after her visa is up, she needs to know what is next. Married to you or on a plane home. That's tricky.
We hang out a lot after work with all of our coworkers and I'm afraid of bringing other flirts to the bar with us and flirting in front of him with them. But yeah I guess no matter what it'll be awkward..
OP, you shouldn't even have bothered explaiming yourself. Your sister is never gonna listen. If I were you, I would've told everyone in the family that they are disgusting and should be ashamed of themselves for blaming other people (yourself included) your sister's husband abuse, and that you never want to talk to them again.
If you ever find yourself with someone wanting your money again, get a proper loan set up with a lawyer if you really want to share your wealth. You’ll never be this lucky twice.
I’m sorry your heart got broken in such a horrible way. I hope you find someone who doesn’t even think to ask for these kinds of things.
Even spending time all by yourself will be good. Maybe even just studying alone at the library since you're in school. As well, if you don't have other friends at school besides him maybe join some clubs. Or try & study with others from your classes outside of class!
Bro wtf
Yup. My now wife was very clear. We got together in our early 20s and she would do “vibe checks” to make sure we were still on the same track. She got off the implant and told me “Doctors say I should be off for a year before having kids to reduce any congenital issues. I'm getting off 2 years early to be safe.” we were married 2 years later and our first kid was born 9 months after that.
Women have timelines OP. They have to. They can only have children for a finite amount of time. I get that this freaks you out. She has already decided on you after 2 months. That would freak me out too. But it could also be a cultural thing (you said she was on a visa). Also, after her visa is up, she needs to know what is next. Married to you or on a plane home. That's tricky.
So get it figured out OP.
“Why buy the cow if you’re getting the milk for free” was a saying specifically invented for this very scenario.
Dump him but, expect him to rebound to someone else and be married within a year.
I’ve seen it happen many times.
We hang out a lot after work with all of our coworkers and I'm afraid of bringing other flirts to the bar with us and flirting in front of him with them. But yeah I guess no matter what it'll be awkward..
Nothing…you can and should do nothing. Her silence is the answer to the question of if she wants to be friends or not.
Seek therapy.
OP, you shouldn't even have bothered explaiming yourself. Your sister is never gonna listen. If I were you, I would've told everyone in the family that they are disgusting and should be ashamed of themselves for blaming other people (yourself included) your sister's husband abuse, and that you never want to talk to them again.
When you stay with a cheater you tell them that you are ok with them cheating on you. The only way to deal with them is to leave.
Find your self worth and leave. You should also get STD tested.