I agree with the people saying that he should tell her. However, I hate to say it but this is kind of coming across like he still has feelings for her in some type of way. If he didn't care, he wouldn't care what her reaction is. Sure, he may just be a decent person who cares about someone he used to be with but this is really coming across like he still has feelings for her.
Even if she's putting 'enough' (as in, what the sponsor – i.e., your boyfriend – considers to be enough) effort into finding a job then it might drag out.
I think a major aspect here is that you'd stop working and live in your boyfriend's apartment supported 100% by him if you could, right? And you're offended that he doesn't want to do that?
Make time for romance! That's what many relationships lose in the mundane rhythm of life. Write her love notes, send her flirty and lovey texts when you're away, surprise her with a rose or some flowers randomly. Force that spark back!
Y’all seem to think that just because there’s no set in stone plans partners can act completely against the interests of their SOs. Like a relationship is automatically less valid because we’re not living together right now.
The only reason I don’t live with her is that financially it makes orders of magnitude more sense right now to live with my parents. Like, orders of magnitude. I can’t fall into the rental trap right now and she has nowhere near the amount to buy a house (I have much more than her).
And like I said elsewhere I still think she would have done this even if I lived with her.
You did nothing wrong, AT ALL. Please do not rehome your dog to satisfy your boyfriend, because let me tell you, this will only be one thing among many you end up losing.
All the stupid ass people telling op “It's 2022, do what you do”, listen to this lady pls
This person constantly trolls r/oasis
She’s probably been ran through
Maybe staying silent vs disagreeing is the way to go about this in the future?
I agree with the people saying that he should tell her. However, I hate to say it but this is kind of coming across like he still has feelings for her in some type of way. If he didn't care, he wouldn't care what her reaction is. Sure, he may just be a decent person who cares about someone he used to be with but this is really coming across like he still has feelings for her.
That bridge will be crossed when they come to it.
Even if she's putting 'enough' (as in, what the sponsor – i.e., your boyfriend – considers to be enough) effort into finding a job then it might drag out.
I think a major aspect here is that you'd stop working and live in your boyfriend's apartment supported 100% by him if you could, right? And you're offended that he doesn't want to do that?
Make time for romance! That's what many relationships lose in the mundane rhythm of life. Write her love notes, send her flirty and lovey texts when you're away, surprise her with a rose or some flowers randomly. Force that spark back!
You’re young. Move on. Get some therapy to work through the foster stuff. You’ll look back on this with relief.
Y’all seem to think that just because there’s no set in stone plans partners can act completely against the interests of their SOs. Like a relationship is automatically less valid because we’re not living together right now.
The only reason I don’t live with her is that financially it makes orders of magnitude more sense right now to live with my parents. Like, orders of magnitude. I can’t fall into the rental trap right now and she has nowhere near the amount to buy a house (I have much more than her).
And like I said elsewhere I still think she would have done this even if I lived with her.
You did nothing wrong, AT ALL. Please do not rehome your dog to satisfy your boyfriend, because let me tell you, this will only be one thing among many you end up losing.