That’s fair, especially if you had seen each other a lot in that time. It can be very disappointing but on the bright side at least you found out this early and can move on to someone better 🙂
That’s fair, especially if you had seen each other a lot in that time. It can be very disappointing but on the bright side at least you found out this early and can move on to someone better 🙂
Doesn’t seem like there is a second chance. But if you really do want clarity then yes, straight up asking if she’s interested in having anything with you will give you some closure and help you with your next move. I will say though most girls wouldn’t barely talk to the guy that they like.
It completely destroyed me. I never knew what was going to go wrong or why. But it would. It always would.
I became a shell of myself in the last couple years.
When we finally separated it took very little time for me to feel better than I had in maybe my entire life.
She was also a good person Ava did tremendous things for me and the relationship. But I could only be threatened to be kicked off of vacations, because she got mad and decided to stop talking to me, so many times. The cold shoulders were incessant. The communication was non existent. It was all emotional manipulation at her slightest inconvenience.
My parents believe you need to have social life too besides of being married which I agree. I am asexual, I do not find enjoyment with sleeping around. And I’m my boyfriends first and only and he’s about to be 27 next month. I’m staying committed it’s what we both want.
Absolutely a hill worth dying on. Reading this made me furious. You don't want kids. Bottom line. He doesn't get to make that decision for you. Stick to your guns on this.
If the connection feels right then give the relationship a chance. I’ve been in a similar situation – the relationship had a clear 6 month expiry date because I was relocating to another continent, but the connection was really strong so I figured I’d just see how it went. It was 100% worth it, we’ve now settled in the same city together and we’re getting married this year
It sounds like you have a comfortable friendship, not a relationship. You can love someone and they still not be a good partner for you. You've been together since you were 15? Most people do a lot of maturing between 15 and 19 – and 20, and 24. Talking on the phone and playing video games is fun, but it does not a relationship make long term. What was awesome at 15 can be not enough at 19, and it definitely won't be at 22. How many years are you willing to wait for this guy to grow and become more mature and responsible? Another three? Maybe five? I think you've outgrown this guy, and that is very very common with first loves.
You definitely need to set boundaries and share the workload. Of course, talking about this stuff is step 1. Being patient and continuing to work through slip ups and moments of laziness is another thing. It's a bit of a culture shock when moving in with someone for the first time, so it's best to be patient and understanding. Positive reinforcement goes a long way as well. If he refuses to do anything or is just generally lazy 80%+ of the time, you've got a different issue.
That’s fair, especially if you had seen each other a lot in that time. It can be very disappointing but on the bright side at least you found out this early and can move on to someone better 🙂
That’s fair, especially if you had seen each other a lot in that time. It can be very disappointing but on the bright side at least you found out this early and can move on to someone better 🙂
Move on. You keep having the same conversation over and over again and nothing has changed.
Doesn’t seem like there is a second chance. But if you really do want clarity then yes, straight up asking if she’s interested in having anything with you will give you some closure and help you with your next move. I will say though most girls wouldn’t barely talk to the guy that they like.
My wife was similar.
It completely destroyed me. I never knew what was going to go wrong or why. But it would. It always would.
I became a shell of myself in the last couple years.
When we finally separated it took very little time for me to feel better than I had in maybe my entire life.
She was also a good person Ava did tremendous things for me and the relationship. But I could only be threatened to be kicked off of vacations, because she got mad and decided to stop talking to me, so many times. The cold shoulders were incessant. The communication was non existent. It was all emotional manipulation at her slightest inconvenience.
My parents believe you need to have social life too besides of being married which I agree. I am asexual, I do not find enjoyment with sleeping around. And I’m my boyfriends first and only and he’s about to be 27 next month. I’m staying committed it’s what we both want.
Absolutely a hill worth dying on. Reading this made me furious. You don't want kids. Bottom line. He doesn't get to make that decision for you. Stick to your guns on this.
Nope. He removed you from his friends on social media.
If the connection feels right then give the relationship a chance. I’ve been in a similar situation – the relationship had a clear 6 month expiry date because I was relocating to another continent, but the connection was really strong so I figured I’d just see how it went. It was 100% worth it, we’ve now settled in the same city together and we’re getting married this year
He fuckzoned you. Time to cut your losses
Here are my thoughts:
It sounds like you have a comfortable friendship, not a relationship. You can love someone and they still not be a good partner for you. You've been together since you were 15? Most people do a lot of maturing between 15 and 19 – and 20, and 24. Talking on the phone and playing video games is fun, but it does not a relationship make long term. What was awesome at 15 can be not enough at 19, and it definitely won't be at 22. How many years are you willing to wait for this guy to grow and become more mature and responsible? Another three? Maybe five? I think you've outgrown this guy, and that is very very common with first loves.
Good luck OP.
Oh come on. He’s an adult. He’s trying to manipulate you on so many levels. It’s just wrong.
You definitely need to set boundaries and share the workload. Of course, talking about this stuff is step 1. Being patient and continuing to work through slip ups and moments of laziness is another thing. It's a bit of a culture shock when moving in with someone for the first time, so it's best to be patient and understanding. Positive reinforcement goes a long way as well. If he refuses to do anything or is just generally lazy 80%+ of the time, you've got a different issue.