She had a trauma that will never fully heal. But without any professional help, she will always be at same level of grief as when it first happened. An open wound that will never scar over. Plus she may feel she has inherited her father’s homicidal tendency. There is only so much you can do, and at some point you have to take care of yourself, especially since you take medication for your own anxiety. If she has friends to go out with, they can be her babysitters. You are not leaving her with nobody. You have done all you can. Step back, let her friends be responsible for her and live your life. She will never again be the person you fell in love in. That woman died with her parents. Now it’s time for you to grieve for that person and move on. Good luck.
He's gaslighting you so bad. Put an end to this misery. His toxic ass needs to see its way out of your life. Get a new job or at least let HR know what's happening if he's going to have authority over you at work. So many red flags here. What a creep. You deserve better. Fuck his sob stories he treats you like shit. Can't even act like a damn adult smh.
The dynamic called “the Stockholm Syndrome” where individuals form
a bond with their captors. The roots of the syndrome connect to power and
the ability to express that power. You have had quite a traumatic relationship
with power figures in your life and have selected one to identify with.
It helps that the individual you have selected showed you nurturing and kindly
behaviors. Your responses are not so much “inappropriate” as “mis-directed”.
This dynamic is actually quite prevalent in the Teaching profession where
vulnerable students identify with teachers as authority figures.
You will need some objective guidance to reframe your experience with
the individual you have identified as your rescuer.
She had a trauma that will never fully heal. But without any professional help, she will always be at same level of grief as when it first happened. An open wound that will never scar over. Plus she may feel she has inherited her father’s homicidal tendency. There is only so much you can do, and at some point you have to take care of yourself, especially since you take medication for your own anxiety. If she has friends to go out with, they can be her babysitters. You are not leaving her with nobody. You have done all you can. Step back, let her friends be responsible for her and live your life. She will never again be the person you fell in love in. That woman died with her parents. Now it’s time for you to grieve for that person and move on. Good luck.
Ahah I was going to edit my comment to add that, this is probably a troll
He's gaslighting you so bad. Put an end to this misery. His toxic ass needs to see its way out of your life. Get a new job or at least let HR know what's happening if he's going to have authority over you at work. So many red flags here. What a creep. You deserve better. Fuck his sob stories he treats you like shit. Can't even act like a damn adult smh.