Thank you! Before I caught him lying about the club, I never watched if he was checking out other women. I can definitely admit the situation brought out an awful insecure side of me, and it’s not healthy for me to be watching for him to do it.
Because sometimes if we watched telly together the dogs would cuddle up to me and I'd pet them absentmindedly. She got mad because I didn't stroke her like I did the dogs. So I told her if she lays down in my lap first I'll do the same thing for her and it solved the problem. But I think she was being a bit ridiculous.
I always say that I think she loves me a bit too much
No . I expressed myself badly because I don't know English well, I asked, 24 hours later, what he had done in a certain city and he replied: I was fucking
The only porn I’ve bought was some hotel porn for like $35-$40 a video that my girl wanted to look at, 18k is fucking wild he has a massive problem. I would feel really betrayed if my partner spent that much on porn, especially if it’s the duration of your relationship.
Having dipped into the photography world before as a photographer, every single bit of that is standard. The contract, the rights, the outfits and posing. Frequently, if the tog isn't getting paid for it, it's called “TFP” or “Time For Pictures” which is just basically saying “Hey, I'll do some cool-ass photos of you for free but I get photos out of it” and this is also standard practice. Some will even ask for permission to touch every single time a pose adjustment is required though clever togs will come up with alternative ways to avoid physical contact precisely of the concerns OP expresses here along with the perception you express. Some will also insist on having a 3rd party to ensure nothing “untoward” happens.
Now. That. Said…
OP should take some time to sit with it and calm down a bit before approaching his friend. It's likely OP's friend felt comfortable asking this because he felt they had a solid friendship and believed it could survive something like this. After all, this was supposed to be a gift so OP's wife couldn't exactly ask if OP was comfortable with this without spilling anything.
What's done is done however and OP can, once he's calmer, approach his friend and ask for a revision of the contract so that his friend retains no rights at all. If the friend is a friend, he will agree.
That having been said, I've done nude photography before and after a while I decided that the potential controversy of dealing with jealousy, potential allegations and accusations wasn't worth it. I enjoyed it while I did it because, honestly, once you've done art with the human body enough, the body is just a body and eroticism for the photographer just doesn't exist any more (unless their goal is to find hookups and those are entirely too easy to spot) and the art form is what you're concerned with. I've worked with enough nudes that it's just not a thing to me. This may have been what happened with OP's friend and since it was “just an art thing” with a “human body” that it didn't even occur to him that OP might take issue.
So OP does indeed need to calm a little while and then talk to his friend, get those photo rights, and just let it go.
I think your husband’s “friendship(s)”, especially the one with the woman you speak of, is inappropriate. I think her blocking you the second time is weird. I think it is suspicious.
Redecorate the house. Start by throwing out the dead wood. Go Marie Kondo (if that’s still a thing) on his ass.
Thank you! Before I caught him lying about the club, I never watched if he was checking out other women. I can definitely admit the situation brought out an awful insecure side of me, and it’s not healthy for me to be watching for him to do it.
Because sometimes if we watched telly together the dogs would cuddle up to me and I'd pet them absentmindedly. She got mad because I didn't stroke her like I did the dogs. So I told her if she lays down in my lap first I'll do the same thing for her and it solved the problem. But I think she was being a bit ridiculous.
I always say that I think she loves me a bit too much
You need to get over your tiny ego and grow up
Honestly, no I didn't know that is what you meant. My own interpretation of her writing didn't have a negative tone.
Yes, it does.
Knowing someone very likely would not consent, but still have sex with them despite that = You broke their consent.
It's easy.
No . I expressed myself badly because I don't know English well, I asked, 24 hours later, what he had done in a certain city and he replied: I was fucking
The only porn I’ve bought was some hotel porn for like $35-$40 a video that my girl wanted to look at, 18k is fucking wild he has a massive problem. I would feel really betrayed if my partner spent that much on porn, especially if it’s the duration of your relationship.
after reading your second Edit
Having dipped into the photography world before as a photographer, every single bit of that is standard. The contract, the rights, the outfits and posing. Frequently, if the tog isn't getting paid for it, it's called “TFP” or “Time For Pictures” which is just basically saying “Hey, I'll do some cool-ass photos of you for free but I get photos out of it” and this is also standard practice. Some will even ask for permission to touch every single time a pose adjustment is required though clever togs will come up with alternative ways to avoid physical contact precisely of the concerns OP expresses here along with the perception you express. Some will also insist on having a 3rd party to ensure nothing “untoward” happens.
Now. That. Said…
OP should take some time to sit with it and calm down a bit before approaching his friend. It's likely OP's friend felt comfortable asking this because he felt they had a solid friendship and believed it could survive something like this. After all, this was supposed to be a gift so OP's wife couldn't exactly ask if OP was comfortable with this without spilling anything.
What's done is done however and OP can, once he's calmer, approach his friend and ask for a revision of the contract so that his friend retains no rights at all. If the friend is a friend, he will agree.
That having been said, I've done nude photography before and after a while I decided that the potential controversy of dealing with jealousy, potential allegations and accusations wasn't worth it. I enjoyed it while I did it because, honestly, once you've done art with the human body enough, the body is just a body and eroticism for the photographer just doesn't exist any more (unless their goal is to find hookups and those are entirely too easy to spot) and the art form is what you're concerned with. I've worked with enough nudes that it's just not a thing to me. This may have been what happened with OP's friend and since it was “just an art thing” with a “human body” that it didn't even occur to him that OP might take issue.
So OP does indeed need to calm a little while and then talk to his friend, get those photo rights, and just let it go.
I think your husband’s “friendship(s)”, especially the one with the woman you speak of, is inappropriate. I think her blocking you the second time is weird. I think it is suspicious.
If it doesn’t walk like a duck, swims like a duck and quack like a duck…
Go full NC. A person that’s willing to string you along for so long doesn’t deserve the time of day.