Okay weird. I made a comment, then realized I was repeating myself so I deleted it. No there's a microphone next to deleted like I was the OP. Why does it do that?
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I don’t make my partner manage my family. If I have a problem with my family or she has a problem with my family I deal with it. If I have a problem with her family she manages it. I find that when it comes to families there seems to be these ridiculous situations where you’re not dealing with rational adults. My family is only unreasonable with each other and would never pull half the stuff they pull with anyone else because they wouldn’t tolerate it. You should deal with your family your wife shouldn’t half to (unless a reasonable adult convert is possible). If your family is upset unreasonably because she is busy it’s up to you to explain the situation. You know your family best.
Yes, it can be a reason. Long distance relationships aren't for everyone and she might not ever want to move back to the NE. So things may just fall apart anyway. Just play things by ear for now.
She mentions in other comments that he's threatened to kill them both if they try to leave and has put all her documents in a safe that only he has access too. He's the most abusive man I've seen in here in a long time and I don't she's said nearly everything he's done yet. I really hope she gets out ok.
Your husband is a giant, gaping asshole and he treats you like an animal. He also tells you that you are wrong when you try to communicate and that you need to listen to him. He needs to GO.
Yeah, apparently this guy deserves to be ghosted. If someone was emotionally crowding me like this, I’d avoid him to. They are barely a year in, God forbid she takes some space to herself.
If he wanted to break up with her, fine, but reading her diary is entirely wrong.
It's what I call a vexing object. Make it go away. Give it away, thrift-shop it or throw it away without guilt. You have the right to live your new life.
Yes, it is all too fast. Moving this fast is commonly a tactic used by abusers to get their victim emotionally tied to them. Not always, but please slow down and be aware.
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I don't see anybody talking about it, but do we just assume she suddenly lost all her sex drive and libido all of a sudden, and now she has no needs anymore whatsoever ? You need to call her out on that, this is fishy as hell.
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I don’t make my partner manage my family. If I have a problem with my family or she has a problem with my family I deal with it. If I have a problem with her family she manages it. I find that when it comes to families there seems to be these ridiculous situations where you’re not dealing with rational adults. My family is only unreasonable with each other and would never pull half the stuff they pull with anyone else because they wouldn’t tolerate it. You should deal with your family your wife shouldn’t half to (unless a reasonable adult convert is possible). If your family is upset unreasonably because she is busy it’s up to you to explain the situation. You know your family best.
Yes, it can be a reason. Long distance relationships aren't for everyone and she might not ever want to move back to the NE. So things may just fall apart anyway. Just play things by ear for now.
She mentions in other comments that he's threatened to kill them both if they try to leave and has put all her documents in a safe that only he has access too. He's the most abusive man I've seen in here in a long time and I don't she's said nearly everything he's done yet. I really hope she gets out ok.
I take your point. I could have said “person who is irresponsible” but loser seemed more succinct.
Your husband is a giant, gaping asshole and he treats you like an animal. He also tells you that you are wrong when you try to communicate and that you need to listen to him. He needs to GO.
Because they’re supposed to love me and want to spend time with me?
Yeah, apparently this guy deserves to be ghosted. If someone was emotionally crowding me like this, I’d avoid him to. They are barely a year in, God forbid she takes some space to herself.
If he wanted to break up with her, fine, but reading her diary is entirely wrong.
Glad i did.
It's what I call a vexing object. Make it go away. Give it away, thrift-shop it or throw it away without guilt. You have the right to live your new life.
Yes, it is all too fast. Moving this fast is commonly a tactic used by abusers to get their victim emotionally tied to them. Not always, but please slow down and be aware.
“Some would say we screwed @ThrowRA4551683; ThrowRA4551683 would definitely tell you we screwed him. We look at it from a different standpoint. We look at it from the standpoint of Facebook did not screw ThrowRA4551683, Danielle certainly did not screw ThrowRA4551683, nor did Do We Have the Same Boyfriend screw ThrowRA4551683. We truly believe that ThrowRA4551683 screwed ThrowRA4551683, and he can look in the mirror and know that.”
Do We Have the Same Boyfriend, probably
He is unlicensed though so can’t even legally drive said car
Well she's resorted to not talking to me at all. She's still here at my house but not talking to me. That's good, right? ?
I would never date a conservative. But I’m plenty tired of being burned by leftist misogynists too.
I don't see anybody talking about it, but do we just assume she suddenly lost all her sex drive and libido all of a sudden, and now she has no needs anymore whatsoever ? You need to call her out on that, this is fishy as hell.
I don’t blame you for not even considering taking her back. Total deal breaker. There are zero excuses to negate her behavior. None.
The relationship… the trust, honesty, respect, loyalty have been shattered beyond repair.
All the best to you as you move forward with your life.
Let it go-Elsa
That is some handmaid tale shit.
I don’t know man, maybe treat as if you were a single parent dating for the first time?
First just the 2 of you and then maybe at some later point with the kids. I would make it clear that any slip to previous behavior puts an end to it.
Just have sex already. He will have no clue whether you were still a virgin.
He's coercing you. He'll keep coercing you. Leave him.
I just want to say .. if you do end up needing or wanting a divorce, that’s ok❤️ Better to be divorced twice than unhappy forever
I just want to say .. if you do end up needing or wanting a divorce, that’s ok❤️ Better to be divorced twice than unhappy forever
wtf! seriously if you stay with him you will face the same cheating issues & more kids popping out for the next 40 years.
Know you self-worth & he is unworthy to be with you. he cheated. you got yourself a liar & he has been on hookup apps.
he dares you ask you -“He has asked me to support him regardless of the result and to try move past this together” !!!!???? fucking hell! he cheated!!
wow! do you even want to be a mother to his affair child?!
LEAVE HIM. you deserve better.