I completely understand distraught. This must be heartbreaking. I’m so sorry. I don’t understand livid. I know it’s really painful for you, but needing to know who she is outside of a relationship is really healthy. It’s really mature. I am so sorry for your pain but please try to let go of the anger. For your own sake. Chances are it’s just more pain turned outward. Anger is easier than pain. You will be okay. This isn’t about anything you did or didn’t do.
Condoms have a 2% chance of getting her pregnant if used perfectly, average condom use is only about 80-85% effective meaning it’s probably closer to a 15-20% chance. They’re easily one of the least reliable forms of birth control to use alone. Failure rates alone are 3-15%.
I’m so sorry this happened but grateful OP has solid support with his friends/brothers. Making the right choices, moving on, healing will come in time.
OP has been woken up several times by him forcing himself on her. So, yes he has done it before to her and I agree that she's most likely not the first victim.
Time to hit the road
Leave her. Only advice you need. Only 6 months – bail now while it's easy.
You didn’t know your ID has your birthdate?
I completely understand distraught. This must be heartbreaking. I’m so sorry. I don’t understand livid. I know it’s really painful for you, but needing to know who she is outside of a relationship is really healthy. It’s really mature. I am so sorry for your pain but please try to let go of the anger. For your own sake. Chances are it’s just more pain turned outward. Anger is easier than pain. You will be okay. This isn’t about anything you did or didn’t do.
I think you’re on to something.
For me I always hold on to my breakdown until I have time. My husband will react to tough situations immediately, sometimes during.
Condoms have a 2% chance of getting her pregnant if used perfectly, average condom use is only about 80-85% effective meaning it’s probably closer to a 15-20% chance. They’re easily one of the least reliable forms of birth control to use alone. Failure rates alone are 3-15%.
I’m so sorry this happened but grateful OP has solid support with his friends/brothers. Making the right choices, moving on, healing will come in time.
OP has been woken up several times by him forcing himself on her. So, yes he has done it before to her and I agree that she's most likely not the first victim.
If the spouse needs to get locked up in order to stay faithful, just give the marriage the much needed mercy kill.