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Date: October 16, 2022
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If you give her another chance, don't come here crying that she did it again, Cheater always a cheater!
I know this is hard, but you gotta remember- your mom isn’t just a mom, she’s a human. She needs to know that her partner is being unfaithful. Her physical health is in danger.
You are acting way more rationally than anyone could expect you to in this situation especially considering you’re 15. You telling your mom wouldn’t ruin your family, your dad did that the second he started cheating.
Your mom deserves the truth. It will probably be easier if she hears if from you now.
I wish people would stop making someone their “girlfriend” or “boyfriend” before they actually know some very basic things about a person. Knowing if a person believes you should be married to have sex would help you a lot in deciding whether or not that's the relationship you should be in. Knowing how they work their timelines, as in how well do they feel like they need to know a person before they go there will help people a lot in determining whether that's going to work for you or not.
Now the immaturity of freaking out and ignoring someone just because they brought up sex – that sounds cultural. Is it? In some cultures a vast majority of girls actually believe that the only reason a guy wants to have sex with you before he marries you is because he has no plans to commit to you.
Either way – do try and have a conversation by making it clear you only brought it up because of the comments she made. Also have an honest conversation about what her expectations are. Is she looking for a long term commitment? Will she need an engagement proposal ? Does she believe you'll have to marry her first? Does she believe that it's going to take however long it's going to take?
all of this is good for you to know so you can decide whether to wait it out.
Call her parents, let them know what’s going on. Break up with her, give her notice and STOP HELPING HER. She will ramp up her behaviour. Why? Because it’s worked 8 other times. Call the police, call an ambulance. Let her parents know. She will be safe.
yea its becayse its been months since weve hung out and i guess she doesnt feel comfortable with me. She did she cant trust me rn and needs to heal. And a good friend does make time. But i dont ezpect much after hurting her
I am so sorry this is happening to you. He was cruel and played with your life, cheated and made you feel alone in another country.
I would advise you to go back to your home country, otherwise it would be very difficult to move and he would have even more power over you after the baby is born.
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Y'all are insane wtf
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So did you come to an advice sub looking for actual advice, or are you looking for unconditional validation of your inappropriate behavior?
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I don’t think there’s anything going on, it’s just her joking with friends. But if that makes you uncomfortable that’s ok and it wouldn’t be wrong to sit with her and talk through how and why it makes you uncomfortable. If she’s a good girlfriend she’ll listen to your point of view. You have a right to feel uncomfortable and express it and she has a right to express how and why she feels like it’s appropriate. If you two can’t understand each other and come to a compromise then maybe it’s best to just move on. Hopefully you can understand each other though.
You should just ask her – Hey, have you been in contact or met up with X & Y lately?
See what she says. If she asks why you are asking, just tell her that they have been on your mind lately, specifically her relationship with them. From there you can try to dive deeper into the “situation”.
Also, if she says she hasn’t been in contact then you know she is hiding things.
Good luck.
Say your the ghost of Christmas past
OP, you need to separate two things: – How your bf feels (he can’t control this) – How your bf behaves (he can absolutely control what he does with his hands and what comes out of his mouth).
The way he’s treating you is just abominable. Ask yourself: what would you do if your friend, sister, or daughter came to you and told you this was how their bf was treating them?
She’s 13, hormonal and maybe has heard comments from others about the age gap. If it’s also just been the 3 of them for a while then it’s going to take time and patience from you. If they’re used to having their dads undivided attention, it’s hard to suddenly share it with someone else. Don’t be the wicked step mother, I’m sure dad will choose his kids before any woman.
If he was hazy due to alcohol consumption he was too inebriated to consent to sex.
Also from the sounds of it they both worried about being heard at times but often still had sex after airing their worry.
Being that op knows they both worried about being heard at times indicates communication.
So one of them airing being worried with a pattern of normally still having sex is the reason this is a grey area from some people's view point.
People get to choose how to deal with trauma. He chose anger.
I’ve received soul sucking news before and my reaction is sadness and sympathy.
Yeah this may escalate further. Since you’re in a band together, I would set up some time with him and tell him to cut his shit and his behaviour is unacceptable. If he doesn’t like it then tell him if he does it again, you’re calling the cops.
I’m with you OP, graduation should come before a celebrity. Especially if it is important to you
I will definitely do more listening tomorrow then talking, but not be too upfront with the questions because of how fragile she can be. Appreciate the response!
Let the man pee outside with good mate.
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There is no good reason a 37 year old man should be pursuing a 23 year old woman. None. If nothing else, it means he lacks proper judgment and can’t recognize where boundaries should be. Not good qualities.
You’re certainly not reading what I was saying. Being intimate is off limits. But meeting a friend 1 on 1 doesn’t suggest any form of intimacy.
Ofc you don’t have to be ok with your partner having female friends, that’s a you thing. But I will still say it’s because of insecurity. 🙂
If you don’t have trust and communication, you don’t have a relationship. I see nothing wrong with a partner/spouse having friends of the opposite sex. My husband and I do and we see nothing wrong with hanging out with them, with or without each other there. If one of you can’t agree with it that makes you two incompatible.
Explain it to me like I am five….
together for 3 1/2 years…okay…..
big age gap…..sigh.
messy ex/custody with worst mom ever, but still she has 50/50. AFTER psychological…okay, something does not add up there, but moving on….
“fiance”- yes let's jump into another life long commitment, okay, again moving along…
“could be one of four people”- wtf? open relationship or she just airing out the sex bag for whomever will float her attention?…
Seriously OP, your life is a bit hot mess that is going to splash on your kid. Get some help finding out why you attract or are attracted to unstable, immature and bizarre nuts. I am sorry to be harsh, but you pick some shitty partners. Time to take stock, focus on being a good dad and recovering your dignity.
She tried, it failed so she figures she'll come back to the comfort of your home… Until she finds better.
Radioactive waste it is. Tell her thanks but no thanks. Tell your kids what she tried also (in case she wants to paint herself as the victim, you never know) and keep being a great dad. Eventually you will find someone who won't treat you as a second choice.
Also I would advise therapy for your kids in case it's not already the case.
All good, gotta pick the diamonds from the coal. Thank you!
“Have you given Hawaii any thought yet?” is as much as I’ll ask. “Yeah but it’s not a quick decision” is as much as he needs to say. I don’t push. A couple weeks later “Have you thought about Hawaii” …”kinda but I’ve been busy”.
He doesn’t need to agree to go, I just have to re-assess if this is the right relationship for me.
Why would you want to be with a person who tell you she would rather travel with another man because traveling with you wouldn’t be fun? She should be with her roommate since she finds him more fun than you.
Why do you keep her in a poly relationship when it’s very obvious she hates it.
And just like that you needed a break and somehow the family knows??? You need to stop! Take a breath. You have all these years between you, have a future, did something juvenile and stupid and it was too much for you and your emo are hurt so now you’re done??
Ok, so someone can’t volunteer your time with out your permission. Don’t play nice to keep the peace. The moment you found out, object, and make other plans. So if it’s before the event, then just tell her she didn’t make sure you were okay with it, then go out to see a movie or spend time in a library and let her figure how to solve the problem. If you find out when they show up, apologize to everyone, tell them that this wasn’t what she said would be the nights activities, and instead of playing along but feeling disappointed and bringing everyone down, you’d prefer to excuse yourself. Then go yo the movies etc. and do call off the wedding and get couples therapy. This type of disconnect isn’t a good sign and so don’t get married until it’s ironed out.
So your dude knocked up a 19 year old and booked when he was 32. He sounds awesome.
If OP is ever in a situation of a work conference away from home again, give yourself some boundaries. Limit drinks. If you are the last one standing out of your team, leave immediately.
Your entire post is about how disingenuous he is. Don't play that game with yourself.
I can see why you'd lose some trust in her. She comes out as Bi after 10 years of being with you, and then starts talking about female coworker who's into her, and who she's into as well. It's very easy to take what she said as her testing the waters with you to see how you'd react to the idea of her “exploring” with that coworker. The fact is, the curiosity bug has bitten your wife. It's understandable to a degree, but when she said what she said, it introduced uncertainty about her loyalty going forward; uncertainty that wasn't there before. And frankly, what she said would put a dent in anyone's trust.
I think the next step is for the two of you to sit down and talk about what she gave voice to, without the liquor beforehand. Everyone's head needs to clear, and the discussion needs to be just as clear. Reassure her that her coming out as Bi doesn't change how you feel about her, but what she expressed that night about her female coworker has put some unpleasant questions in your mind about where her heart and mind are. Reiterate that cheating is cheating to you, it doesn't matter if she's with a man or woman. That the two of you have been in a monogamous marriage, and you have zero interest in three ways, a poly or open relationship, or anything that would involve either or you being intimate in any way with someone else. If she says she knows and again reassures you that she only wants you, then ask her why she felt the need to tell you that she's interested in that coworker. Why step in that direction by giving it voice? She had to know it would put doubts in your mind.
Now, once in a great while, a Bi person will act like being Bi gives them license to have a boyfriend and girlfriend. Or that it somehow gives them permission to “explore” outside of who they're with. But 90-plus percent of the time, someone who's Bi doesn't act like that at all and they're committed to whoever they chose to date/marry. Odds very much favor her staying with you and her staying faithful, so let that give you some comfort while you fight with those intrusive thoughts. But what she said hurt you a bit. It dented the solid relationship you've had with her. And I think she needs to know that so that she can be given a chance to help you feel completely safe in the relationship again.
Just a bit of advice for always. If you want something, want to know something, want to understand something. Never hint. People aren't mind readers and some hints aren't as obvious as you think they are. I'm a woman and slightly dense, so hinting had to be HUGE hint for me to get it. My guy is denser than me and hinting is a misfire every time. I would recommend not being too blunt ex: “hey do you like me or what?”. But a nice warm conversation talking about feelings is good. Also he may be a bit shy so if you're not, go first about your feelings so he can feel more relaxed talking about his.
This must be the longest post on Reddit ever. I’m not sure exactly what’s going on because I couldn’t read it all, but obviously the main problem is you got married too young. You can’t change that but that is a factor. You say you don’t want to leave her but she says she will murder you if you do. Take her seriously. The girl is not well and she will harm you if she thinks you are cheating even if you aren’t. There is nothing you can do except try to convince her to get therapy. Talking to her yourself won’t change her. If you tell her your love for her will grow if she goes into therapy, that might convince her. Make sure you say you don’t think she’s crazy and therapy is not for crazy people, just for people who need someone to talk to. Tell her that she will like the private time she gets with her therapist and make it sound like a spa day. Hopefully as she gets older she will change but that is not always the case.
So … i'm a little confused. Have you actually spoken to him about how you feel? You have a 'force' fetish,.. but did you actually lay out the terms of what that means? Did you tell him your boundaries? Do you have a safe word? Does he think you like it?
Are you concerned about his actions while you're drunk, or his actions while you're sober? You don't need permission to leave. You don't need proof of anything. You don't need an excuse. If you don't want to be with him, then just don't be.
It sucks to have feelings for someone and not know where you stand. But listen, you can't force someone to have feelings for you or to give you the answers you want. That's not fair to you or to him.
Based on what you're saying, it doesn't sound like this dude is super invested in making things work with you. He's got a lot of reasons why it won't work, and he hasn't made any moves to see you or make things happen. That's not a good sign, my man.
So, my advice would be to stop waiting around for him. If he's not into it, he's not into it. And that's okay. You deserve someone who's just as into you as you are into them. So, don't be afraid to go talk to that other dude you're into. You never know what could happen.
But, when it comes to this other guy, don't just send a letter or a text. If you want to talk to him, give him a call. It's more personal and it shows that you're willing to put in the effort to really talk things through. And whatever he says, take it at face value. It's hard, but it's better than waiting around for someone who isn't sure.
You can’t be 30 because you’re acting like a child yourself. No grown ass man is this dense, selfish, and just plain disrespectful to his partner and her daughter. Grow the fuck up and put some pants on man, you’re embarrassing yourself
I can't have all the answers Sheril.
I so badly want to be there for her and support her even if its just as a friend. My only condition was that she doesn’t start seeing someone else.
You can't be friends with someone and then demand this, you're not in a relationship anymore. You both need a clean break and move on from each other, look into things that can help, spend more time with friends, family and doing the things you enjoy
Don’t listen to this person telling you you’re pathetic. You’re going through something extremely challenging right now and it can be hard to sift through feelings. As much as I agree with what the person is saying (leave her) I don’t think they needed to simultaneously be rude to you. You 100% deserve better and I’m sure deep down you know what you need to to. That voice that’s telling you to move on is right.
Im not sure if this is a real post, but if so, personally i would not marry this guy. It would drive me crazy thinking that he would leave me for his ex at any giving moment. Thats no way to live… you want to be a first choice, not a second.
Not going to comment on the house thing cause i feel like theirs too many unknown factors.
For one, his parenting style is a bit concerning. I mentioned one thing about how he insists on keeping his child involved even though we have our issues that we need to work out. I am not comfortable with that. He keeps such a pressure on the relationship. Basically, if I say that I am going to try this out he continuously asks me if I would marry him tomorrow…. And ultimately, I’d love to get married someday. I am not one for the hookup culture. I am looking for my lifelong partner. So I would be willing to see if this is something worth lasting, but bc of the history and the on again off again, I can’t answer that right now. It puts a pit in my stomach.
Our issues leading to breaking up were mainly our differences in lifestyle, he didn’t like that I am a homebody and like to be at my own house sometimes over spending it with him. Some days I just like my alone time. But he took it very personally. He also would accuse me of letting his child down multiple times due to us not hanging out bc me and him were having issues. For example, we would have plans to go somewhere with the kids, but we would have issues and not really on good terms so the plans didn’t follow through, and he would say it was my fault his child was upset.
As long as you're not doing it out of principle, are over him enough to focus on the new BF and won't hurt him, then your pal is too late. It's a shame and a lesson, but you were clear and respected his feelings, now he has to respect yours. I'd still suggest space to focus on the new relationship and allow the pal to move on whilst being respectful to your BF, but it's a salvageable situation if you all handle it well and are honest.
I guess what I was thinking is if you can afford the car you probably are not stupid. Usually smart people avoid dating stupid people especially when it’s a woman who is smart because women tend to not date the hot airhead type where some men will.
I think you hit the nail on the head. I also don’t think he’s actively trying to be a stalker, but it sure seems like it. Should I send a text?
Dude, you just had a dream where she cheated on you. And the guy was … old. Or ugly … take your pick. Why would you have that dream other than your subconscious picking up real signals and relaying them to you in your sleep. You now need access to her phone to verify.
So…. Maybe you should confront her, “I know you've cheated on me with another man and some of the personal details of that. I need some space for x amount of time to figure out what I want to do about it. You need to go stay at a friend's/family during this time.”
Then give her the boot and take that time to feel your feels and sort it out. Then go have the clearer head conversation with her about it all…
Just remember that if you decide to try and work it out, that means there has to be a point where you forgive her and never use this cheating against her. Also, if you do decide to stick around, you can always change your mind later and break up even if things get back to feeling normal.
She's not on the pill, we use condoms. I always check before using them to make sure
Both of them say that if I get married, that's the only time when I can move out (which is how it is in our old schooled culture). During the argument, they did mention that I can move out once i get my bachelor's, but that's never been said before and I don't think it's also true.
Marriage, that's when they'd be comfortable with it. Or when I graduate (they just said that today because that's the closest time when they'd be willing to do).
Is it not the bare minimum to have your partner compliment you? Is it insecure to expect that little? I’m not forcing anything. I’m asking for something I would appreciate in the relationship. I feel like that’s fair? Couples should compliment one another in all areas including appearance, in my opinion. I understand not everyone needs that reassurance, but I still think it’s nice to hear.
There are men out in the world who see trans women as men and use the shock of being physically involved with a trans woman jolting and commit violence against them. That is why trans men and women need to be upfront. You never know how a partner may feel about being physical with a trans partner.
You are allowed to have whatever boundaries you want, but you have to communicate them. Especially if they’re this irrational.
If you previously told him that him looking at nudity on the internet was an instant breakup and for some insane reason he agreed with that policy then sure, I guess he crossed a line. Otherwise you’re massively overreacting to nothing.
She can't complain about running into him at the gym if she can't get into the gym! 🙂
You can’t “make her understand” anything, because that’s not the issue. The issue is that she has some deep insecurities and nothing you do will ever fix them. Her going to therapy might help, but that’s a long process.
Actually, her behavior is extreme enough that she might even be cheating on you and projecting her cheating on you.
I find public hair disgusting in general. As such, I keep it smooth. It actually irritates to have any now.
Keep your skin moisturized. That will go a long way.
Thanks for the advice. I'm very much an extrovert and used to speaking what I feel and he's the opposite. He does say he likes me and shows it, but maybe to try to adapt to eachother we kind of switched places (I'm more quiet and he's the vocal one). I do want a relationship with him. I am used to start dates, kissing first, etc so I think I expected him to do as I would or wanted, but thats just not his personality.
Thank you girl I really appreciate your advice and honesty. I don’t share this type of stuff with my friends or family as I’m a very private person so I don’t usually get advice on these topics. I only go by what I think which 9 times out of 10 i know it’s just my anxiety. So when I see comments like this it really helps me
Yes you can. You can get to the altar and turn around and walk away. What you are suffering from is the sunk cost fallacy meaning because you’ve put a lot of time and effort and money into some thing you must go through with it even if it’s the wrong decision. It is objectively crazy to tie yourself legally to someone who doesn’t value you just because it will cost you money and be embarrassing to call off the wedding.
I know someone who called off their expensive wedding the day before. And married someone else two years later, and has been married for many many years. If you realize you are marrying the wrong person, it is never too late to call it off.
That said, you may be fine marrying this guy no matter how he treats you. And if that’s your decision, that’s fine. But don’t justify it by saying it’s too late to call off the wedding. You have to own the decision and acknowledge you’re going to go through with the wedding because that’s what you want to do.
Just save the videos just incase they want to take you court for canceling the wedding,
This isn't really your problem. Let them do their own thing and do yours. And if you're worried about what people think, just casually mention you were married first.
This is not just porn, but cheating. He was paying people to do things for him. I doubt you spend this much to watch content everyone can watch or to subscribe to a person.
I don’t see the problem. He wants a blowjob. You aren’t fulfilling him sexually, and haven’t been for the better part of a year. Partners have sexual needs, and it is at least partially your fault for getting into an intimate relationship without having first dealt with your sexual trauma that so contributes to your aversion to sexual intercourse, which is a very normal part of healthy intimate relationships that is unfortunately seemingly not present in yours.
You are AWARE that you aren’t fulfilling him sexually, and that you haven’t dealt with your trauma contributing to your aversion towards sexual intercourse. You are AWARE that you aren’t very sexually experienced, and are letting this further contribute to your aversion towards sexual intercourse.
And it’s not like he’s asking you to do anything kinky. A blowjob is a very vanilla sexual act. It would be different if he were asking you to do some BDSM stuff haha. But the man is 31 and you’re 23. Did you think you just wouldn’t have to engage in sex? Honestly, you should have dated someone asexual if you knew you would be this averse to sexual intercourse.
But make no mistake: if he is pressuring you or coercing you into having sex, that is obviously wrong. I’m just perplexed as to why you’d put yourself in a situation where SEX HAPPENS—i.e. an intimate relationship—and not want to give the guy even a blowjob. Again, date someone asexual, or remain single until you can figure out how to deal with your sexual trauma.
I wasn’t. I reacted in an insane and irrational way and manner after YEARS of going through that abuse. I was with my ex 7y the last one that I broke I said things that even after 12y I am not proud of.
As YOU said abuse most of the times goes both ways. In THIS case I think that his behavior is inflicted by her family abuse.
Ouch! Nailed that…I always forget to look at past posts.
You need to move to therapy. It's not normal to give those actions so much thinking and making a world out of things that are insignificant for other people.
I didn’t pressure. I have my own boundaries. I don’t want my partner friends with their ex or in contact, that’s me not about my partner. She insisted that she wants to be friends and I walked away, I didn’t try to change her or control her. She lied to get me back
Same thing happened to me a few days ago, except I found out after I broke up with him over something else related to his dishonestly. I wish I knew at the time so I could’ve asked why he did it. I say confront him and say everything on your mind. Get yourself closure and leave him for good.
Gotcha.
I won't deny that I am immature for some things, but in no way do I tell her what to do, and she can choose to do whatever she wants to. But the only way I found to cope with this was to break it up. I know I will feel like crap when she goes, so I want to avoid that – but if she stays, it won't make a difference anymore, because I know it'll be against her will.
I just keep thinking that she is not right for me because of this, and this is the part where you can tear me appart if you want to. Please don't bring ex-wives into the discussion as that has nothing to do with it.
You don’t have a diagnosis, so don’t shit the bed just yet. Of course tell her that you are scared it might be cancer and that you want to see her. She can come visit you/move back after her trip if it does turn out to be a cancer diagnosis. Maybe you can video call and keep good communication during her trip, or as you mentioned, maybe she can cut it short if the news is particularly bad.
Do you have any local friends or family who can support you in the meantime? Remember this is a long distance relationship so visiting regularly be challenging for her. Unfortunately in long distance relationships it’s nearly impossible for a partner to show up at your beckon call. How long have you two been together?
Just always remember, you have ten fingers and sex toys exist.
So why don't you just go up and ring the doorbell? It sucks that he keeps you waiting but everyone days you can come in so why don't you? Does he have to invite you in every time?
Please listen to this OP. Adoption is a big undertaking.
OP, I'm sorry you are going through this. Words of advice: Keep all the evidence, depending on where you live this may help you with any action you decide on. Also, don't stay with him because of your kid. Your child is super young and will adjust more easily to living in two separate households than they will if your husband continues his behavior only for you to find out 10 years later to end the marriage. Get a lawyer asap, even if you aren't sure about getting a divorce. A lawyer can prepare you for everything and give you solid advice to put you in a good situation when you finally decide what to do. If you don't know what to decide, get counseling to work through your feelings.
You can get through this OP! Best of luck! Focus on what will make you happy and do that! Please update us too!
Why is he with you if he thinks so poorly of you?!?! Tell him he’s a three and you can’t date someone with an odd number!
You should get better self-esteem, is what you should do.
I'm not even convinced that your old nose was ugly. People often obsess irrationally about body parts they don't like.
As to your eventual children, they would get some of their nose genes from their father and some from you. You can't know in advance what kind of nose they would have.
So in brief – relax and don't worry about it.
If you've haven't already asked her, DON'T.
Why do you want this? Most people are going to assume it's a sex-related desire.
Yeah well if only you knew her list of don’t do’s
You’re 19 dude lol. Get the hell away from her. Shes a weirdo. She’s trying to baby trap u with some random dudes kid. She’s not even your gf or anything just a close friend. 5 years may seem like a lot but it’s a hell of a lot shorter than a life long commitment to a random dudes kid at your age. Also this will affect getting involved with other women and at some point settling down. Even if it’s not an issue and you’re with her for life, that guy will eventually want to be involved in his child’s life and that’s a whole other set of issues. Let her figure out her own issues with that guy and distance yourself from her. You’re a safe choice and she’s using you as a fall back if shit hits the fan. Have self respect.
100% agree it really depends on if she is or isn't pulling her weight tbh but if the person making less was financially contributing less I personally don't think that auto means they need to do more if they're still paying what they can if you get what I mean
Like if that meant contributing all her pay to pay 50% when that would only be a fraction to him I wouldn't say that's fair if that makes sense. Like what she earns doesn't mean she now has to do more chores because he earns more if they work they same amount of time?
I mean, if you want to date someone who doesn’t do this, I’d move on. It’s completely reasonable!
I’ve been looking to move out. My only problem is I’m a full-time college student & I have a part-time job that recently cut my hours. So now I’m on a job hunt so I don’t have to continue dealing w this bs.
And I 100% agree. All the signs were thrown right in front of her
My ex was controlling and accused me of cheating after I stayed over at his place
Ok sure, I would have accused you of the same thing. Most guys would. I get it you said you didn't cheat and I'll choose to believe you but you put yourself in a really compromising situation.
As for the rest of it, I think legally he has a right to see his kids. Talk to a lawyer first though.
My ex was controlling and accused me of cheating after I stayed over at his place
Ok sure, I would have accused you of the same thing. Most guys would. I get it you said you didn't cheat and I'll choose to believe you but you put yourself in a really compromising situation.
As for the rest of it, I think legally he has a right to see his kids.
Yeah like other ppl have said he’s married or otherwise messing around with other women he doesn’t want you to know about
Source: cheating ex who acted 100% exactly like this
I don't think it will be hard to find likeminded thinkers. You're not exactly a revolutionary in your thinking lol. The world is full to the brim of sexual conservatives.
Any hard boundary that you have is definitely going to eliminate some options, but those are just people that you're incompatible with anyway. It's far better to be alone than with someone you don't like or respect. Take the time to find someone who holds the same viewpoints as you, it's worth it in the end.
Why would you do it? That is the most immature and childish route you could have taken.
Next time be an adult and say “It bothers me when you talk to me like that”
I didn’t have time to see him healthy, and there are some things that I would like to discuss because he is hurting. Thanks for responding
Yes do it break it off. Let your fiancé find someone who isn't tempted by a friend and you go off and be with said friend. He doesn't deserve to have his time wasted just because you haven't gotten over this old friend.
Ever since, when I bring it up my boyfriend He tells me ive ruined his relationship between him and his friend of 10 years.
How did you ruin it? Did he stop talking to her bc you told him to?