Here’s a pro move. Next time he has a party, call the cops. Noise complaint. 10 PM sharp. If you happen to mention that you think there is underage drinking going on, all the better.
And once the cops bust the party, send a copy of the police report to his CO.
Let him know what a “snitch” really is.
BTW, your brother is a terrible human being and complete piece of self-involved and overly entitled shit. Just pointing out the obvious, and no offense meant to shit.
There’s an interesting philosophical debate here. This is really one of the few cases where it’s relatively easy to prove a negative. You can’t prove you aren’t having an affair. You can’t prove you aren’t a pedo. You can’t prove you never raped anyone. But since in this one case, you can prove you didn’t get pregnant by someone else, this becomes an issue.
What if there were tests for other things? How would a guy feel if a wife said “honey, I think I saw you looking at that kid at the mall today, and my friends say most guys are pedophiles. I need you to prove to me that you aren’t a pedo.”
Not really sure how all that would affect relationships, but it would definitely change people’s dating profiles! “Medically proven to not be a pedo!”
This is your wife. This is making her upset. It’s a pillow. Get rid of it. Yes, she’s being jealous and insecure. So what. She’s looking to you to recognize that her feelings matter to you even if you don’t understand them. Get rid of the pillow, work on her insecurity issues together with her. Show her what she feels matters.
Crazy enough, women are people and thus included in “pregnant person.” Trans men can, and do, have the ability to get pregnant
And no, unless it is in his body, he doesn't get a choice. The final say is made by the pregnant person. He can state how he feels but that's it.
Also, there's a pretty big difference between someone getting to choose whether or not to allow something the continued use and attachment to their body, and helping support the child you helped create.
I personally support being able to sign parental rights away within a specific time frame and not have to pay child support so long as abortion is available in that state.
Tried to be friends with his wife, but she actually complained to my face with me, getting treated better, and even at work functions, she says stuff like that. My wife was open to it, but not now. My wife sees her as controlling and manipulative with her actions.
I tried to set boundaries, but if my friend is not able to vent, what good am i as a friend? i am supposed to be a safe space as his friend.
I understand the craving to know. When you give somebody your whole, heart and soul and they just don't seem to value it or you at all.
Then you see them improve, you see them get to all the places you once helped aim, and it's without you, and it has nothing to do with you.
He was depressed, or cheating, or dealing with some problem or another, but let me promise you, it has nothing to do with you. Nothing. You weren't the reason he wasn't interested in sex, or self care, or anything. You weren't the reason he wasn't trying or didn't seem to care. He, and he alone is the reason for that. And it's also the reason the marriage is over. And that's ok. Accept that not all love in life is forever and value the lessons learned. You know what? Value the love you had for him too, cuz that was a step in who you are as a person. And it's good to acknowledge.
Tho, don't contact him, putting aside your family and husband, as I'm sure that if you be upfront with him and explain you just want closure he'll be supportive, it's not about ruining your marriage. Don't contact him for your own sake, because he won't have a good answer, nothing he could ever say will satisfy you. He could give any reason, at the end of the day you'll be left feeling unloved, because what you want him to do is fight for you, which he won't (or can't) do.
So “snitch” huh?
Here’s a pro move. Next time he has a party, call the cops. Noise complaint. 10 PM sharp. If you happen to mention that you think there is underage drinking going on, all the better.
And once the cops bust the party, send a copy of the police report to his CO.
Let him know what a “snitch” really is.
BTW, your brother is a terrible human being and complete piece of self-involved and overly entitled shit. Just pointing out the obvious, and no offense meant to shit.
Hmmm I think that would indicate he was trying to build/already has, a more significant relationship than babysitter/ employer.
There’s an interesting philosophical debate here. This is really one of the few cases where it’s relatively easy to prove a negative. You can’t prove you aren’t having an affair. You can’t prove you aren’t a pedo. You can’t prove you never raped anyone. But since in this one case, you can prove you didn’t get pregnant by someone else, this becomes an issue.
What if there were tests for other things? How would a guy feel if a wife said “honey, I think I saw you looking at that kid at the mall today, and my friends say most guys are pedophiles. I need you to prove to me that you aren’t a pedo.”
Not really sure how all that would affect relationships, but it would definitely change people’s dating profiles! “Medically proven to not be a pedo!”
You're right, he's dying on a weird hill with this one. I'm curious though, does he have any word for a casual instance of stuttering?
This is your wife. This is making her upset. It’s a pillow. Get rid of it. Yes, she’s being jealous and insecure. So what. She’s looking to you to recognize that her feelings matter to you even if you don’t understand them. Get rid of the pillow, work on her insecurity issues together with her. Show her what she feels matters.
Crazy enough, women are people and thus included in “pregnant person.” Trans men can, and do, have the ability to get pregnant
And no, unless it is in his body, he doesn't get a choice. The final say is made by the pregnant person. He can state how he feels but that's it.
Also, there's a pretty big difference between someone getting to choose whether or not to allow something the continued use and attachment to their body, and helping support the child you helped create.
I personally support being able to sign parental rights away within a specific time frame and not have to pay child support so long as abortion is available in that state.
Thanks for the tip!
Tried to be friends with his wife, but she actually complained to my face with me, getting treated better, and even at work functions, she says stuff like that. My wife was open to it, but not now. My wife sees her as controlling and manipulative with her actions.
I tried to set boundaries, but if my friend is not able to vent, what good am i as a friend? i am supposed to be a safe space as his friend.
I understand the craving to know. When you give somebody your whole, heart and soul and they just don't seem to value it or you at all.
Then you see them improve, you see them get to all the places you once helped aim, and it's without you, and it has nothing to do with you.
He was depressed, or cheating, or dealing with some problem or another, but let me promise you, it has nothing to do with you. Nothing. You weren't the reason he wasn't interested in sex, or self care, or anything. You weren't the reason he wasn't trying or didn't seem to care. He, and he alone is the reason for that. And it's also the reason the marriage is over. And that's ok. Accept that not all love in life is forever and value the lessons learned. You know what? Value the love you had for him too, cuz that was a step in who you are as a person. And it's good to acknowledge.
Tho, don't contact him, putting aside your family and husband, as I'm sure that if you be upfront with him and explain you just want closure he'll be supportive, it's not about ruining your marriage. Don't contact him for your own sake, because he won't have a good answer, nothing he could ever say will satisfy you. He could give any reason, at the end of the day you'll be left feeling unloved, because what you want him to do is fight for you, which he won't (or can't) do.