Can i ask what you love about her or how she contributes to the relationship? It doesn't sound like theres much room left in her life to be a good and contributing partner. Not financially, as a lover/partner/friend. She needs more help than you are able to give. Soon youll be in the hospital or dead yourself. Whats the next step?
Also, tell your boyfriend his jokes are hurting your feelings and he needs to stop. He told you there was a problem and you will get it taken care of. Enough said.
Betrayed and hurt seems like a bigger reaction than necessary. But your BF is kinda an idiot, and clearly doesn’t make you very happy. You sure you’re not looking for a reason to leave?
I just don't know how to approach the conversation because I have told him not to propose so many times that I worry telling him how to not propose or how to propose may come across to him as me telling him not to do it again.
I had to tell him when we were in high school or when we were long distance in college that it wasn't the best time to add that factor into our relationship as well as be planning a wedding on top of classes or while we weren't within a thousand miles of each other. To him we were in love and we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together so why not propose that's why you propose in general ignorant of these other factors. He is very quick to observe things and just assume they're fact which is the whole reason I have these fears because I've heard him make comments of like oh you like Disney. So many people get engaged in front of the castle because they like Disney. Or when we're watching TV shows every engagement ring is silver with diamonds. He talks about all the time how they look exactly the same and he gets excited when they look slightly different. But they're still silver with diamonds most of the time. So I know he has these observations and he just is always quick to put some observations together and ignore other observations. We can watch five episodes of the TV show that are essentially the same situation and plot and he will be surprised of the outcome every single time. However, if you asked him what an engagement ring looks like, I would bet that he says silver with diamonds and that like as if it's a fact. So I'm just not sure how to start that conversation, especially because he is assumed it's as a fact that has to be 100% of a surprise because most engagements have some surprise factor. That's the part you mainly see when people share their announcements online or on TV. I love him but he is so naive socially in some ways and I just don't know how to start that conversation and that's the piece I really need advice on.
This better not be a troll post
My biological father didn't check up on me. I had a great dad and a great life.
The last thing I'd ever want is for him to have turned up and started a lawsuit later on and just fucked up my life.
I am not going to stand in the way of two lovers, hopefully his wife also understands. They clearly want to be with each other.
Can i ask what you love about her or how she contributes to the relationship? It doesn't sound like theres much room left in her life to be a good and contributing partner. Not financially, as a lover/partner/friend. She needs more help than you are able to give. Soon youll be in the hospital or dead yourself. Whats the next step?
I’m sorry..:but I’d be mad too. Do you have any idea how painful those work things are? Unless he said you can have one, you shouldn’t assume
Just trying to see if she was misinterpreting something. The way you put it out there makes her sound crazy.
Ugh like OMG ugh gross that's so ugh.
Also, tell your boyfriend his jokes are hurting your feelings and he needs to stop. He told you there was a problem and you will get it taken care of. Enough said.
Same suite in an airbnb? We need more info like what does he do for work? Is this a legit business trip or a vacation?
You make it sound like a vacation in your post in which case I'll agree with all the other comments.
Your are old enough to find an adult to partner up with… Just saying
I'm getting a strong vibe it's the latter.
Betrayed and hurt seems like a bigger reaction than necessary. But your BF is kinda an idiot, and clearly doesn’t make you very happy. You sure you’re not looking for a reason to leave?
“I’ve felt this way for a while” how long is a while in two years?
Leave him
I just don't know how to approach the conversation because I have told him not to propose so many times that I worry telling him how to not propose or how to propose may come across to him as me telling him not to do it again.
I had to tell him when we were in high school or when we were long distance in college that it wasn't the best time to add that factor into our relationship as well as be planning a wedding on top of classes or while we weren't within a thousand miles of each other. To him we were in love and we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together so why not propose that's why you propose in general ignorant of these other factors. He is very quick to observe things and just assume they're fact which is the whole reason I have these fears because I've heard him make comments of like oh you like Disney. So many people get engaged in front of the castle because they like Disney. Or when we're watching TV shows every engagement ring is silver with diamonds. He talks about all the time how they look exactly the same and he gets excited when they look slightly different. But they're still silver with diamonds most of the time. So I know he has these observations and he just is always quick to put some observations together and ignore other observations. We can watch five episodes of the TV show that are essentially the same situation and plot and he will be surprised of the outcome every single time. However, if you asked him what an engagement ring looks like, I would bet that he says silver with diamonds and that like as if it's a fact. So I'm just not sure how to start that conversation, especially because he is assumed it's as a fact that has to be 100% of a surprise because most engagements have some surprise factor. That's the part you mainly see when people share their announcements online or on TV. I love him but he is so naive socially in some ways and I just don't know how to start that conversation and that's the piece I really need advice on.