Sounds like a controlling partner. Might want to rethink how healthy you guys are. It'd be really stupid to get mad at someone for touching themselves since i can only control my own body.
1) You’ve been dating for 2 weeks and you’ve only known eachother for 3 months, there is no way you two have passed the “rose colored glasses” stage of your relationship. What I mean is that you two think you’re perfect, and that nothing can/will go wrong, when it totally can. Just be weary of any possible tint on your reality (this goes for both sides) that could possibly sway you into thinking a certain way. (Also friendly note of advice: stop talking like y’all are each other’s miracle drug. Everyone has issues, but you just may not see them within 3 months.)
2) If you two love each other the way you describe in your post, you two need to sit down and talk like adults. Just talk about stressors and possible ways around them, talk about whatever needs to be said in order to feel okay, talk about whatever can solve your issues. If nothing can, then talk about taking a break until you’re both okay, but that should be your last course of action.
3) You have to understand that, at some point, your gf’s anxieties are not yours. She’s stressed about school and where she is in life when (maybe) you aren’t stressed about those things. Just give her a helping hand when she asks for it and be there for her.
To be honest those kids are probably tired of watching their dad bring in partners. I know you love your man, but these are his kids at the end of the day. And until you give him the ultimatum of where this relationship is going, the behavior from them will continue. You got to know where you stand and right now, your just the dads new partner. You are not their mother, but that doesn't mean you can't be one to them in the future. But until then, id give yourself some distance from the relationship and ask him where does he see this going. Cause if your goal is to want kids, it may not bode well for this relationship as the behavior could ramp up in the kids. Also, he may not want more kids. It's ok to leave a relationship if it's not going to become more. Your 23, he's 40. Time to sit down and cut the BS and ask serious questions about your future in this relationship.
I think you need to talk to him. He needs to recommit to his sobriety. Look up NA meetings near your location that he can go to. Make it a deal breaker.
First, your wife would not be okay with you sleeping with another man. She only says that because she needs it so her own argument is valid and because she knows that you will not act on it.
Second point, I always find it mindblowing, how some partners think that it is not cheating if they tell their partner they plan/want to sleep with someone else. It is like say” Thanks for the support and that you are there for me. By the way I expect you to shut up while I am steping outside our marriage and sleep around. Also you have to be okay with that, because I told you before, so now I proclaim myself guiltfree”
The message wasn’t to both of them. It was to her and referenced him.
All I’m saying is that you can’t say one lie is wrong and the other isn’t. I personally think they’re both in the wrong and should just call it out, call it a wash, move forward, and be better in the future.
Your schooling comes before any man and any man will respect that
Your so young and have so much a head of you don’t give up on schooling for some guy especially when you guys most likely won’t work out
People nowadays don’t get married etc until late 30s this isn’t 1960s lol
Sounds like a controlling partner. Might want to rethink how healthy you guys are. It'd be really stupid to get mad at someone for touching themselves since i can only control my own body.
1) You’ve been dating for 2 weeks and you’ve only known eachother for 3 months, there is no way you two have passed the “rose colored glasses” stage of your relationship. What I mean is that you two think you’re perfect, and that nothing can/will go wrong, when it totally can. Just be weary of any possible tint on your reality (this goes for both sides) that could possibly sway you into thinking a certain way. (Also friendly note of advice: stop talking like y’all are each other’s miracle drug. Everyone has issues, but you just may not see them within 3 months.)
2) If you two love each other the way you describe in your post, you two need to sit down and talk like adults. Just talk about stressors and possible ways around them, talk about whatever needs to be said in order to feel okay, talk about whatever can solve your issues. If nothing can, then talk about taking a break until you’re both okay, but that should be your last course of action.
3) You have to understand that, at some point, your gf’s anxieties are not yours. She’s stressed about school and where she is in life when (maybe) you aren’t stressed about those things. Just give her a helping hand when she asks for it and be there for her.
To be honest those kids are probably tired of watching their dad bring in partners. I know you love your man, but these are his kids at the end of the day. And until you give him the ultimatum of where this relationship is going, the behavior from them will continue. You got to know where you stand and right now, your just the dads new partner. You are not their mother, but that doesn't mean you can't be one to them in the future. But until then, id give yourself some distance from the relationship and ask him where does he see this going. Cause if your goal is to want kids, it may not bode well for this relationship as the behavior could ramp up in the kids. Also, he may not want more kids. It's ok to leave a relationship if it's not going to become more. Your 23, he's 40. Time to sit down and cut the BS and ask serious questions about your future in this relationship.
I think you need to talk to him. He needs to recommit to his sobriety. Look up NA meetings near your location that he can go to. Make it a deal breaker.
my ribs are hurting from laughing so hard
First, your wife would not be okay with you sleeping with another man. She only says that because she needs it so her own argument is valid and because she knows that you will not act on it.
Second point, I always find it mindblowing, how some partners think that it is not cheating if they tell their partner they plan/want to sleep with someone else. It is like say” Thanks for the support and that you are there for me. By the way I expect you to shut up while I am steping outside our marriage and sleep around. Also you have to be okay with that, because I told you before, so now I proclaim myself guiltfree”
Adults should know that they need to clean themselves regularly
The message wasn’t to both of them. It was to her and referenced him.
All I’m saying is that you can’t say one lie is wrong and the other isn’t. I personally think they’re both in the wrong and should just call it out, call it a wash, move forward, and be better in the future.