But is this because you know you come home to a clean and welcoming house? You know your pets are taken care of, the bills are paid, the errands are finished? Are your clothes cleaned? Are the bed sheets fresh? The fridge is full?
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There's some great advice here, but I'll also add: what can she do to decrease your collective workload? Are there things that you're doing that she could manage? For example, paying bills, scheduling vet appointments, managing contractors, ordering groceries, placing an online drug store order, getting DoorDash once or twice per week, etc.? While it's important to recognize her physical limitations, there's a lot of random life stuff that needs to get done that she could manage with disabilities.
Sounds to me like you just gotta buck up and ask. Coming from someone whos always been shy ( not really shy anymore but mostly because my wife gives me confidence) you miss 100% of the shots you dont take and people who get things they want in life 1st have to have the courage to ask for it.
My brothers ex girlfriend was like your wife, and he too felt like you, one year he gave her a jar with little notes in it, and every Wednesday he had her pick a note from that jar, the notes were what they were going to do that weekend(had her pick mid week just in case they needed a sitter) they went rock climbing, white water rafting. A theme park close to us dinner and movie in, midnight picnic. He had all of the family and her family and friends fill the jar. It was quite fun for them. And they had a blast! And he always took a picture from the outings and gave her a photo album when the last piece of paper came out of the jar. May not help you this birthday but just a suggestion for the future.
Sure.
But is this because you know you come home to a clean and welcoming house? You know your pets are taken care of, the bills are paid, the errands are finished? Are your clothes cleaned? Are the bed sheets fresh? The fridge is full?
Do you know what you have?
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He can't talk about it (with you) because it's always been too volatile a subject for him to even think about in a clear-minded way.
This perfectly sums it up!
There's some great advice here, but I'll also add: what can she do to decrease your collective workload? Are there things that you're doing that she could manage? For example, paying bills, scheduling vet appointments, managing contractors, ordering groceries, placing an online drug store order, getting DoorDash once or twice per week, etc.? While it's important to recognize her physical limitations, there's a lot of random life stuff that needs to get done that she could manage with disabilities.
You don't have time for a relationship. You're basically complaining because your gf wants to spend time with you.
I found out on Instagram that she was in contact with her ex after she “blocked” him months ago. I’m not sure if I want to go back to that
Sounds to me like you just gotta buck up and ask. Coming from someone whos always been shy ( not really shy anymore but mostly because my wife gives me confidence) you miss 100% of the shots you dont take and people who get things they want in life 1st have to have the courage to ask for it.
I don't have any helpful advice, but I'd bet you could get some over in r/deadbedroom.
Be honest with him. If he cannot respect that, end it.
My brothers ex girlfriend was like your wife, and he too felt like you, one year he gave her a jar with little notes in it, and every Wednesday he had her pick a note from that jar, the notes were what they were going to do that weekend(had her pick mid week just in case they needed a sitter) they went rock climbing, white water rafting. A theme park close to us dinner and movie in, midnight picnic. He had all of the family and her family and friends fill the jar. It was quite fun for them. And they had a blast! And he always took a picture from the outings and gave her a photo album when the last piece of paper came out of the jar. May not help you this birthday but just a suggestion for the future.