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Get that man a gift card to a popular lunch place and call it a day so he can go on his own time without you. Either that or just make it clear that it’s not on any funny business. His response does seem like he was unsure of why you wanted to take him to lunch and like he’s uninterested if you are trying to ask because you also like him.
How many decent men do you know that marry strippers??
Your husband is a fucking baby who doesn't know how to communicate
That totally makes sense however I have seen that things have changed contextually for circumstances in relevance to each women’s preferences in how she chooses to express her status.
This sounds super fishy. I would refuse to go with the sister and potentially consider ending the relationship, because this sounds like she is immature and putting you to test. Before you waste more time in this relationship, better to cut your losses and move on.
Just leave. Free yourself. Yes it hurts but aren't you hurting now?
he actually was. giving me flowers, surprising me with gifts, taking me out to dates. now that person i know is just.. gone. and i'll be gone too
Thank you!
she'll be furious though. the first question she asked
And thats why you're divorcing her. Stay strong with it and move on. Good luck.
I have to agree with you here. They aren’t always mutually exclusive. The difference imo though is follow through. Without follow through a boundary is really just a threat. If bf says “if you smoke weed, I will break up with you” and actually does, it’s a boundary. If he doesn’t, but instead uses it as a way to keep her from smoking by constantly threatening it but never doing it, it’s controlling.
I think whether or not the boundary is reasonable is up for debate regardless, and imo “I will not smoke weed, but you can do as you please recreationally” is a healthier boundary to have here, but I digress
I’ve hard an ex like this, it was always my job to take care of her when she cried… which was multiple times a week.
A person should not put their entire emotion burden on their partner all the time, it’s not healthy for the both of them. He 100% needs therapy.
Why? He’s caring and trusting otherwise
i'm so sorry she was so mean! 5 inches is imo perfectly avarage btw??? but even if it wasnt, she had no business commenting on such a senstivie topic, i don't think she would have liked it very much if you'd told her you thought her boobs were small. i'm so sorry she treated you like this. not all women are this childish and straight up mean
She was body shaming you. Intentionally.
She’s not the one OP. Good people don’t do that.
It shouldn't be some big revelation that the act doesn't last long.
I was sort of thinking that too. They're on their way to work and OP reveals that he's a “textbook” case of PE. I'm sure she wasn't expecting that conversation first thing in the morning, and also like… no shit. They've been together for eight years. She knows.
There's a lot going on here, and I think they could benefit from a bit of marriage counseling to work on communication. But I also think OP could benefit from some individual counseling, since he seems to be more focused on his PE than he is on all the various ways to have great sex without involving a penis at all.
Run. Get away from him now. Move home if he knows where you live Change your phone number ASAP Talk to your local police about you being groomed for possible trafficking
It's absolutely abuse and super toxic. Also if it's 3 minutes of foreplay it sounds like shitty sex anyway. I really don't fucking get these dudes. But also please ladies help yourselves, if your man is terrible in bed sit home down and tell him and try to encourage him to get better and do what you like or need. And if he doesn't, leave.
Where does that common ground exist. You tell me?
Trying to find something that doesn’t live in the world of reality is code for “I’m making this breakup harder for myself than it needs to be”.
Unless you are willing to convert, this is already over and done with.
He will not leave. Hopefully you would want to him to prioritize his relationship with the people who raised him to be who he is and has loved all his life. Him leaving that behind, ain’t happening.
Even if you do convert, doing it for this reason is signing up to be absolutely gobsmackingly miserable. The sheer amount or time, energy, and money you would have to look past giving would effect you negatively, you don’t hold value in the same principles.
You chose a situation that you just learned was impossible.
You chose when you end having to hurt about this.
She no longer wants to be a mom? Well tough luck this isn't a pet. You cant just dump it back into adoption and not be responsible anymore. This is kind of a little disgusting. She shouldn't have been a mom in the first place with that attitude. Once you choose to bring a life, you can't be selfish anymore and need to have a certain level of responsibility and commitment. It just sounds like a very immature person who made a care free decision and wants to just take it back. What a great way to ruin a kid's life. She can do whatever she wants with her own life, but its extremely selfish and disgusting if it comes at the cost of f***ing over two kids lives because she doesn't feel like it anymore. She thinks being part of the girls active life is going to compensate with her giving up most of her responsibilities as a mom? Her not wanting to be a spouse is fine. Her not wanting to be a mom is just an example of immaturity and irresponsibility.
she no longer wanted to be a mom or a spouse anymore and that she wanted to be on her own.
I hope you're a troll. if not then wow, you are a mind-blowing shitty person.
A therapist not pointing out the toxic and abusive nature of his behavior would be remiss in their duty as his therapist to help him be a better person.
Yeah you're right, I must have just wrote this to let it out and possibly seek out for opinions
Okay honestly I am on the flipside of this so maybe my perspective will help. My (24f) husband (25m) and I have been together for 5 years, married for 3 months. I’ve casually brought the idea of a somewhat open relationship or swinging up to him once or twice for basically the same reasons your girlfriend said. I can tell from what she said that it’s genuinely not about you or that you’re not meeting her needs. If anything it sounds more to me like she loves you very much and wants to keep your relationship together but also wants to have all of her needs met. It sounds like you only have 3 options: – Stay together sans-open relationship and risk her growing unhappy/resentful. OR you could be more intentional to spice up your relationship and do fun, new, exciting things together – Stay together and open your relationship and you do your own work to learn to be okay with it or gain a new perspective. Either that or you still don’t like it and it leads to you being unhappy and resenting her – Break up now
Honesty I just came here to add my 2 cents tnat i don’t think what she said had anything to do with you or your relationship. It seems like a lot of the other commenters are kinda shutting on her and saying she s already done something, but from my perspective, I see someone fighting to make their relationship work in a way that can work for them. You just have to decide if you can make it for you, too
Hope this helps!
There are so many false assumptions here. There isn’t only one right person. Moving slow is no guarantee of future success or compatibility.
No but moving too fast is a good way to end up with commitments based on temporary feelings.
Tell him to bow out, get over it, or you'll bow out. It's that simple.
Yeah, you’re right.
I know it is serious, and it’s something I’m working on. I’ve seen therapists about this issue. And that’s a really good point, he’s a great person to practice this with. If there’s anyone I can do it with, it’s him. Thanks.
Don’t let people ruin your peace. You may love her but you cannot allow people to ruin your inner peace. Is she brings this much stress to your life it may be time to let her go. Sometimes letting people go is what they need to grow as well. It could be the best thing for the both of you. Stay strong.
Don’t marry him
Yes. I posted on a throw away just to come reveal my true identity here on my main.
You really are fond of stupid theories aren't you.
From an economical point, this is just the right time to act.
Your kids are all grown, they are not as dependant on their father anymore.
Since you are married for 20 years, this is time you are supposed to prepare for your retirement and medical issues will slowly begin to creep in.
However, since he has many other mouths to feed on, he will take and take and take and will leave you destitude and alone. He already sounds like a torture to live with it will get worse. This is the perfect time to jump from this sunken ship, you are free now.
Dont worry about his denial, all cheaters deny everything at first, it is a wonder you managed to find this much evidence in the first place. Then they blame/say they are sorry/get angry etc. It is a well known scripts, all cheaters behave similar.
Hire a private detective, they will give you full report in a week. Go to court and destroy him.
Dont worry about your kids reaction do you honestly think they are so selfish to demand you to stay married when your husband has stolen from them and gave all that money to affair kids? How do you think they will react when they find out their college money is gone?
Really?
His parents opinions are not worth the paper it is written. He is their son, they will always support him, they dont have a choice.
Sleep seperate
Please don't go back to him. If you do and you get older, you will have a hard forgiving yourself for that mistake.
It's how crazy works. You get so caught up in the drama you forget how to just say no, and lose ground on boundaries. Good on you man for choosing better for yourself.
When is her birthday? If it’s soon, start planning a big 30th birthday bash complete with « happy 30th birthday Kierra » lawn sign. If it’s not, throw a 29 1/2 and dreading 30! Birthday party and do the same. Invite everyone and proclaim her age loid and proud.
Send her that “damn bitch you live like this” meme
Thanks. I think you got most of it perfectly. I hope we can talk it out soon.
N’aw. Just be honest with her. She’s probably blaming herself and feeling terrible, but now you have something to bond over and can plan your next steps together.
Also, I don’t know if this helps at all, but my dad was told exactly the same thing and… well, here I am. Some kids are just REAL fricking stubborn about insisting they get born. ?
I’m afraid of him hurting himself. That’s what’s been keeping me there.
Child support comes with a custody agreement. You get to see your daughter
Why do you fear court?
Get a plan together and execute. Being trapped and depressed isn’t helping.
No? If an adult can’t have an important albeit uncomfortable convo with their spouse, they are failing their duties as a partner. Just because she doesn’t like it does not mean she can refuse to discuss things or ever have disagreements.
How would you feel if your partner avoided any disagreement by immediately being ill and ignored your concerns?
That’s quite a lie. There’s nothing to be done except ask him what else he’s lying about.
Thanks a lot ? for your advice
100% depends on the judge but most of the time it doesn’t affect much. I work in domestic law. I’ve straight up seen numerous judges and commissioners blatantly tell people it doesn’t matter and doesn’t affect rulings. I’ve actually seen more people get reprimanded by the court for how they’re acting in the divorce due to infidelity by the other party than the infidelity itself affect the proceedings.
Manipulation of kids is taken way more seriously in domestic law than infidelity.
Do your thing. Just as it’s not your job to atone for the sins of his girlfriends past, it’s not your job to manage his insecurities.
The most you can do is be up front and honest, don’t start lying about perfectly normal interactions with coworkers because you’re afraid of his response.
Reassure him that you love him, but don’t get involved in defending and justifying that you’re a normal human person who interacts with friends and colleagues.
If he can’t deal with it, this probably isn’t going to work out.
Weird to keep making up stuff that wasn’t in this post just to make yourself feel better, whys that exactly?
So he lied and manipulated you to stay with him. Now she’s 7 months along and the baby is almost here, he hopes that he has sunk his claws in you enough to convince you to stay in this shitty situation.
Word of advice- leave him. Make more friends. Live a wonderful life
You should tell your boyfriend about your past sex work.
If he can't accept this information then he's not for you. Sounds like you already don't trust him, tbh.
Go get Plan B now!
OP's other child, a daughter, has also cut her off and she has 2 kids so that's 2 more grandkids OP will not see grow up.
Break up, you clearly hate the poor guy.
The whole point of it is to have a little bit of time by herself enjoying a pint on her own before she goes home.
I think since this is the only man i’ve ever been with since i was 15 my judgement is completely skewed bc this is all i know :(((
Umm.
Do you own a pair of running shoes?
If ever there was a time to put them on and use them, this surely must be it.
I have ADHD. I use LOTS of coping mechanisms to function like a mostly normal adult in a relationship. I think if I can make the effort to take his wants and needs into account he should be able to do the same for me.
I'd cry too if someone was yelling at me every month.
Oh snap!
it should not have to be brought up more than once. saying that it physically hurts her should be enough for him to not do it again, unless he's a piece of shit who enjoys hurting his partner.