This was a common thing until relatively recently. My parents have photos of us (their children only) in the tub and there was never any sexual abuse. Most of the people I know would probably tell you the same. I wouldn't automatically draw a line from that to sexual abuse.
That said, other information scattered throughout OP's replies make the possibility of sexual abuse much higher and it should be taken seriously. She should get the kid tested, if that is still a possibility, talk to a lawyer, and press charges if appropriate.
Some of these comments are really harsh and not empathetic. It seems like you recognize the situation you are in and are choosing to prioritize yourself and leave. This is a very difficult situation to be in alone, i am sorry to hear that you don’t have more support. I hope that you are able to heal and find a better situation and people who are not going to treat you like this. Take care of yourself.
Why/how did the 10-year relationship with your ex end?
You're almost certainly right that you jumped into things too quickly with your husband, but you're married now and there's value in trying to stick it out if you can. I think it's it's own issue separate of your non-closure of the previous LTR to evaluate whether this one is a good relationship worth salvaging vs if you're really just not that compatible.
Dude, you need to ask her. If it breaks up your relationship then good.
A little mustard
WHY IS NO ONE TALKING ABOUT HE HAS NUDE PHOTOS
This was a common thing until relatively recently. My parents have photos of us (their children only) in the tub and there was never any sexual abuse. Most of the people I know would probably tell you the same. I wouldn't automatically draw a line from that to sexual abuse.
That said, other information scattered throughout OP's replies make the possibility of sexual abuse much higher and it should be taken seriously. She should get the kid tested, if that is still a possibility, talk to a lawyer, and press charges if appropriate.
I think you're really that cold and she was starving for intimacy. I think you're incompatible and it's not good in the long run.
She’s proven that she can’t be trusted. Block her and find someone that actually cares about you and won’t cheat on you or break your boundaries.
No response is a response, to leave her alone.
Some of these comments are really harsh and not empathetic. It seems like you recognize the situation you are in and are choosing to prioritize yourself and leave. This is a very difficult situation to be in alone, i am sorry to hear that you don’t have more support. I hope that you are able to heal and find a better situation and people who are not going to treat you like this. Take care of yourself.
Don't marry into this family, OP, what are you doing?
This man is going to abduct and murder your children and then tell you it was a prank.
Or am i being stupid?
Why/how did the 10-year relationship with your ex end?
You're almost certainly right that you jumped into things too quickly with your husband, but you're married now and there's value in trying to stick it out if you can. I think it's it's own issue separate of your non-closure of the previous LTR to evaluate whether this one is a good relationship worth salvaging vs if you're really just not that compatible.