How dare I enjoy that oppressive thing while encouraging my wife to break from gender norms and take a shot at being the bread winner. What an absolutely oppressive patriarchal thing for me to do.
By your same logic, is my wife not allowed to be proud that she was a sole provider to her husband and children for 6 months?
Thank you…wow I needed to hear all of this. That all seems very spot on.. you’re right that I should’ve worded it differently when I initiated the talk, but in the end it wouldn’t have mattered what I said. And I would’ve still needed to express myself because I’ve hit a breaking point.
I don’t know why he belittles me and stays with me if it’s such an issue of me being inexperienced/non-compatible, you know? Like, why tell your s/o that… I’ve never told him anything like that before, I don’t get it.
I need to look into trauma bond more, because it sounds like it could be what’s going on and open my eyes..You’re right I have been alienated from my friends & family, it was especially worse when we first started talking. I don’t even have much social media and barely post on the ones I do because of the things I was accused of.
Just thank you I really appreciate you. It’s all really hard to hear but I need to hear it
I would love it if he would just intuit everything that needs to be done. But his standards are different than mine,
C'mon….tons of people have different standards. However, you sit down, you learn about each other's point of view….and once you realise where the differences are, you start working on it, you start trying to find a healthy compromise, so that it's not an ongoing issue.
I wish I could say that he magically takes notice of stuff, but…he doesn't. So I'm hoping that if there are visual cues, it might help him see things, notice, and perhaps be more accountable over time.
OP….he's not a project. If HE wanted to work on this issue, he WOULD make an effort. He would approach you, he would try figuring out how he could make things easier on you.
He is not the first one saying that, he’s lying. This is all like a sad uncreative circle of life
Get a good lawyer 1st. Contact several in the area for a consultation.
How dare I enjoy that oppressive thing while encouraging my wife to break from gender norms and take a shot at being the bread winner. What an absolutely oppressive patriarchal thing for me to do.
By your same logic, is my wife not allowed to be proud that she was a sole provider to her husband and children for 6 months?
Thank you…wow I needed to hear all of this. That all seems very spot on.. you’re right that I should’ve worded it differently when I initiated the talk, but in the end it wouldn’t have mattered what I said. And I would’ve still needed to express myself because I’ve hit a breaking point.
I don’t know why he belittles me and stays with me if it’s such an issue of me being inexperienced/non-compatible, you know? Like, why tell your s/o that… I’ve never told him anything like that before, I don’t get it.
I need to look into trauma bond more, because it sounds like it could be what’s going on and open my eyes..You’re right I have been alienated from my friends & family, it was especially worse when we first started talking. I don’t even have much social media and barely post on the ones I do because of the things I was accused of.
Just thank you I really appreciate you. It’s all really hard to hear but I need to hear it
I don't believe that he doesn't have more; he got upset when you held the phone too long, maybe he thought you were finding the ithers.
and she still loves me.
lol
It hasn’t bothered me really. The thought of pregnancy is what’s really bothering me lol 🙁
I would love it if he would just intuit everything that needs to be done. But his standards are different than mine,
C'mon….tons of people have different standards. However, you sit down, you learn about each other's point of view….and once you realise where the differences are, you start working on it, you start trying to find a healthy compromise, so that it's not an ongoing issue.
I wish I could say that he magically takes notice of stuff, but…he doesn't. So I'm hoping that if there are visual cues, it might help him see things, notice, and perhaps be more accountable over time.
OP….he's not a project. If HE wanted to work on this issue, he WOULD make an effort. He would approach you, he would try figuring out how he could make things easier on you.
Do you mean by her stepdad? I don't get how the fuck can her mom be okay with this shit
Congrats on being a shit friend
Bit late to be telling her to backoff
No 100% not. Tell him to go Fuck himxelf