I'm not going to judge the choice you're making. I am actually going to give advice.
First. Get tested. For STDs. Genetic disorders, mutations, both of you.
Second, sign a contract. Get it notarized. Certify it in court. No child support. No visits unless agreed upon. No spilling the beans on who fathered the child.
Third. Sign over all your rights. This is drastic. What if she's s horrible mom? You don't have rights to take the child or be in its life. That's the last resort.
I thought it's something serious, but she has just been in relationship with person your family wouldn't like cause ethnicity and religion. Why does this matter again?
Ethnicity itself us irrelevant, unless you are racist. Culture and religion can be very toxic, but just because some is involved in them in theory doesn't say anything. Values represented by your region of heritage and religion need not be shared by an individual(even if they are practiced by their parents)
Finally, really? Most young people date whoever seem interesting. This btw helps to get to know about reality of relationships and then make better decision in the future. You have both left their partnets for each other so don't be stuck-up.
No, you're not looking for a spiritual relationship. Because you're depriving him of emotional connection as well as basic needs. Every spiritual relationship, at the very least has emotional intimacy. Otherwise you're just roommates.
You're looking for a free ride in life while you do the bare minimum of taking care of your kids.
. I did my part in my 20s and 30s. That should count for something.
Tough shit, sweetheart. A relationship/marriage is an ongoing commitment. If you're bowing out of the relationship emotionally, mentally, and physically the very least you can do is be honest with yourself and allow him the divorce.
You can still coparent while your husband finds someone who actually is willing to satisfy his wants and needs.
He needs to see the bigger picture and disconnect from his emotional and biological urges.
He's not the one who needs a perspective change. You do. You're tied up in your one track mindset you're not seeing the damage you're actively doing to your family and relationship, instead blaming him which is horseshit and you know it. He provided everything you wanted and needed and now because you “paid your dues” he has to live a lie and have a loveless life and marriage? You want a spiritual relationship, go read a bible instead of forcing him into your dogma.
I'm not going to judge the choice you're making. I am actually going to give advice.
First. Get tested. For STDs. Genetic disorders, mutations, both of you.
Second, sign a contract. Get it notarized. Certify it in court. No child support. No visits unless agreed upon. No spilling the beans on who fathered the child.
Third. Sign over all your rights. This is drastic. What if she's s horrible mom? You don't have rights to take the child or be in its life. That's the last resort.
I thought it's something serious, but she has just been in relationship with person your family wouldn't like cause ethnicity and religion. Why does this matter again?
Ethnicity itself us irrelevant, unless you are racist. Culture and religion can be very toxic, but just because some is involved in them in theory doesn't say anything. Values represented by your region of heritage and religion need not be shared by an individual(even if they are practiced by their parents)
Finally, really? Most young people date whoever seem interesting. This btw helps to get to know about reality of relationships and then make better decision in the future. You have both left their partnets for each other so don't be stuck-up.
Something is up, my man.
He's probably giving you UTIs with his dirty dick.
No, you're not looking for a spiritual relationship. Because you're depriving him of emotional connection as well as basic needs. Every spiritual relationship, at the very least has emotional intimacy. Otherwise you're just roommates.
You're looking for a free ride in life while you do the bare minimum of taking care of your kids.
. I did my part in my 20s and 30s. That should count for something.
Tough shit, sweetheart. A relationship/marriage is an ongoing commitment. If you're bowing out of the relationship emotionally, mentally, and physically the very least you can do is be honest with yourself and allow him the divorce.
You can still coparent while your husband finds someone who actually is willing to satisfy his wants and needs.
He needs to see the bigger picture and disconnect from his emotional and biological urges.
He's not the one who needs a perspective change. You do. You're tied up in your one track mindset you're not seeing the damage you're actively doing to your family and relationship, instead blaming him which is horseshit and you know it. He provided everything you wanted and needed and now because you “paid your dues” he has to live a lie and have a loveless life and marriage? You want a spiritual relationship, go read a bible instead of forcing him into your dogma.
You sound like my mother at times
Because she's right. And you know it.
She likes you and I can 100% confirm this. make your move:)
He blocked my number. He doesn’t have social media.
Keeping the baby is YOUR decision. Keeping the husband? Also yours,but mom has a point.
There is no free speech in a private house. Don't be ridiculous.