This is a very basic incompatibility. He likes something that you don’t like. You also don’t like that he likes it. Incompatible, assuming it’s a deal breaker for you or him. Go separate ways. No one is hurt.
Now, the real issue is that he has become hostile towards you over your preference (not watching porn yourself) and a stated boundary (you insisting he no longer watch porn).
You could tell him something along the lines of “me or porn,” but relationship ultimatums rarely work out. And considering how he had reacted previously, all you’re doing is welcoming a dynamic into your relationship where he has to be sneaky about hiding the porn from you. Once you catch him the first time, you’ll never believe he actually quit.
Up to each individual of course, but for me there would be several hard boundaries broken and I would only stay with her if I had no self respect whatsoever.
Yeah I agree with you 100 percent. This disgusts me so much. I hope both op and her sister get the help they need. I hope they both seek therapy for this.
What is there to think about?
It's over. Put it out of your mind and focus on the future.
to where do they want her to move?
This is a very basic incompatibility. He likes something that you don’t like. You also don’t like that he likes it. Incompatible, assuming it’s a deal breaker for you or him. Go separate ways. No one is hurt.
Now, the real issue is that he has become hostile towards you over your preference (not watching porn yourself) and a stated boundary (you insisting he no longer watch porn).
You could tell him something along the lines of “me or porn,” but relationship ultimatums rarely work out. And considering how he had reacted previously, all you’re doing is welcoming a dynamic into your relationship where he has to be sneaky about hiding the porn from you. Once you catch him the first time, you’ll never believe he actually quit.
Wish him well and cut your losses.
Up to each individual of course, but for me there would be several hard boundaries broken and I would only stay with her if I had no self respect whatsoever.
Yeah I agree with you 100 percent. This disgusts me so much. I hope both op and her sister get the help they need. I hope they both seek therapy for this.
Holy shit, your wife is psycho. This is absolutely ridiculous.
I was thinking the same. Likely it wasn’t prescribed to them to begin with
Thank you, totally understand the droning and money part they just don’t stop.