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Date: October 13, 2022
I really wanted a massage pistol for a long time. When I told my partner I got one on black Friday sale he told me “please give it back, trust me”. Obviously the surprise is ruined but you should just communicate I guess.
Were you pregnant before the breakup? Did you have a plan then if you didn’t get back together?
What advantage are you referring to? You’re not married, the best you can hope for is child support and unless he’s a wealthy man isn’t gonna cut it especially with potentially three kids to pay for now.
Serious question: if your wife had an affair would you be okay with that? You sound like you truly don’t care about her.
Agree with what everyone says about socializing being a skill to be practiced.
That said, you might want to take some of that good paying engineering money and put it towards therapy. You might think you don't need it, but there is literally no downside to it other than a bit of money and an hour out of your week. They might know good strategies for socializing, and might help you learn about yourself better.
Therapists tend to have specialties, find one who talks about social anxiety and go from there. Therapists can be very busy so reach out to a few and don't get discouraged, it can take a while.
Ok . My advice for her is to start with ignoring all input like yours.
Poor babies got left out lol boo hoo…
I would've done the same thing…just goes to show who they consider…
Ok I read half of your post , this seems cheating .. he’s cheating on you with another woman .. your next move is to move on , that’s my advice to you .
That's pretty damn clear. What's also clear is you are clear as mud. You seem like your mind is made up to convert to Islam so it's not really clear what your question is here. You already seem to think it's a social club of Muslims, and it's not a big deal, so what's your actual question? Because it actually seems from your initial post that it was an actual existential faith-based question of conversion, but you seem pretty set on what to do since you seem hostile to any challenge to your idea of what it entails.
You don’t think that abuse victims can be vindictive towards their abusers? You don’t think they deserve to be a little vindictive? You’re hilarious.
Here’s a change if y’all break up..
.. oops I messed something up……….. And that’s it. Not hitting. No screaming. No fighting. No flinching. No more. It’s the best feeling ever. I was exactly here man.. but I am a girl. And if there’s one thing I know… the second my exes (make and female) put their hands on me it was over.. and me not leaving just prolonged the abuse and made it worse. Please make the best decision for yourself. I’m here for you.
Found OP’s aunt
I dunno man, you’re kind of talking about engagement like it’s something you do when your girlfriend bullies you into it, vs. when you’re both ready and excited.
My thoughts exactly. What Rose wants, Rose gets. It’s like he has no say in it.
You won’t like to hear this but……..girl it’s been only two weeks. This is called the cupcake phase where everything is amazing and they seem like the best person ever.
In the past I’ve been in a couple of FWB arrangements and so have some of my friends. And each time for all of us it had the same result, eventually one person would catch feelings and start to see it as much more than just sex……and the other person doesn’t. I don’t know of anyone who was FWB and ended up together, but I know a lot of people who either had their heart broken or broke someone else’s.
If you still think he might like you back wait a few months and then tell him. If you tell him now he could take it a few different ways. Generally speaking, revealing your feelings now would almost definitely send him far off in the other direction. There is a very high chance he sees you as a booty call and nothing else.
If you’re serious about it you should take it slow. A lot of guys who do FWB are very good at making the girls feel like absolute queens and treat them very well. They’ll even spend money on you. But it doesn’t mean they think of you as more than just a booty call. They might think of you as something more but that’s rarely the case.
Take a step back, breathe, get your head out of the clouds and be more realistic. I know the feeling of meeting a new guy and they are perfect and you can picture a future with them. But please, heed my advice and slow down. There is an incredibly small chance you are going to find your Prince Charming on Tinder.
I hope you have a pleasant day and I’m sorry if this burst your bubble, but if you were one of my friends this is exactly what I would say.
I don’t wanna throw away almost a decade relationship.
Do not fall for that suck cost fallacy bullshit, you need to leave NOW.
He's going to fucking kill you. You have been in a toxic, abusive relationship for god knows how long and it just escalated massively.
You can't forgive him. You shouldn't forgive him. You. Need. To. Leave.
Instead of focusing on the past, take a good hard look at what you have sitting in front of you. Live in that space. Screw the past. It’s only making you crazy.
Did she mention why? I can see how in her experience the men in her family and background the may have had traits or traditional beliefs she doesn’t like, and she thinks it’s harder to find Asian men who aren’t that way. My close friend avoids dating men of her own background for similar reasons. It’s unfortunate but doesn’t mean she’s a terrible person.
Nothing is being forced. He has my full love and support for his desicions about this. We are not engaged. And I told him the truth about what I want. I told him before he asked me to be his gf. And he still pursued… he has the freedom of choice here.
lol, what’s the point of being husband and wife if you’re going to date other people? On top of it, you have a kid! That kid is going to be so confused as to why other couples aren’t dating they people but you and your wife are. Listen, if you didn’t want this to happen, maybe you shouldn’t have an open relationship where your bring other guys and girls around your child. It will only confuse them like you and your wife are doing. You should have thought of this from the very beginning before allowing it to happen. I don’t get the point of “open relationships” anyway, like what’s the point of being husband and wife if you’re dating other people.
I'm sorry but it's tradition where my family invites my cousins and brother etc. over every year and they drive down and everyone has a get together. I've been doing this for 31 years, now it feels like because I'm in a relationship I have to give this up because she wants me at her families holiday.
I'll be honest in I compromise a lot in my relationship, but this is one of those things that I don't believe I am willing to compromise on.
Hmmm… so your BF might have been friends with Amy and POS before they started dating and when they broke up he picked a side? Idk just trying to rationalize that for you.
But to comment on the sexual talk? Unless she’s one of the boys and acts like a frat boy, she’s going overboard telling him all that stuff. I’m the girl with all guy friends and I don’t tell them shit because they are like my brothers and I’d vomit if they knew any of that stuff about me. IMO, she’s bad news and I would be feeling the same as you. Ask to meet her since she’s such a big part of his life. His reaction will tell you a lot.
I’d walk around naked if I were you. It’s vindictive but let your roommate be jealous of what she doesn’t have (you) while at the same time, make her uncomfortable. Make sure to record yourself like an influencer though with her in the frame at times so she doesn’t accuse you of sexual harassment
Well I am very sorry to hear this. That word is not nice, it is ugly. And you being physically and verbally assaulted is wrong. You are not any of those demeaning words.
I honestly feel like i am at that point of being ground down. It feels like its everything i do, she has to go behind me to fix it because it wasnt good enough to her. Its extremly frustrating. I do feel bad though because she did say she was going to scrub the tub. I just feel like either way she wouldnt have been happy though.
None of Emily’s story makes sense to me, and you were correct in breaking up with her. She didn’t even bother checking in on you after you were attacked. That’s bullshiate. Go no contact with her.
My other thought is to press charges on Mark for attacking you. He tried to kill you and would have at least done serious damage had his stomps landed on your head. If nothing else, get an order of protection against Mark, so that he is never around you again.
Make it clear to your friends that you never want to see Emily or Mark again.
Damn. That stings. My buddies woke me up at 12am on my 21st so I would take a shot of whiskey. 21 shots in 24 hours. 20 Years later I still remember that day. I was hung over by my 10am class. Still get misty thinking about it. Not friends, more like family.
Time to rethink your friends. Nothing wrong with starting from scratch.
It's been about an hour
It's been about an hour
It's been about an hour
Chill out.
Agreed. The number of people who are saying “get a divorce” or “she has to get an abortion because religion is stupid” scares me. I'm agnostic and pro-choice. But being pro-choice means just that: a woman should have the right to determine whether she carries an infant to term.
thanks for the advice. That's true just see someone as a potential friend. nothing more. I think the reason I also thought of going for it is that I was tired of always being the guy who doesn't take a chance. I always play it safe and I wanted to really put myself out there. It didn't work my way of course but I guess. Better luck next time.
You read a journal that apparently was left out where you could easily find it, next to other journals.
You've got no reason to feel bad. If they were private/sensitive they should have been locked up.
You're young. I'd drop this relationship like a hot rock and look for a woman that doesn't have a habit of sleeping with old boyfriends while they are seeing you.
What you could do differently is leave. This is an emotionally violent man who doesn’t give a shit about how his actions and behaviours hurt you. I’m guessing there’s a very good reason your family doesn’t like this guy. Why are you settling for someone so horrible?
Babe, you’re planning a wedding you didn’t even want to have.. and you’re being told you’re doing it wrong? This is a bright red neon sign showing you what your future will be like if you proceed. You will be responsible for everything, and expected to be telepathic and for some reason also be required to live up to his parents timelines.
I would trust your gut here. The reason it feels bad is because it is bad.
Yes. None of this was your fault. He manipulated you and forced himself on you. I'm sorry this has happened to you.
Are you for real rn
this- dont do it
Thanks for your comment…..I’m off to google Quasi-Stockholm syndrome to get a better understanding and maybe it will help sort my patheticness out a wee bit
You need to find a different counselor.
Baffles me too
You may want to go back to your OP and add that detail. The way you have it written now, a person can logically assume that you were involved with a man who was engaged, which according to you was not the case, the man was your bf, who took up with and married another woman.
Allright I'll look into it.
Thank you. Truly. I'm taking a copy of this and I'm going to read it again. It gave me some perspective. I think I will leave a simple written apology along with a potted plant. Telling Kate that I'm sorry for the way I treated her and her friend in my home. That neither of them deserved it and I hope she understands that it had nothing to do with either of them. I was out of line. I don't want this to seem like a gesture to become friends, but rather friendly neighbors. You had great advice, does the plant seem like too much? Again, thank you!
This may be why she sympathizes. Ough.
He feels ashamed himself. He probably feels as though he has betrayed his faith in some way.
He’s projection this onto you instead of taking accountability for his own actions, desires, “sins”, etc.
Source: Grew up Catholic. Left faith.
this is absolutely not about you.
he is going through something you can't handle, can't deal with and honestly should not be expected to deal with his crippling mental health.
this needs to be about him getting help, not about you feeling slighted. He needs help.
He isn't ready to be with you, and you know that.
and for gods sake, don't go in to his house or his friends and start talking about how he made you feel, and how upset you are over this, and how you don't feel comfy about his ex anymore. He needs help, not you. you can survive this, you aren't shutting down, you aren't locking everyone out of your life.
Thank you for this advice
Get it together man. Have some self love. You shouldn't blame yourself for this. Or else people will keep walking over you.
You were already staying at home all the time and didn't have any friends apart from the gf/wives of his friends. You didn't notice the controlling behavior because you just put yourself into that isolated spot to begin with. Now that you've taken yourself out of that, he's mad and wants you to go back.
Good points, nice to see a little bit of variation on this post lol.
And what happens if she gives very eager and enthusiastic consent, while really intoxicated?
We have discussed all of these things. I know it’s not their responsibility to support me through college but that was the promise they made when I started. I am even graduating a year earlier saving them a bunch of money. The only reason they have made this choice is because of who I am marrying and the fact that I am not inviting them to the wedding.
Ultimately it was her money to spend as she wants. But the way she spends it says a lot about how she views you, and your relationship. If she just set aside 10% of the money her parents were sending you, you would have had more than enough to put a down payment on a house and pay off a decent chunk. She could have helped you with your bills, either directly or by offering to let you pay less towards household bills. She could have put it towards the wedding.
Instead, she chose to buy pointless shit like a 20k ring. You know where things currently stand. You know where you and your relationship stand. If you want to make things work, you need to have a clear discussion of the financial situation moving forward, and she needs therapy to address her shopping addiction.
Yeah I wouldn’t be down with that so you’re not crazy. Up to you how you wanna handle it good luck
Are you okay with him having female friends? (If he has any)
Thank you. I wish there were some silver bullet here. I don't even know where to start.
Never, ever put your dick in anyone that says the pull out method will work just fine…
If you decide to go for it, congrats on being a daddy at some point
I literally made a post saying just this in r/unpopular_opinions and was subsequently downvoted to oblivion. I was thinking back on it the other day and realized that I got engaged at 20 years old… like what was I doing.